okay so my situation is so weird. I found out that one of my close guy friends likes me. But he wants to be more then friends but i dont know im my feelingd towards him are the same. I'm so confused! And the other thing is that he use to date my friend. I dont want my friend to get hurt. He actually broke up with her because his feeling towards me were getting stronger. so like someone help me? should i give it a shot? or should i be loyal 2 my friend/co-worker?
2007-07-29 13:07:22 · 13 answers · asked by ikly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd wait a while and let things even out. that;ll at least give your friends time to cool off, and you to straighten your mind out...
2007-07-29 13:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone with experience. Your friend always comes first. Even if your friend says it's ok... it probably really isn't time for you to move into something deeper with this guy. Especially since you know for a fact that he and your friend broke up because of his feelings for you.
He may like you, and you may be confused with your feelings because you are flattered. Don't confuse flattery with having feelings for him. They are different and if you get them confused you could really end up hurting yourself and worst: your friend.
Friendship is very important and when you do something to jeopardize that it is very hard to make up for it... your friend may never forgive you. Think about it, she is also your co-worker... so if things became awkward between you two you will still have to face each other at work.
Take some breathing room from this guy. The more he pressures you about his feelings the more you will feel guilty and inclined to get together with him. You would not be a bad person for saying NO. I hope all this helps!
2007-07-29 20:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by silentstar53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your girlfriend about it. She might not care either way - but if he had wanderlust when he was with her, what makes you think he won't dump you when the next good thing comes along?
If you had romantic feelings for him you wouldn't wonder how you feel about him and there would be no confusion. IMO what you're feeling right now is flattered. Not enough to build a relationship with him on, and not worth killing your friendship with him or your girlfriend.
Be loyal to yourself.
2007-07-29 20:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by mrscjr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really like each other nothing should stand in your way. And this could be your one and only true love. But your friends are just your friends they come and go true love doesn't. And if your friend does get mad then that is not a true friend. True friends don't do that. Its not like you took him from her.
What ever feels right for you. I know you will make the right decision.
2007-07-29 20:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Amy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both care about each other your friend will let you both be together. Also don't wait 1 month to tell your friend that you two are dating. Tell her right away it would hurt her more if you were hiding it from her.
2007-07-29 20:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't like him. Think about it this way, if you have to force yourself to like him it won't last. I learned that the hard way. My guy friend liked me and I played along and forced myself to like him. But as we got closer it got weirder and more awkward and I ended up hurting him b/c I couldn't make myself like him anymore. So now he likes me alot and I have to ignore him and turn him down all the time and we aren't as close anymore. Hope this helps!
2007-07-29 20:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by CW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel the need to ask if you like him, then chances are you dont like him on that level. i would just talk to him and let him know how you feel. also, talk to your friend to see how she feels about this. friends are truly what you should look after. if she says it is fine, then get to know him better, there might just be chemistry with you two.
2007-07-29 20:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Poot-a-loop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kk tell him how you feel but dont say i just want to be friends
If i were you say i like some one else andsay mabey next year and give him a hug
2007-07-29 20:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be loyal to your friend/co-worker.
2007-07-29 20:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by Brave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you liked him enough to get with him you would know. the fact that you're having doubts and aren't even with him indicates that............and if your friend is more important that the to you, then why even try and start trouble.
2007-07-29 20:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋