would you consider it a waste of time?

Question

I have found the women who is my true love... weve had some problems and she said she needed some space so i said i would wait for her.... i have been waiting for a very long time for her to come back to my door. . . I have never been more sure of anything in my life that she is my true love... i would wait for as long as it takes... even if it means waiting my whole life.... my question is would you consider it a waste of my life to wait for that one person to come back... i have had many arguments with friends/family about it... i don't think it is because my faith and hop have me beleiving she will come back one day... thank you for your help

Answer 1

I can relate to what you're saying having made a similar commitment to someone, and like you, I have many friends who completely misunderstand that point of view. Ultimately it doesn't matter whether I think it's a waste of your life or not, or whether anyone else "gets" it....it only matters what you think. Faith is not rational, but it doesn't have to be. I hope you are rewarded for your position in a way that will bring you happiness.

Answer 2

It really depends. I think its honorable that you are waiting for this woman. But at the same time how long is long? If she told you to wait for her like 2 or 3 years ago while she figures things out that is a bit of a waste of time. Because if she isn't sure if she wants to be with you after a stretch of time like that, then it was probably a ploy to get away from you. I know its not all that great to think about. But I'm sure when she realizes what she wants and who she is, as well as her feelings for you, it should be a instant call to meet up and talk about what she has been going through and what she has decided. But it doesn't sound like she intends to do that if she has waited that long.

Now if she has just been away a few months, again 2 or 3. She may just need more time, to again figure out her feelings for you, how she feels about spending the rest of her life with you and things like that. But I say if it hits 6 months or more, you really should try and call her and figure out what is going on. Because you don't want to waste your whole life on someone that could have snuck out of the back door of your relationship. Good luck to you, and call her or her mother or someone that you may think knows where she is. Because you have a life to live as well. And not just wait for her if she is out with friends or finding new loves and is too chick sh*t to actually break things off with you.

Answer 3

Some people are so insensitive (below)
It depends on how long you have been waiting for her. Naturally people need space in a serious relationship, especially when things are becoming more intense. If you have had no communication with her for over a year you may want to think about contacting her and if she still seems uninterested she may have not known a good way to break it off. Again, you need to communicate with her and if you believe her when she says she still needs more time than it's up to you whether or not to wait for her, but my suggestion would be, depending on how long it has been, assuming it has been a very long time (over a year or so) you may want to open yourself up to other people. It will be hard at first because it seems like you love her a lot, but sometimes it's better for yourself to be happy than to dwell over something that cannot be.
Hope this helps =)

Answer 4

Nothing is ever a waste of time. Keep that in mind. She may never come back but it's still not a waste of time. You learn, you live, you move on with all the experiences you've had. She came into your life for a reason. It may not necessarily be the reason you anticipate and hope for, but it's a valid reason never the less. Learn from it. Cherish it and try not to allow it to come to an argument with anyone, especially family members.

Every single person who comes into our life, no matter how fleeting, does so for a purpose. We may not understand or agree at the time, but it is a fact none-the-less. Try to read too much into it destroys the magic, however, so don't dwell on it too much.

Answer 5

It would seem to me that this is a one way situation. In the respect that you may have found your one true love but has she? The fact that she has put you on hold (I dont know for how long) raises some questions. Like whats going on? Sounds like she may have another love out there and is torn between him and you. My friend you have a lot of thinking to do. Personally I wouldnt wait my entire life. Their are many wonderful ladies out there. Life is short too short to let it pass by without the joys of a companion.

Answer 6

Chances are she's gone sweetie. Its time to move on with things and have some fun so you can heal that broken heart. I loved someone completely who loved me too and still left. Sometimes there's a motivation other than love which means you can't do anything about it. The absolute helplessness almost broke me. There's light if you let go.

start by putting away anything that reminds you of her. then get as social as possible. Join a group or learn about something you care about. Whatever you do, don't waste another moment of your precious life waiting for someone to change their mind.

Answer 7

I don't think it is a waste of time as long as she has made it clear to you that she will come back to you. Also, I don't think it is a waste of time as long as you are not putting your life on hold for her. I think you should wait for someone who you know is coming back, but I don't think you should not have a life or date around even if it's just to take the edge off because I would think that's what she is doing. Wait for her don't put your life on hold and become obsessed with her. Good luck!

Answer 8

It's not a bad thing to wait. For me personally there is a limit to everything. For you and your heart no one can tell you how long to wait. Sometimes you just have to make a choice, go on with your life and if that person comes back fine if not you can make a life with someone else.

Answer 9

Maybe she will come back if you find someone else even if only as a Friend and see what happens.But to say you will wait for ever is letting her believe she has all the time in the world to have fun and you will still be there waiting for her and that is a waste of time. good luck

Answer 10

I think that you are wasting your time. Is she really wanted to be with you, she would be with you right now. She might be confused. I'm not saying you need to go out and find some other girl right away, but you need to start moving on with life without this particular girl. Maybe in time you'll gain a different perspective on the situation. Also, if you move on with your life, and she sees that, she might get curious and try to contact you. You never know what might happen.