I feel that he's pushing me to have sex with him?

Question

My boyfriend of nine months just told me He'd be the happiest man alive if we had sex. But shouldn't being with me make him happy? I'm serious, am I not doing enough? I want to be a good girlfriend, and I told him I'm not ready. Why won't he listen?

Thank you for all your time.

Answer 1

If he cared at all, he would stop pressuring you. Do not give in cuz your think LOVE is about compromise... DO NOT compromise yourself for him, because he is not doing that for you. Tell him to leave you alone and stop pressuring you. If he doesn't leave him and move on. Ouch I know, but I am older and wiser.

Answer 2

Hmm, to some sex is over rated and to others it's something to be cherished and shared with someone you really care about.

This guy obviously wants to have sex, but what kind of bf is he is he's pushing you. If you feel this way, you need to let him know cause most likely it won't stop. Don't be hard on him, but just tell him that it's a big step and although you care about him you know you're just not ready. If he keeps pursuing it and push, you should take another look at the relationship.

If this is your first time, you should really take the time to think about this before just going off and doing it. I personally feel that sex is a little over rated, I don't think everyone should be handing it out like samples at the food market but it's sex. But from the sound of your question, seems to me like this is a big deal to you.

Just remember that once you lose your virginity you can't get it back again. It's not something you can buy, or replace, so make sure that if this is the guy you want to lose it to. I've known a few girls that have regretted ever having sex with their partners at the time, the majority of them that feel this way felt pressured to do it.

Answer 3

Be cause he wants sex, and he will use every trick in the book to get it. He's a man, and he is driven by his hormones. And he thinks that after nine months, he should be getting some from you. The big thing is, you don't say how old you are. If you are young, you are right to say no, but if you are older, and still don't want to give yourself up, then you may have unresolvable issues. Either way, I'd say the days of your relationship are numbered, and it would be best to move on, than do something you are not ready for.

Answer 4

He may not have meant that in the way you're thinking. Being with you must make him happy, otherwise I think he would have pushed for sex much earlier than this. I think by saying sex with you would make him the happiest man alive, he meant that he wanted to share that experience with you and it's specialness would make him super happy.

But if you're not ready, then set him down and discuss it with him. If he loves you he'll understand and respect your wishes to wait. Dont ever feel pressured just because you feel you love someone, because if they returned the love then they wouldnt pressure you.

If he loves you like it sounds like he does, he WILL understand. But if he doesnt, then I suggest you end it, and end it quickly.

There are many guys in the world that want one thing, and if you arent willing to give that one thing, they'll leave you high and dry. If he doesnt respect your wishes, leave him high and dry first seeing is he will not stop unless he obtains the one goal that he wants.

I wish you all the luck, and hopefully, he respects you and your wishes. But like I said if not, then you're better off without him. Dont ever do anything you arent ready for. It wont make you happy in the end. And at the end of the day, that's what truly matters.

Answer 5

Looks like hes in the relationship for different reasons than you are. Hes becoming impatient because of the nine months you guys have been dating without sex, and you're right--he should be happy just having your company

He's a guy-- every guy is going to want to have sex, but the question is, what would he DO to have sex? Would he do as much as force you?

A guy like this isn't going to wait around forever for sex. If he isn't getting it from you he'll only get it from someone else ( not saying hes cheating on you but be careful!! ) but i just want to say you are doing NOTHING wrong. iIf you're not ready, wait all you want. If you feel too pressured by your boyfriend, then maybe he just isnt right for you. Just don't do anything you're not ready for

Answer 6

If he tells you that having sex would be the happiest time in his life then something is worng with him. He should be happy just being with you. If your not ready to have sex then don't just tell him. If he loves you he wont make you do something you don't want to do. If he still keeps pushing then maybe he isnt the right guy for you.

Answer 7

If you do any more, i.e., fall for that line, you may make him the "happiest"- for that moment - man alive but you may have a huge price to pay emotionally. Tell him you are a girlfriend and should he prove to be marriage material he can propose and then after the wedding you will make him the "happiest" man alive on your honeymoon. Until then, hang on to your morals, values and ethics. With those you will win.

Answer 8

yeah you should wait my Gf told me that all the time but now its 3 years we been together and she still tells me that and im growing impatient and rejected !!!! maybe your bf has a point he has waited along time but not like me wich is twice as worse we just want to because it shows you care a LOT

ALl the people answering here are Girls and a gorrilla

why dont you take the guys point of view?

If you are young like 14, 15, 16, 17 then wait a bit longer like a year and a half to give him sex but not too long or else youll lose a good guy trust me i i wanted to dump my girlfriend over this but i loved her too much and i kept forgetting about having sex but it just keeps coming back to me so you better not make him wait too Long just a warning to you


and i dont know why people keep coming up with that cliche that "once you do it you cant hold hands anymore"thats total BF make him wait but not too long if youre gona say no then too in the future i suggest you break up now so in the future it wouldnt be worse when you tell him no again

Answer 9

Remember, guys only want one thing. Sure it's nice to them to have a girlfriend and go out etc. but when it comes down to it they want sex. Plain and simple. If you are not ready then don't do it. It is your decision. He might find it elsewhere but don't do it just because you feel pressured. Maybe he is not the one after all is said and done.

I was in your shoes when I was younger only my boyfriend at the time never pressured me. Maybe he got it somewhere else I'll never know but I was relieved and felt more cherished by him too understand this about me.

Answer 10

If he truly loved you then he would respect you and your wishes. Dont have sex with him just so he stays with you. He should be happy to have a gf that has morals and has respect for herself to wait until she is ready. You are being a good girlfriend and dont let him tell you any different. There are a lot of other guys out there that would respect your wishes to wait

Hope this helps

:-))

Answer 11

He probably is happy to be with you, but men want to have sex, regardless of how wonderful of a girlfriend you are. If you are not ready and he is pushing for it, tell him to back off or break up with him. It's important that sexually, you are on the same page with whoever you date. Because in your current situation, he feels rejected and you feel pressured, and that's no good.