I have never given him any reason I'm a faithful christian, I go to work home church He knows my every move But still insists if i'm 10 minutes late i've been cheating on him. He is very hurtfull with his words, constantly calles off our wedding, I am not allowed to see my family very often he sees his daily and has hour long conversations with several of them daily Including his Ex wife who he consults daily on what he's doing what she's doing etc... If i talk with anyone even my family for more than 5 minutes he interupts then accuses me of all sorts of things, i took his 10 year old son to Chuck e cheese last week was late getting him home and got accused of messing around with someone?? I said how on earth could i do this with your son right with me the whole time? He said where theirs a will theirs a way....... Theirs no will I love this man But after 2 years it's getting to be No way.... i guess i just wanted to hear someone tell me how to fix this But after reading this i GTG
2007-07-29 12:55:52 · 9 answers · asked by trekkie2059 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's like you're going into the lion's den, see what's waiting for you in the future and don't turn back?.
What's happening now is just a little taste of what your life is going to be in the future if you sign the papers.
Do you hate your life so much that you're willing to put it in the hands of such jerk?
Now it's the best time to finish your engagement, and believe me, a man like that, if he says he's going to change when you marry him, he won't, he'll just get worst.
2007-07-29 13:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lulu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things will not change even if you get married. This is probably why he got divorced the first time around. This would put up a very large red flag for me. I suggest if you don't want to live with this kind of stress you two need to take some time apart and he needs to grow up and get his act together. No girl is gonna want him acting like that. Is he a Christian Man? Remember the Lord doesn't want us being unevenly yoked. Sounds like this gentleman is. I would think this over before making any decisions on going on further with your relationship.
2007-07-29 13:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men who reveal a jealous characteristic tend to be those who lack confidence on some level. When men get jealous, it’s usually aimed at insecurity and the thought of losing the one they care about. If you believe that there is someone else who can make the woman you’re with happier than you can, then you could have some jealous tendencies. In addition, if you notice a significant dissatisfaction in your mates overall happiness in the relationship, it can also cause insecurities. Insecurity can breed from many different grounds. You can be insecure because you don’t trust someone. You can be insecure because you don’t feel you’re very good looking. You could be insecure because you feel inferior to people around you. These issues must be addressed in order to secure your confidence and prevent jealousy.
2007-08-02 04:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Sweetie, this is not good. It's hard to say, but he may have guilt because of his own cheating. Besides, if he doesn't trust you when he's not with you , he's called off your wedding and isolating you from your family he's trying to _control_ you. From my experience, that doesn't go away. You might want to try some couples therapy, but honestly I think the best thing you can do is get as far away from him as possible. This smells like trouble to me.
God Bless!
2007-07-29 13:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a control freak it sounds like to me and I would honestly hold off on marrying the guy until he gets some counseling for it. Im serious. These are the type of guys that end up being abusive. Maybe verbally maybe physically.
He needs to overcome this.
2007-07-29 13:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by sociald 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I find it hard to believe some of these questions on here are for serious...
But if he's your fiance do you really want to marry a psycho freak like that?
Honestly..you said it yourself in so many words..the guy is a loser, nuts..what do you think is gunna happen to you when you marry him?
Get your head out of his butt before it's too late, give yourself some friggan respect !
2007-07-29 12:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Peace Love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either he is insecure or hes cheating and his abusive is an effort to covers up his on dirt,why are you letting this person control you ? end this relationship and find someone with your values and believes. you will be much happier and able to focus on whats important because its not him that's for sure
2007-07-29 13:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by elaine 20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's abusive, controlling and isolating you from friends and family, and he could become physically abusive next so get out while you can.
2007-07-29 13:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by old crow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he is very controlling! Just talk to him about it. Tell him he needs to eaze up on you..he needs to trust you, if he continues to do that to you, i would look at your relationship further and see if you really want to put up with that..
2007-07-29 13:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by rosie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋