I mean if you really love a woman and you discover that you have fell in Love with her,then what is your approach to her if she is married? it is love not lust or crush.
2007-07-29 12:17:40 · 31 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
should I suffer?!
The woman doesn't know,shouldn't I take the chance and try to open my heart for her. Maybe she loves me also but it is very hard for her being married to tell me.
and what about values as divine true love that never dies?marriage is then an obstacle to love.
2007-07-29 12:42:09 · update #1
To really love a woman
To understand her - you gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought - see every dream
and give her wings - when she wants to fly
Then when you find yourself lyin' helpless in her arms
Ya know ya really love a woman
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2007-07-29 12:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Love is between TWO people, if she hasn't declared it to you, it is lust or a crush on your side. You may love the way she laughs, etc., but Love is mutual respect for each other, and coming out of the pitfalls together of marital woes, raising children together, can suffice to through the days when one is having the worst days of their life, and the other will always be there. That is true love.
With her being married, and (it appears) she hasn't declared her love for you. Let her go.
2007-07-29 19:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by DollyLama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Quella Bella...I like that song...anyway to the question at hand... I would say listen to your heart, evaluate the situation and then you have a the real question...can you live without her? See if you tell her, depending on your relationship with her, you may make it so uncomfortable that she doesn't feel that you two can be friends any longer. Yes, she may love you too but if that is true than she shouldn't be in a marriage with someone else...it isn't fair for him, her or you. So that leaves us with stay friends be there to support her and if and when she is available you let her know that you have always loved her but DO NOT waste your life waiting for this small possibility.....keep searching or at least keep your heart open to finding that perfect one for you. She has given her heart to another. I know it is hard but sometimes patience is a wonderful thing. If you are confident that you will not damage your friendship you can mention to her in a way that you are asking for advice and apologetic for falling for her but if you love her don't try to manipulate her in your direction. Let her know that you do not want it to interfere with your friendship but respect her enough to be honest....and then most importantly, respect her thoughts and advice at that point. Good luck man...I know love stinks huh
2007-07-30 01:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am going to treat this question as if it is an absolutely serious one.
People fall in love sometimes with the wrong people. You cannot really dictate to your heart who to fall in love with. You can't point to one person and then command your heart: "Fall in love with her." Just doesn't work that way.
Having said that, if you are in love with a married woman, it is best to leave her alone. You have no right to her. She belongs to another. Respect her marriage. Respect her husband. And respect your love for her.
Hannah J Paul
2007-07-29 19:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah J Paul 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she's married, and assuming she is loyal and faithful to her husband, then I'd say you're delusional. Even if she has betrayed her marriage vows by flirting and leading you on, you should distance yourself from her. Why contribute to ruining her marriage? That's not love. Love puts the other person first-as she should also be doing for her husband.
2007-07-30 15:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by beano™ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to repent (turn from) this sin. It is adultry, and God does not like it at all!! You are not suppose to covet someone else's wife. So, repent, and ask Jesus to help you with this sin. Even if you haven't physically done anything, it is still committing adultry in your heart.
Read Phillipians 4:8, and memorize it. It will help you to keep your mind off of things it's not suppose to be on. Hope this helps. I'll pray for you!
2007-07-29 19:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by byHisgrace 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It was necessary to covet her to get to this point, if she
returns your feelings, you've drug her along, and to
pursue the matter is adultery . Consider this, there is
a difference in sinful thoughts and sinful thinking -- get the
thoughts out of the mind and the thinking won't give you
troubles that you're headed full steam towards.
2007-07-29 19:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
respect her marriage. If she shares your feelings, then her marriage is in trouble anyhow, and it is up to her to decide what she will do about that. Unless and until she leaves her marriage, you will need to bear the burden of unfulfilled love, heavy a burden as it is, we have mostly all gone through it.
2007-07-29 19:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Morgana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't. It doesn't matter if it's lust, love, or a crush. She is married, so you have to move on. If you care so much about her, you wouldn't want to ruin her marriage. Pray about it, and don't socialize with her if it's that hard for you to be around her.
2007-07-29 19:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by kaz716 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Eat a cookie and never chew with your mouth open.
the same goes for declaring your love to a married woman.
2007-07-29 19:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋