how do you keep that?? I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months and it doesn't seem like that excitement is there. I mean, yeah, we are both still crazy in love with each other, but that excitement I used to get everytime I saw him isn't the same. How do you keep it exciting and make it more exciting???
2007-07-29 11:38:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to work at it any good relationship goes through waves, the highs and lows....every now and again do something different something neither of you would have thought to do before.....I think our fatal mistake in relationships is in the first months of dating we are trying to get to know each other and we cram so much into those first few months that by the time we lose the infatuation and the sparkle of getting to know each other we feel there is nothing left... WRONG! there is something it's a deeper connection a stronger foundation now is the time to build your relationship forget the sparkly fluff, that was to get him to like you...now that he likes you get him to know and love you...my spark in my last relationship hid after a year I never did know how to get it back and I learned the hard way, that in that time i thought it was dead it was my moment to build on the foundation of my relationship. it never died....try to think of it as a marathon not a sprint
2007-07-29 11:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by TPete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't ... and if you stay with him you'll learn to 'appreciate the 'non-exciting times' and you will 'fall in love' with him over and over again, and 'rekindle' some of that 'initial excitement' you are missing. I've been married to my best friend for 10+ years, and I still get a 'little bit' of excitement when he comes in from work every night ... because he IS my best friend, as well as being my lover, my partner, and my playmate. We still (and will always) actually prefer to 'hang out together' than to include others ... even at home, doing 'separate things' we'll stop and talk, kiss, hug, or just 'give a nice rub' walking by ... and THAT is what TRUE LOVE is all about.
2007-07-29 18:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By keeping the romance alive. Be as romantic as you were when you first met your b/f and he will be romantic right back. Your both are in pretty much of a slump right now and taking one another for granted. Do something different and exciting. I don't know what age you are so I really can't come up with any ideas for you. So, use your imagination and think of different things that will catch him by surprise. Anticipation is the key here. You both will be looking forward to the next day.
2007-07-29 18:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, me and my guy have been together for 2 years, and the excitement is still there! I still get the butterflies! Well, to keep our love exciting, I try to take more risks than usual, because I am more a reserved laid-back person, I just do more things. And I try to go out more, like watchin movies or doing things we both enjoy. Everyonce in awhile, we will just have a nice dinner (just the two of us), and talk about things, like "remember our first kiss?" or "Remember the first time we held hands, and you....?" Just have fun with it. I admit, sometimes things do get boring, but it always works out! If he means a lot to you......then it should work out! GOOD LUCK
I hope it works! ^-^
2007-07-29 18:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by basketballgirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, the excitement doesn't always last, but hopefully a feeling of comfort in each others company and getting to know each other better.
I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months and our favourite thing to do is get into our pyjamas and watch dvds in bed. Not very exciting but very comforting.
2007-07-29 18:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Molly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trying new things! That is the easiest way. Go on dates like you would when you first went out. Do things you haven't done such as rock climbing, skinny dipping, horseback riding, bowling, glow in the dark mini putting, anything you can think of really. Also try new things in the bedroom. Why don't you make your boyfriend a sexy scavenger hunt. Just leave a clues that lead to one another and then to the bedroom (or wherever) where you will be waiting at the end. With each clue you can leave something fun like whipped cream, blindfold, handcuffs, etc... It will be really fun, trust me!
2007-07-29 18:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by . 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Anything that changes was never a reality. Human concepts of excitement and happiness, joy, love, all have an opposite. Only the beingness never changes. Everything in this experience changes. Maybe you are holding to tightly to what cannot be held on to!
2007-07-29 18:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by Premaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months is a short time and to already be feeling this then it must mean neither one of you are worried about losing the other. I believe when it comes to relationships and the more comfortable you become in one the less you feel excited about one another. But my advice is to try new things with one another. Don't keep doing the same things. Keeping it interesting in the relationship will keep you excited about seein one another
2007-07-29 18:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany E 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
By not seeing each other all the time. See to make it excited my boyfriend we see each other not all the time, and this not by choice. I work two jobs and i cant see him all the time and when we have alone time, he cant wait he is so excited like my dog. And passion is beautiful. you have to find out his perks and what he don't likes and what excited you guys in the beginning. Don't give up! OK
2007-07-29 18:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by Susan G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find one of the things you used to do and enjoy the most ... set up a day to do just that. I know the feeling. My husband and I started to become distant after the 5th month as well.
We talked about it and ended up getting together with friends that weekend and went jet skiing ... it felt just like we were dating again. We do one of these things every other week since our job takes up a lot of our time.
2007-07-29 18:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by Xihuateteo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋