I would like advice on a subject, I met a man who I am completely attracted to. We talk on the phone we make plans to get to together. We spend time with one another and have a great time. He and I text one another all the time. He runs a business that take him to other countires from time to time. We broke up a while ago. We saw each other on the streets of London for the first time in over a year. I was informed that he was a father to a son, but he has no plans to marry the mother. The mother was an illegal African from Kenya. They hooked up for a short time and the result was his son. He blames himself for our brake up. He wants me to give our relationship another chance. ( Did I mention that the reason we broke up was the fact that he traveled so much and had very little time for us. ) Now he has cut back on travel time, and he wants me to come back to him. I still love him but I'm not sure I am able to deal with his baby by another woman.
2007-07-29 15:09:59 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough call. Your maternal insticts will want him for you and your kids that you have with him but here's this other woman who can pop up at any time and lay claims because of their child together.
I wish you would find a nice single guy with no baggage and then you wouldn't have to worry about this. If he travels alot and suddenly got this one knocked up how many other women were there or are there out there that he's boinked.
Make a list of those qualities just so you know why you really want him in your life ... that may help.
2007-07-29 15:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by terminator 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't ask the question , unless you had doubts .
You say this man is travelling all the time . ( probably has a different woman in every country ) . Are you and he of African origin . I should be worried about a man who has had affairs in Africa . I suggest you find a new man with whom you can have a real relationship .
The fact that you are American and he English is irrellevant in this case ; though certainly they can make the relationship work .
2007-07-29 21:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope so. The UK is also called the "mother country" by and to America. It is one of the most fruitful and long standing partnerships in History. We have a very open immigration policy between the USA and the UK. We are both fairly hostile to any other kind of immigrant or immigration. We hate all the same people and to pick on one is to pick on the other. It might of been a baby to stay in the UK. If he was tricked into it, he needs support. He knows where he lives and what he wants. I don't see how it makes any difference if you love him. It could of been triplets. Still, it is his baby so, if you love him, it shouldn't be a problem to love his baby, too. It happens and it could be worse.
2007-07-29 15:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1, Nationality is not a matter.
2, If you really love him, you should be able to accept and love his son too.
3, Frequent travel and has very little time to stay together is not a matter if you are really in love.
4, Are you sure you are his only one? He may has girls all over the world.
Forget him and move on.
2007-07-29 16:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Littlestar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby will always be an issue. There is no real way around it, How he treats his son and the mother is a clue to what your future will be like. And It sounds like you don't want a woman and his child popping up. You might be better off without these complications.
2007-07-29 15:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well God know how many other women he has sleep with on his travels. Just because was caught out once with this lady from Kenya and fathered a child. I don't like the sound of this. Hey dump him you can do better than that.
2007-07-29 15:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of they might have greater of a controversy with you not being Muslim, yet nonetheless Muslim adult men can marry exterior of their faith. I merely think of try to be quite careful and get to be conscious of his faith and the regulations of his united states. In Islam, youngsters belong to their father. usually if a non-Muslim marries a Muslim in his united states they sign a rfile asserting they're changing and a great number of don't be conscious of what they're doing it because of the fact the archives are in a language they cant examine. and female do not pay attention to Tabish, he's from a rustic that doesn't enable women folk tocontinual, holiday without the permission of the husband, father or male mum or dad. He says Islam has rights that are observed in the West, nicely there's no data of this in Saudi Arabia now, the place a female became sentenced to reformatory after she and a male pal have been raped via 7 adult men!! As a male he enjoys rights that no female in Saudi Arabia may even dream of.
2016-10-01 00:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's akward. What the he||
was he doing in bed with a illegal
anyway?
I don't the "british & american"
thing that is a problem. If he cut
down on travel time then sure, why not?
Try it. You never know what will happen
2007-07-29 15:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kiearah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have the answer. If you can't deal with the baby issue you might wanna think this issue through a little more.
2007-07-29 15:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by totalverity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're smart like you sound...stay away from him. to many holes in his story for breaking up with you. I question his motivate, why he want to reunite with you when he have responsibilities to his son. It seem that he want to involve you to shield himself from his baby and the child mother.
2007-07-29 15:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋