a sunday brunch for out-of-towners the day after the wedding instead of inviting them all to the rehearsal. My future father-in-law is cooking for the rehearsal dinner and I dont want him to have to cook for 50 people (as most of our guests are from out of town). I would rather keep the rehearsal to just the bridal party and immediate family.
2007-07-29 14:26:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
that sounds like a good idea to me. :) i would just make sure people know there is an event on Sunday so they can make travel plans that suit them. :) breakfast sounds like fun.
it will probably be less stressful that way too, after the wedding you can have fun and relax with your family and friends. :) no worrying about wedding plans.
2007-07-29 14:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people do that these days. The only issue (besudes cost) is guest/family/friends burnout. Instead of two days in a row of tons of people all over you - now it is three days in a row. We thought about it and canned the idea for that reason. We and most people only invite the folks involved with the wedding to the rehersal dinner - that is the point. Only immediate family, brides maids, goomsmen, etc. No outsiders come to the rehersal dinner. It also depends on how many people are coming from far away. If you have a lot of folks arriving the day before the wedding that had to fly - you may want to have a packet made up of local attractions, restaurnats, etc. If you do have a lot of those folks - the Sunday brunch may have to happen. Good luck to you!
2007-07-29 21:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by alanawear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's totally appropriate. It's your wedding. The wedding is not about celebrating that your father-in-law can cook for xxxx amount of people, but to celebrate where you and your fiance have gotten to in life. I'd make it a brunch if that makes things easier.
The only question I have, is does your father in law have to cook the brunch? Or are you planning on reserving spots at a restaurant and advising people it's Dutch?
Regardless.. it's your wedding. Think of what would make you and your fiance happiest and what would be most plausible. People understand that you're already dealing with a million details. If they don't, screw them. Should be fine though, as long as you set the expectation of what you want, and people know in advance.
2007-07-29 21:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Blip B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a wonderful idea. My daughter is a bridal consultant and she plans that type of thing all the time. Anyway most of your wedding gifts will be opened the day after, usually at a brunch, and it would be a very nice gathering. The bridal party should be at the rehersal dinner, but you are not obligated to have anyone else.
2007-07-29 21:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by happi2bwu2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds equally gracious as inviting them to the rehearsal dinner. I also happen to think it's a great idea to wait until the day after the wedding to do a lot of travelling, since the wedding itself can be quite exhausting.
If this is what you'd like to do, I think you've got a good and practical idea. Go for it!
2007-07-29 22:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be better to just not do anything. As a frequent out of town guest I don't really expect to be invited to the rehearsal, even though they say it's polite. I know it's for the people in the wedding and other close family. I have been invited to Sunday brunches and feel like I am obligated to go even though I really want to just get home. Out of town guests will want to head home first thing on Sunday, not wait around. It's nice of you to think of but isn't necessary.
2007-07-29 21:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Holding a brunch the day after the wedding is traditional in the south where I'm from....had one for every wedding I've ever been to or planned even ones with no traveling guests.
2007-07-29 22:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good to me. I always thought a rehearsal dinner was just for the wedding party and imediate family??? But a brunch would be great.
2007-07-29 21:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a great idea, but keep in mind that you will both be very tired the following day from all the wedding day activities. Try to make it at 10 or 11 so you can have some time to sleep in or ;)
2007-07-29 23:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rehersal is only supposed to be for the wedding party. You are hosting a big enough party for your family and friends on your wedding day. You are under no obligation to spend more money to entertain them again. If they get into town early they should understand that they are on their own for their meals that day. It is rude of them to expect to be invited to a rehersal dinner if they are not part of the wedding.
2007-07-30 02:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋