Is it too late? I'm moving from community college to university now. I'm smart and work hard in school. I'm trying to go to law school. But I've never dated, or kissed or had sex. I feel like a loser.
Is it too late for me?
2007-07-29 12:18:01 · 18 answers · asked by sspence966 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm. I don't think so; my current boyfriend was a virgin at age 63, which was sweet. However, he's been quite frank about how definitely I moved him to change his status, which is very flattering.
Take your time. Invite a nice girl to go for coffee, or to the library, or see a campus concert. You can always make female study buddies to learn more about how women think and act and how to become more comfortable around them. Or even take up a hobby that has a lot of women in it, like knitting.
It's never too late . . . .
2007-07-29 12:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, lol you are going from community college to university, I went the exact opposite.
Secondly, it is too late to experience it when you are 6 feet in the ground in a wooden box, by that time it is DEFINITELY too late.
The only thing I haven't done that you mentioned was sex, but the first two I have already achieved.
I am 21 myself, and I don't feel like a loser. Stop being so depressed about not having done those and just go out and be social. Finding a girl is not impossible, in fact it's not hard at all, the only hard part is to get a serious relationship going and continuing it.
How do you start? Easy, just go out in public and start associating with members of the opposite sex. Don't even try and talk to them to date them, just talk casually about random stuff. After associating with women for a while you will become more comfortable about being around them and it will make it easier when talking to a girl you like.
2007-07-29 12:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by drandsv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's too late.
Is there a liquor store near this College? Buy a case of beer, and wait outside the store for an attractive (If that's important) chicky pooh to come strollin' on by. Strike up a conversation, tell her you're new to the school. Then invite her back to your pad for a few cold brewskis. Then if you're lucky, after she downs a few, she'll take it from there! Lots of women find shy sensitive guys attractive when they're drunk! If my genius plan doesn't work, keep repeating this process...it's bound to work eventually man!
There's probably a ton of women at the same College going through the same thing. Some women like the shy compassionate / sensitive guy (which I'm guessing you are), while some women like the overly confident loud obnoxious jock types.
You may need to find the happy medium. There's someone out there for everyone!
Try that liquor store thing...it really works!
2007-07-29 17:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by ramboweasle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never to late ok..
to begin dont call yourself a loser. so youve been working hard on school and havent had time to date its perfectly fine. the one thing you do need to gain inorder to get the attention of a girl is confidence. if you have that then your in with us. yes it is hard to get your confidence level up when your calling yourself a loser so no more calling yourself names. you say that your smart and a hard worker. already i think you sound great. when it comes to girls its all about being your self. just introduce yourself and tell her a little about yourself. the worse that can happen is rejection, but this is life it happens to the best of us. what is even better with girls is a sense of humor. if you have one of those you are golden. be funny tho not stupid. dont push for a laugh alright. just be yourself and you should do fine. whatever you do dont try and hide the fact that youve never had sex. girls can be bitches but they would rather you tell them the truth about you. being a virgin isnt a bad thing many girls find it nice to know they have a guy that isnt infected with diseases. who knows maybe youll find a nice girl thatll teach you some tricks.
good luck
2007-07-29 12:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by bri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never too late. You have to have confidence in yourself. If you are the type that admires women from afar and fear talking to them because they might not like you, you have to change your attitude. Instead of thinking they might not like you, you have to think that they might like you. Why do you think women spend so much money on makeup and perfume and hairstyles and clothes and handbags and etc. Because they want to be attractive. Attractive to whom? Men. I have been told by women that their biggest problem isn't that men hit on them. It is that the right men never ask them out. You have to throw the line out there many times to get a nibble. The best advice and most honest advice I ever got on meeting women was to go up and introduce myself. No corny lines. Just "Hi, my name is..." Strike up a conversation. Look her in the eyes and smile. Be yourself. Remember, if you have a 10% chance of hooking up with a woman and you talk to 10 girls in a month, something will happen. If you talk to one girl a month, well see you next year. The problem is not if women will like you, the problem is that you don't give them a chance.
Now go say hi to that chick you have been thinking about. And smile ; )
2007-07-29 12:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by bullheadbrawlers2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's never too late and you are not a loser. you just need to gain some confidence by accepting who you are and what you want out of life. thats 85% of the battle. next, be persistant(not stalkerish). go to school functions and meet new people. since you are dedicated to education try study groups(thats a great way to meet people with the same goals as yourself). just take one step at a time.
no one likes to build up a little confidence and get rejected so never give up hope with dating. just be honest with yourself and your potential partner.
above all, have fun because no one likes a party pooper!!!
Good Luck!
2007-07-29 12:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Stacey J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself when you are out doing things in public. If a girl talks to you, don't do stupid things to try to make her laugh or make her think you are big and bad. Just act normal and keep the conversation going.
If you find a girl in particular you like, then talk to her and tell her how you feel. Invite her to see a movie or get some food. The rest will come ;)
2007-07-29 12:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by jarron_burdine2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, it's never too late unless you never try. Go to a party on a Saturday or something, meet some people, make your connections. Things will happen on their own accord, just put yourself out there. :)
2007-07-29 12:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by halee8202 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about yourself. I know for a fact that a lot of girls will find you very attractive BECAUSE you are so sweet and innocent. In a sea of guys out there just to conquer and have a sexual encounter, you are refreshing and not intimidating. They will find that very attractive. So just be yourself and honest with girls and treat them with respect and watch what happens. And no, it's not to late. :)
2007-07-29 12:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by smart S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. There's a lot of girls in your situation as well. You just have to start talking to more girls. Don't be shy around them, especially smart girls as well. Good luck.
2007-07-29 12:22:25 · answer #10 · answered by love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋