I should be getting married within the next two years and i dont know if i should have my real dad, or my step dad walk me down the asile. My dad hasnt always been there but would want to be at my wedding, how can i invite him, and have him watch someone else walk me down the asile?? I am torn, PLEASE help and shed some light on how to try to handle this when it is time... thanks a bunch!
2007-07-29 15:28:24 · 30 answers · asked by blueyeshy1984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd say let them both escort you. I have two dads and I am going to do just that. It'll let them both know that they are important to you without one feeling left out.
2007-07-29 15:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your dad walk you halfway, and meet up with your stepdad to finish the walk, or vice-versa.
Be escorted by both the whole way (one on one side, one on the other).
Walk yourself down the aisle.
Have your mom walk you down the aisle.
If you have a close friend or brother, let him walk you down the aisle.
I went to a wedding once where the bride walked herself down to the aisle, and when it came time to ask who gives her away in marriage, all four parents (birth parents and stepparents) stood and said they did.
The best thing you can do is to talk to your dad, your mom and your stepdad and express how concerned you are about this, and that you really don't want to end up hurting ANYONE. You may find that one person or the other would really have no problem stepping aside, knowing that you didn't make the choice without regard to their feelings (kind of a Solomon-split-the-baby thing -- they care enough about you to not insist on putting you in a difficult situation).
2007-07-29 17:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem too but I don't have a Dad I have two grandpas.They are both walking me down the aisle. One on each arm. You are lucky to have two Dads that care so much about you, where you have to consider it. I would do both because they would both be honored. I would maybe ask your real Dad first if would mind sharing the responsibility with you step dad. If they have a good relationship then he wont mind, but if they don't you may just want to have your step dad walk your Mom. You wont want that drama on your big day. Good Luck and congrats!!!
2007-07-29 16:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the exact same position.I talked to my mom about it and actually was thinking of having her walk me down.She and I both agreed that my step dad was an understanding person and would be okay(especially since he knew what my true feelings were on the situation) if my "real' dad was to walk me down the isle.Then I decided that I'm a big girl and this is my life and I didn't need anyone to give me away or walk me down the isle.I did it on my own!By doing so everyone was content.I was comfortable with my decision because for one I didn't choose my absentee father over the one I care for the most and second no one could be that upset with the decision.I don't know what would work out best for you in your situation everyone is different and have their own ideals.I'd say go with your heart and use your head to figure out what would be best.
2007-07-29 15:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by shiatts 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just at a wedding in Seattle last night and the bride's mom walked her down the aisle. Her real dad passed away a few years ago, and her step-dad walked out on her mom after 25 years of marriage.
2007-07-29 19:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your stepfather has raised you and supported you like only a real father can do...then I think he should walk you down the aisle....it sounds to me like this is what you would prefer anyway
If they get a long together, another option would be to have them both walk you down the aisle. Weddings nowadays make many new traditions and this would be a way for you to honor both of your dads. If you do like this idea, beware that many people will try to fight you on it. Whatever you decide is best...stick to your guns...it wll be your day and I wouldn't want you worrying over something like this.
Give them each a father/daughter dance, I believe this is secretly very very important to fathers.
Oooo, I just read the entry before mine....also a great idea.
2007-07-29 15:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation....I am having my mom give me away so that I don't have to worry about hurting either one. My real dad wouldn't understand (I don't believe) and my step dad would go along with whatever I decide so I figure just have my mom do it (she's the one that really raised me anyways....they divorced when I was like 7 or 8).
Another option I was offered was to have my daugher (will be 21 then) walk me down. She is also my maid of honor.
2007-07-29 16:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by LakeCupid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No honey you got it all wrong. This is not about them and how they feel it is about you and how you feel. If your real dad was not always there for you then that was one of the things that he sacrificed when he chose not to be there for you. You are under no real obligation to have him take that place of honor if you feel that your stepfather or whoever is more deserving of the honor and is the one that you want to walk with as you approach your new life. Who did the most to get you to this point? when you are in trouble which one of them comes to your mind to call on first. Who was there for you and who would come first and fastest and most importantly most reliably when you called out "Dad!" in a voice filled with alarm. Who is going to be there going forward if you should need his help and support? Even as you read these things one face or the other came to mind with each one. That is who should walk you down the aisle. The other will have to deal with your choice. Make it a wise one
2007-07-29 17:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have seen the bride walk herself down the aisle bucking the tradition of being "given away" and I've seen a bride go down the aisle with two dads. Do whatever will make you happy - it's your day so do it your way! Personally I want to go down the aisle alone - because my wedding will be all about ME!!!
2007-08-01 16:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can have him start the walk down the aisle and your step dad meets him half way and walks u down the rest of the aisle and presents u too your future husband. I did this with my brother and my dad who i adored . my brother started the walk and my dad ended the walk and presented me to my husband , it was beautiful and romantic and made my day. U may have a problem when the question arises who gives this woman to be married to this man and at that time both the dads need to answer we do along with her mom. that will take care of that too. good luck and god bless...
2007-07-30 04:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my girlfriend got married, she had her stepfather walk her halfway down the aisle, where they met her father (logistically, it worked out well, as there was a break in the church pews here). The two fathers shook hands, her stepfather gave her a kiss, and then her father walked her the rest of the way down the aisle. It was a lovely way for both her fathers to have the honor of escorting her.
2007-07-30 02:30:01 · answer #11 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋