I've been with my bf for almost 3 yrs. We get along GREAT & he is also great with my kids. We rarely if ever bicker & he's the sweetest, most thoughtful person & caring person. My parents & sisters already weren't too crazy about him I guess because he's not as outgoing as they'd like him 2B when he's around. *Personality flaw I guess in their eyes. But when he & I are together or with my kids, he's very outgoing, hilarious and fun. He has stood by me through alot. He made the 1 mistake of calling my kids dad a name, (someone happened to over hear) which I don't agree with. Although the name fits well and everyone else is well aware of that, I did tell him he should have kept that to himself. So now my parents don't really like him & my sisters feel the same. I feel there are worse things he could do. I have a sister who lives with a potential child molester, & everyone wants to hop down my bf's throat over this? My choice is 2 ignore them, he makes ME happy. What do u think?
2007-07-29 12:50:36 · 12 answers · asked by glittereyedg 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
*Carlito,..yes I do have a mind of my own. It was a simple QUESTION, and if you read the last sentence it says I'm IGNORING my family and staying with him....Geez!!!! Just looking for opinions,,,,not saying I side with my family. It's called yahoo QUESTIONS for a reason. LOL
2007-07-29 13:10:02 · update #1
hey girl first off your sister (no disrespect) needs her head examined no d*** is ever worth sacrificing a child's innocence but I'm here to answer your question so pay that no attention. OK my theory is that if the man has stepped up to the plate to take care of another mans kids he has a right to an opinion as long as he don't bash your kids father in their face then who cares. I know for a fact that misery loves company and I hate to say this but most of the time haters and back stabbers are usually family members so if he is down for you and your kids then you do what makes you happy because you cant live for anyone and you surely cant please every one cause someone will always have some negativity so enjoy him but one day make him buy the cow girl
2007-07-29 13:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by fire sign 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to look at how he is with you and your family (kids). If he is truely sweet and you love him, then I would set some limits with the rest of your family. "Be polite to him, no verbal bashing and we will continue to see you guys. If you say anything that I could object to , then we are gone. I love you, but I will not stand for you to be rude to the man I love,"
I'm not saying cut them off for ever - just til the next time. You may have some short visits, but in the end they will understand that you are serious.
Good luck, and a good guy is hard to find - so hang on tight. ..... besides, the hanging on tight can be so much fun!
2007-07-29 20:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by kiwibarb11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got something rare in a good man. He made a mistake, who hasn't? From what you say, I think you handled it well. You didn't make a big deal, you addressed it, and it's done and over with.
My family doesn't like my husband, and I've been married 21 years. It bothers me, but not nearly as much as it would if we had ever allowed their not liking him to pull us apart.
Ignoring them might be overkill, but ignoring their nasty comments is right on track. Time will pass and mostly likely they'll go back to liking him when they see it was a one-time thing.
HTH
2007-07-29 20:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by mrscjr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay with him. a good man is hard to find. when i met my husband my family hated him. but we have been together for 17 years and have 3 kids. your life is yours not your families. they can make their own choices. and you need to make your own. if he makes you happy and is good to your kids you have something special. not many people find that. so tell your family to lay off. good luck
2007-07-29 19:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by brianswife 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he makes you happy stay with him, your not marrying your family..Your family should respect your man. Do what makes you happy not what your family wants you to do
2007-07-29 19:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by rosie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pay no attention to your family. You obviously care for him and he is good to you and your kids. You need to do what you feel is right.
2007-07-29 20:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by froglover_mh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this? Dont you have a mind of your own? Are you going to let your family pick out your next boyfriend? You sound like you cant think for yourself at all. You got this wonderful guy and your going to let your family ruin this for you? He deserves someone who truly cares about him not someone with such doubts.
2007-07-29 19:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! because your family does not make the decision weather you should be with him or not that your man and you partner so if you really love him then don't just leave him because your family does not like him really my family well my mom don't like my GF but i will still love her so....... do take your family choose ok and your avatar it cute i like it really
2007-07-29 20:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by lil'latinoking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He makes u happy. He's great with your kids....ignore them he makes you happy that's what counts.
2007-07-29 19:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by Here Kitty Kitty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy with him,... that's all that matters maybe you and the family should talk about this problem they have with him.
2007-07-29 19:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋