I don't even have a dad to walk down the aisle with, & my brothers hate me. I don't even have anybody to have any bridesmaids. I have only 1 friend who could be the Maid of Honor.
Is there any way I can have a private wedding with the priest marrying me & my husband, & I just have a big reception?
2007-07-29 15:39:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Welcome to my situation. Mine is only that because it is them not liken me, it is me not liken them actually. (long story beyond the main point of your question).
You can have any wedding you would like to have. it sucks and sad that family and friends like to limit it, but you still have the oppurtunity to have a private wedding that still is beautiful, meaningful with those who are with you, love you and around you.
My husband and I got married in Vegas (not cheap/tacky type of one) with my mom and brother/his fiance. We are renewing our vows in Maui in on our 1 year anniv in Feb (which will count as our honeymoon as he left for Iraq before we could even take it etc). We offerd to have a reception at home, but our families, mainly his rudly declined (as I said, long story).
I can relate how fusturating and heart breaking it is. I too didn't have a dad to walk me down. My brother did. My step dad stayed home to "work". I understand about not having bridesmaids (as I was suppose to have 6 originally. but they made unexcuseable excuses one by one even before planning was to begun) etc.
Do what your heart says and remember it is about the meaning behind the wedding. Not the wedding itself.
2007-07-29 21:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Your wedding can be as big or as small as you want and can afford. There is no reason that you cannot get married with you and your groom the witnesses and that can be it or you can have what family you do have to come. You can still have your friends to the wedding. If you only have the maid of honor there is nothing wrong with that and today many brides are walking themselves down the aisle although you can have any male relative or good friend or even your mother to walk you down the aisle if you want. It is your day make it something that is going to make you happy. It is not the size of the wedding party that makes a good marriage.
2007-07-29 16:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married this July & had the big wedding with the reception - I will be the first to tell you, have fun with it & do anything you want. If you want a small intimate ceremony you can do it. If you think a large reception would be fun, do that too. My most important advice to you is look at your budget and decide what parts of the wedding / reception / honeymoon / after wedding living expenses are the most important. Don't waste money on something you don't really care about :)
2007-07-29 15:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG yes, if that's what would make you happy. Some cities have wedding chapels were you can also take pictures. You could hire an officiant and have it outside at a garden, park or if you live near the beach that could be an option.
Oh, I just realized you wanted to be married by a priest...yes of course you can have an intimate ceremony at a church, but you would need at least 2 witnesses. Is he not close with his family either? If you do not have a priest that you are close with, perhaps you can look around your city and surrounding area for a beautiful chapel or church...that would make it even more special. Please at least hire a photographer for the ceremony...although it may be a small affair....it is still a huge deal and you guys should have beautiful portraits to show your kids one day.
Good Luck.....Most of all, enjoy your day.
2007-07-29 15:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew there was something you hadn't told me. Hmmmmmmmm, I haven't checked this guy out yet, now have I?
You don't have to have a big wedding. Have a private ceremony. You and your husband will each have a witness as your attendants. There can just be the four of you and the priest. It will be beautiful. Then you can have any size reception you want.
BEST WISHES.
What's his name?
How old is he?
What does he do?
What does he look like?
How long have you known him?
Is he nice?
Is he good to you?
Does he cook?
What kind of car does he have?
Ha ha ha. I will think of more questions later.
2007-07-29 15:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't worry about the people who hate you, but be thankful for the ones who love you, and treat them to something special. Have a small wedding at a nice place on the beach or on a boat ride. What do you and your fiance have in common or like to do? If you like the mountains, then head to some nearby, such as, if you live near Tennessee, then Gatlingburg in the Smokey Mountains has packages, then your Maid of Honor can bring her spouse or boyfriend, and you and your soon to be husband can have a nice weekend. Be glad that you have at two people who love you, because they will be a part of the special times in your life.
Let them know that you appreciate them and love them back, or you will loose them, too.
2007-07-29 15:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by luvwaterandmtdew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people do this! One thing you could consider is a destination wedding, because these always tend to be small anyway. Some people just get married at the local courthouse and just throw a big reception! =)
We had a private wedding, and I loved it. No big hassle to plan, I wasn't nervous in front of lots of people. It was very relaxed, but I still got to get in my big white gown and marry the man I love! lol
2007-07-29 15:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by SouthernBelle 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead, and have your private wedding, with the Priest marrying you both. I wouldn't even bother with having a reception, as you said everyone in your family hates you. Then, what makes you think they will come to the reception if they can't even make the wedding. Good Luck.
2007-07-29 15:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by That one 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just have a small intimate ceremony and go out to dinner with your friends. If your family hates you, why have a reception at all? Or I like the idea of going somewhere exotic and having a small simple ceremony there. Either way, have what you want.
2007-07-29 16:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sophiesmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get married at the magistrates office in your city, then u will be married, but if u really want the party, then have a reception, invite your friend(s) and he can invite his people, I am sure his side doesn't hate you. Take 2 people with u to the magistrate cause u will need 2 witnesses.
2007-07-29 15:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ebony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋