my mother is a chronic liar. to everyone and anyone. ive always wondered why this is, and when i catch her lying to me she tries to turn it around on me! for instance her boyfriend threatened my life in front of my boyfriend back in december for catching them lying to me, and to this day she calls and calls and says im crazy i was imaginging it!!! what the heck?? these people make me feel crazy and i feel bad that they wont let me near my younger brother, ive called him 4 times in the past month and they dont let him call me back!!! what to do??? how do you deal with life long chronic liars???? why do they do this?????????? i mean ive realized she chose men over her children.. done got that finally after 23 years in decemeber... but now this one??? HUH????
2007-07-29 13:09:02 · 4 answers · asked by divinemadness 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well you are not alone, my ex-wife's mother was like this with their family, I watched them go through this turmoil, and they would tell me some eerie stories of things that happened when they were real young! Are you familiar with the Joan Crawford story? (same thing)
2007-07-29 18:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by musicman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a mother in law like this....HAD, I'm divorcing now..THANG GOD! This woman would LIE about everything. And I hated it cuz out of respect for my husband I couldn't call her on her lies. Like her 40EE **** that mysteriously GREW from medication for her ovarian cysts, when originally I met her at a 36C. And her cancer, lupus, etc....LOSERSSSSS!!! It goes into more than just this, believe me. I also had a friend that was a HABITUAL LIAR! The only way to cure this in your situation, is to ignore your mother and stick with what you know...which is the TRUTH. As for your little brother I don't know that theres much you can do but just hope he can sneak a call or two in. I personally feel that chronic lying is a mental disorder. You need to ignore your mom. And just hope for a relationship with your little bro.
Good luck
2007-07-29 20:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you may not realize is this is her problem and you are taking on the responsibility of her actions. Her lying is obviously a life long habit that she chooses not to address
You may be enabling her with allowing her to get away with it
So, stop acting like you are part of the problem and become part of the solution. If you know she is lying tell her, if she denies it, tell her to call you back when she wants to tell you the truth, hang up the phone very gently and let her call YOU BACK , do not give in, when she does, ask if she is ready to be truthful, if she starts to get angry, tell her when you want to be truthful with me call me, if not call me when you can, again hang up gently. It will make her realize you are no longer taking on her burden and you will feel better with a better relationship with your life long relationship, She may even see you as an adult for once
2007-07-29 21:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to face the reality your mother is mentally ill. Just be glad you didnt turn out like her. I dont know how old your brother is but you might try waiting til he leaves the house to go out...follow him and talk to him. Make arrangements to secretly meet him when you can. Sounds like he needs a stable influence in his life.
2007-07-29 20:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋