My boyfriend wants to have sex but i dont want to. I dont feel ready and want to wait till im married. But he doesnt want to wait, but says he only wants me. He wont leave me alone i told him its over but he wont listen, and wont keep his hands to himself...HE JUST WONT LISTEN. What would you do?
2007-07-29 13:40:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really respects you...if he really loves you, he will listen to you when you say you are not ready to have sex. If he doesn't listen, he doesn't respect you, and you need to move on. He isn't worth it. Don't feel like you have to change yourself for anyone! You are you...be you...and if someone doesn't like it, that is their problem...not yours!
2007-07-29 13:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you arent ready the answer is simple, dont have sex. No one should pressure you into it. Especially someone that claims to love you. That isnt love.
You need to sit him down and explain to him that if he loves you then he will wait, because you just arent ready emotionally for a step such as this. If he keeps pushing then he doesnt love you. It's factual, and I know that may hurt to hear. But if he keeps pushing after you sit him down and tell him this then he is being abusive towards your needs, and that alone shows that there is no love there.
Some guys are only out for one thing, and I know because I am a guy. If you arent ready for that one thing, and he is the type of guy that only wants it then it's better to end things and end them immediately.
If he's not that type then he'll understand your needs and respect them. I hope you all the luck in the world, and hopefully he'll respect your needs and it wont lead to a break up.
Just do NOT have sex because you feel the need to in order to keep your boyfriend, because there are good guys out there. And there are guys that will respect the fact that you arent ready emotionally for sex.
2007-07-29 20:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a boyfriend or partner does not push on that the other dislikes, that's respect. The feeling of love arose & both will know what to do is right or not. How did you feel when he won't leave you alone? I think you should talk it out what you feel & what he feels... automatically both of you will know what to do...
2007-07-29 20:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anger & love management 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are just not ready and if he can't wait then he's a complete jerk. If he was true then he would wait for you. If he still won't leave you alone that let him know physically.
2007-07-29 20:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by smarty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he needs to have some self control and that if he really loves you so much, he won't pressure you. He'll wait until you're ready or married! Don't let him pressure you into it! You're worth waiting for!
2007-07-29 20:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by JoGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to leave him if he cant respect teh fact that u wabt to wait he isnt serious about being with u its jsut sex find a man who will respect ur feelings and wont treat u like tramp and wil treat u like the queen u r
2007-07-29 21:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that you are waiting for marriage as you state and if he really loves and respects you he will drop it and honor your wishes. If not grapb his sack and squeeze real hard while twisting and he should then get the idea.
2007-07-29 20:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he does not understand the word NO then you should dump him and wait until you get married to have sex... Your body is very special and you no one should touch it except for your husband.....
2007-07-29 20:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by Alisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to listen and respect you, or you need to find someone who will. If he continues, call the police -it's harassment!
2007-07-29 20:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by my 2 cents 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him in a very serious and angry tone; you dont care about you care about my body so it is over between us. leave me alone. i would then avoid him, and if he keeps persuing me i would tell him that i will report him for harrassment. if he still continues, i will report him like i said i would. i think that is what u have to do.
2007-07-29 20:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋