Ok i have a fear of being raped....?

Question

...Im 15...i had a banquet for band...an ex was there...He didnt rape me but he touched me....And i dont know how to quit worrying...Everyone,all my friends were there.and no1 saw or did nething...We danced,And he kissed me on my chest and i had to try rele hard to get him away and off me....And i walk ed over so he could apologize and he pulled me back towardds him and i couldnt get up......It all was ****** up but i wasnt scared until i walked over to help find his sister's song,she walked away tho and left us...He put his hand on my leg...and slid it up...I froze up.... everyone was right there....I feel like this is all my fault....Im finally ready to speak up but dont know how...It seems so dumb....PLease Help Me In anyway you Know............

Answer 1

LOUD FOR CRYING OUT LOUD , GIRL BE AGRESSIVE

Answer 2

Your absolutely right to fear being raped, girl. Girls of ALL ages get raped all the time all across America. you're so stupid it defies belief. He kisses your chest and after you get away you go BACK to him so he can APOLOGIZE!! He-l girl. He just thought you liked it and came back for more.If you had been alone, you would have been raped for sure. I have no doubt that if you don't start using your effin brain, you will be raped in the future. Still, girl. Being naive is not a crime. So I'll tell you exactly what to do. Call the police. Report the incident. Tell them this guys name and his address if you can. Tell them you were scared shitless and that's why you didn't report it sooner. Tell them his phone number if you know it. Beg the police to talk to him and put a stop to his behavior. Right now, the guys thinking he got away with it and he's thinking he'll take it further next time. A visit or a call from the police will be like a cold bucket of water thrown in his face. He will stop thinking of you as a victim and start thinking of the possibility of jailtime. Most importantly, the same way he's been telling all his guy friends about how he touched your boobs and felt your pus-y, marking you as a victim, is the same way he'll tell everybody that bi-ch called the police on him, unmarking you and letting everyone know not to do stuff like that to you. I don't think anything will happen to him, but he will get scared hearing from the police and that's whats important. I think you're too dumb to take my advice and will probably be a victim in the future, but you never know. Miracles do happen.

Answer 3

Never fear rape in a room full of people. You need to open your mouth and either scream or LOUDLY tell him to take his hands off of you! Get the attention of anyone you can! Start carrying around a rape whistle (or any loud whistle or air horn) and if he approaches you on the street and/or when you're alone, blow that sucker and do anything you can to get someones attention. Don't go places alone, and always remain alert. If you get a really bad feeling from anyone, remove yourself from the situation immediately - your gut is seldom wrong. Better to be a little embarrassed by over reacting than it would be to be raped. Tell someone about ANY unwanted attention you receive. Good luck! Stay safe!

Answer 4

First of all this is not your fault, and second, u need to tell someone. weather it be your mom, or your dad, or your doctor, or a teaher or someone. when people think they can gtet away with hurting u or making u feel unconfortable, they will more then likely do it again. prevent him from doing it again. tell an adult u know. and if u see him go to a group of people. ALWAYS SAY THE WORD NO! if u don't say it, they think it will be ok.
i am sorry this happened to u. u now need to take further action. don't be afraid!

Answer 5

First off hun: it wasn't your fault! Remember that for the rest of your life, you didn't do anything to make him do something like that to you.

How old is he? If he is over 18 you could get him into some serious trouble. I think you could still get him for sexual harrassment charges. Tell your mother what happened. If you can't talk to your mother or another quardian you trust. Find an adult you can go to. They can help you contact authorities if possible.

Answer 6

Well I have a tip if you ever find yourself being raped, If your backward and he is towards your back. (If your wearing heels all the better) Kick him in the knee really hard backwards and his knee cap should break. You'll be surprised how a backwards kick can do lol. But yea you should get one of those things that doesn't let him get near you. You don't need a parental consent, atleast not in California to get one of those.

Answer 7

You should talk to your parents, if not them, then another trusted adult.

Second, don't walk toward him for an apology or anything else. Stay away from him, even in a crowd! If he does touch you inappropriately say in a really loud, confident voice, "STOP! DON'T DO THAT! I SAID NO!!!"

Answer 8

If you ever get scared like that again, scream you little head off. Either your friends aren't your friends and you should start hanging out with other people that wouldn't let you get raped, and wouldn't try and sexually harass you, or you didn't make it clear enough that you didn't want that attention.

Answer 9

First of all, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. don't blame yourself for something that jerk did. he had absolutely no right touch you that way!
speak up. tell your parents. don't be afraid.
it happened to me when i was very very young, and until today, i fear intimacy.
don't let that happen to you. remember, it's not your fault. no one will blame you for it. if you don't say anything, you'll lead him to believe he has power over you.
good luck!

Answer 10

well, honestly you should tell him that you don't feel comfortable with him touching you like that.if he still does it forget about him because hes certainly not the one for you.no offense he sounds sorta like a jerk.and who ever was around that saw you were uncomfortable should have stopped it.

Answer 11

I would be totally concerned for you. Talk to your parents/guardians about this immediately. It is not dumb to worry about this. Good luck.