I have friends that are atheists, friends that are gay and a friend that is currently committing adultery?

Question

so tell me why 'some' of my Christian friends say that I'm wrong for befriending such people? I am not bias and do not judge others. I look at personality first and help those that ask of me. My girlfriend that is committing adultry with a married man is very wrong in my opinion and she speaks with me a lot on this subject and I listen; however, I will not judge or turn my back on her for this. She is my friend and I believe that she is using poor judgement and will eventually pay for her sin, but I love her nonetheless and will continue to be there for her and the rest of my loved ones no matter. I believe in staying clear of foolish things as my Christian friends constantly tell me. However, when I ask them what foolishness is that can't give me a good answer in my opinion. What would you do if in my situation? What do you consider foolish? Mature answers only.

Pardon me...'they' can't give me a good answer.

Answer 1

I guess those Christian friends would say that Jesus was wrong for hanging out with prostitutes and adulterers and scum of the earth, right?

You're not wrong for befriending those people, girl.

Remember Jesus said "Whatever you do to the least of my brothers, that is what you do to me."

So if Jesus's words are true, then right now you're befriending and supporting Jesus and your friends are judging and rejecting him.

Guess which one of y'all I think is right.

I'm glad your athiest, gay and adulterer friends have you for a friend. You're showing them the example of a REAL Christian.

Answer 2

"Who's more foolish, the fool or the fool who follows him?" Ben Kenobi, Star Wars

For me, foolishness is determined off of the basis of the word fool. A person acting like a fool is foolish. This begs the question of what a fool is. Historically they could be the entertainers of kings, however, they were usually mentally handicapped or laughed at. In the Tarot, the Fool is the character who begins and ends all things, starting the path of growth without knowledge of what is. Several web definitions mark fools as simply those without good judgment. This last point I think embodies the rest the most closely, and may be used to continue to answer the question.

So then something foolish is something that describes when someone makes a decision without good judgment. Of course, this is highly subjective, as good judgment depends on the person perceiving the actions. So, theoretically, any person can be called a fool at any time, although some people have similar standards of what is foolish and what is not. However, these standards must be set by society, a fickle thing at best.

What would I consider foolish? Making a decision without first thinking about the consequences. I would also call delaying a decision foolish. Ignoring what you believe is foolish, although what you believe may be shaped by who you are at the moment. Ignoring your feelings is often foolish, because you were given those feelings for a reason. Of course, acting blindly is also foolish.

To answer Ben's question earlier, neither the fool nor the fool who follows can be more foolish. They are both equally guilty of bad judgment and both equally fools.

Answer 3

I suspect that your friends are concerned that by spending time with these other friends could have a bad influence on you.
I am a Christian, and I disagree with Christians that say you can only befriend other Christians. Jesus called us to show his love to everyone, not to alieanate those who are different.
And while your friends may be sinning, a true friend doesn't abandon you when you make bad choices. How do your Christian friends suggest that to lead people to the Lord if you don't befriend them first? I would ask your Christian friends this question next time they judge you for reaching out.

Answer 4

One of my best friends is a complete tramp. She was pregnant once at a young age and had her boyfriend take care of the problem by certain means that I won't mention. They couldn't afford abortion so took the issue into their own hands. Disgusting and selfish, but she's my friend and I love her. She's a kind person, she has just gone astray in some ways. I'm nothing like her, exact opposite really. But we get along so well. She tells me I'm good for her because I tend to keep her in line when she's around me. Hahah, I hope that one day she'll cool down and realize that what she did in her youth was foolish.

I, like you, look at personality, not faults. Sure she has done some craptastic stuff in her day but what it boils down to is the fact that she's a nice person. I like her company and I'll keep being friends with her.

Answer 5

Your friends may be just too weak in thier own faith(the ones that are judging you and these others) to do this. It takes a person a while to grow as a Christian and keep a perspective on where they came from before Christ and how they needed people to love them in thier sins to help them turn to Christ.

Be patient, with them perhaps they will see the good fruit of your patience.

Answer 6

It is great to want to befriend people, even sinners, because Jesus did the very same thing. The key is to try not to get caught up in the same kind of sin that they are in. The bible tells us that if we are unequally yoked with other people that it is not a good thing, because it can make us fall into the same sin. Something that you consider "ok" for other people can eventually end up being "ok" for you. A truly good friend would tell the sinners around them that they love them, but do not approve of their sinful lifestyle...

Answer 7

Religion has nothing to do with this.

The fact is, we tend to be like the people we associate with. If you choose to keep your friend's adultery a secret, you are betraying whatever trust your friend's husband has in you. That is your choice, but in a technical sense, it's no different than harboring a criminal.

You don't HAVE to expose her, but by supporting her with your friendship, you are condoning and enabling unethical behavior. Again, this is your choice, but in the end, you will learn what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. This is the foolish aspect they are pointing out to you.

Personal honor must come first, for from that is everything else derived.

Answer 8

Your Christian friends don't sound very friendly to me. We all have faults-- though I, personally, with the exception of the swinger, would not consider any of your other friends faulty-- and friendship can only be established if people accept the faults in one another and look beyond them.

That your Christian friends have failed to extend this courtesy to you suggests that they're petty and rude, and certainly not worth your time. If you still wish to remain in their company, however, suggest that they find more "wholesome" friends to discuss their moral problems with, so they can stop bothering you about them.

Answer 9

Hmmmmm. Where is it written that God wanted us to worship him in brick or timber buildings one day a week? From what I read, you are the true meaning of Christian. We are not here to judge what we do not fully understand. Please, do not turn your back on your friends, as I believe that you have been put in this situation for a very good reason. Maybe God is testing your strength as a friend to these people.He knows what is in your heart and it seems to me yours is pretty pure. You do not have to condone what they are doing but I beg of you remain a friend.

Answer 10

While I wouldn't use the language you're using, I think you're trying to be a genuinely kind person.

My only question is: How you would behave toward someone who called your gay friends insulting names, and told your atheist friends they were going to hell? To me tolerance for such discourtesy and judgmental behavior is difficult to justify.