what can you do if you feel you were originally a good person but you feel youve been corrupted by the way?

Question

people have treated you in your past and the bad experiences youve had in life? certain people in your past have corrupted you and hurt you badly effecting your mentality so you view the world in a distorted angry way

how can the good in me win through?

i dont wanna give in or give up

Answer 1

When you start to worry about being a good person, this is called growing up. Now that you are wondering it shows you have not went to far. A person who is totally evil does not know or care about being good, for to think like that is alien.

Answer 2

You are still a good/wise person, that is obvious from your Q. Value your true-self and keep in mind that all life experiences, both good and not so good, have something to help you learn and grow as a person. Some people can be mean, and that may be because they themselves have been damaged or are un-well. Seeing them as little children might help, it is difficult to be angry at little children because they don't understand what they are doing and really they need help to understand themselves. If you like, check out Diana Cooper's book 'A Little Light on the Spiritual Laws' (not religious, just a guide for understanding) , it can help to fathom why society can sometimes be so noisy and selfish. Remember, you are not alone, there are many of us who have sensitive hearts and feel the same way as you just look at all the beautiful people who want to answer your question, if you keep your peepers open you will recognise them and can make some lifelong friendships that will nourish you. Another trick is to find some new purpose or meaning in life to clear the 'distortion', why not volunteer to help in the community or find an activity group that cares for something or someone. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Hang on to the knowledge that you were originally a good person (and still are, underneath the c**p) - then seek help via therapy to work through the pain that others have inflicted on you. That way, you can regain control of your life and your emotions and, at the same time, learn how to avoid allowing people you meet in the future to 'corrupt' you in the same way. Your anger may have been a useful protection in the past, but now it is distorting your view and you need to be able to turn things around. Look into doing a meditation course - a regular practice is really beneficial! I did just that (at my local Buddhist Centre) and, as well as the meditation technique, I found myself surrounded by a new crowd of people who accepted me for the person I am, without judgement. That helped me to accept - and even start to like - mySelf ......... something I'd been working towards for years. If you don't like your learnt behaviour, or your angry, distorted views, then go and seek that help NOW - be prepared to look long and hard at your issues, and to peel away the layers of corruption. I wish you well.

Answer 4

always remember: Bad company corrupts good character. The people you hang around, the places you go, and the movies and tv shows you watch have a major impact on how you act.

you can only absorb so much "bad" before it starts to seem "not so bad after all"

If you want to get back to good, make a fresh start. Read the Bible and some uplifting self help books. Get involved in a community outreach that will make you feel you are doing good in the world. Surround yourself with positive, good people and let them rub off on you. Just try to live a life that serves others and is free of anger, lust, bitterness, etc

Answer 5

Never give up! Whatever anybody in your past has done to you physically or mentally does not make YOU a bad person. It makes them a bad person!

Counseling can help you feel more in control and can help you overcome the "distorted angry way" you are feeling now. I promise you can make this better.

Answer 6

strength of character and wisdom grow out of struggle. i know this sounds like a cliche but please keep reading (im not a religious fanatic or a mental health guru, just a normal person who had, and still has a lot of similar figuring out to do). you have the chance to use your awful experiences of life to become a strong, wise, confident person. the fact that you are questioning this means that you are a strong person, and you recognise that your situation results in a mental struggle. some people never figure out why they feel what they feel. in contrast, you seem to be very self aware and responsible and thats a great start. it is completely normal to be angry, resentful, confused and dissillusioned with the human race if you have been given a hard time, in particular if it was by those whom you love or relied on for protection. you have the right to these feelings as long as you can move past them at some point. you dont want to turn these feelings inwards towards yourself leading to guilt and self loathing, and you dont want to turn them outwards and lash out at the rest of the world. you need to get it out of your system in a controlled environment, such as with a therapist, where you can rant and rave on and on until you feel relieved. however, the job of the therapist is limited, you must do the hard work yourself. use the experience to give you wisdom about people, to help you to judge the character/motivation/emotional position of new people who come into your life and of those already in it, to help you to know your own reactions and limits when it comes to relationships, to trust your own gut instinct etc. this will help to protect you from being mistreated again. im not talking about being paranoid or immediately mistrusting people, just about trusting yourself and being as wise as you can be. you didnt choose to have these experiences but you can choose how to manage the memories and residual anger. speaking from experience, you might not cure yourself completely but your mental health and quality of life can be preserved.

Answer 7

You need to re-program your thinking. Know that even though it may have been very painful, the bad things that happened to you are in the past. Know that you have the power to choose your attitude. It's not what happens to you in life but how you choose to perceive it that matters.

The fact that you are asking the question indicates that you are still a good and caring person. Don't change that about yourself.
Decide to see life in a positive and productive manner.

Answer 8

Your description of your life reminds me of some war veterans who have come to see me. It can be hard to readjust to the "old" good you. It becomes an identity problem trying to sort out what you consider good and bad.

You probably have symptoms resembling Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. It is very important, I think, to talk with a professional, a trusted family member, or a trusted friend in order to process your thoughts

You can regain the good person inside of you. Hopefully, by sorting out your feelings with a good listener and someone who can help reinforce the good person in you, you can start anew. As the song says, "It'll be just like starting over."

Answer 9

Honey today is the first day of the rest of your life. I can see that you're a nice person just by your question. Try finding the good in people and life. Let people see how you are changing by your deeds and actions. Good luck Honey, it's never too late to turn over a new leaf.

Answer 10

You already have the answer inside you. You know what has caused you to feel this way and you know that you don't want to go down this road. you have already indicated this by what you've said! Be true to yourself and don't let others dictate the way you live, or influence you. You have the inner strength to stay on the right path. your life can only be lived by you. Don't make the wrong choices. Good luck.