In Indian society; is a passionate kiss viewed as a sexaul gesture, or one of loe and a ffection for ur mate?

Question

My man and I kissed before we were married. We knew we'd make it to the alter, and hoped we'd be together forever...and the situation presented itself..so we took it. Well, one morning, I looked in the mirror and there was proof of our get together on my lip. I didn't have any make-up to cover it, and it was..though tiny, noticeable. Well, after me and my would be said bye, mom and I went home, and she asked about it. I denied it, because I knew what HER reaction would be. But she cautioned that he could still withdraw his marriage proposal(as if word would get out). The mark went away after a bit, and we got married. But mom was a bit shocked when she saw the mark and told me I was acting like a *****(she only implied the word). But I grew up in the west...where a kiss is usually just a kiss, and it's a normal sign of affection between a man and a woman...when they're dating. I know it's a sexual gesture, but to me, it can also be an intimate affectionate one. Is the latter part true

in Indian culture too, or is kissing just for the bedroom? I see bollywood flicks with kissing scenes in them, and I do see the gesture used in a positive and negative light. But I was reminded that it is a sexual thing. But I took it as two people who were really into each other physically showing their affection w/o breaking any morality codes...and he didn't seem to mind either. But mom saw it as a slutty sign. It's not like I slept with him before marriage, but she said since i kissed him, i might as well have. So with this knowledge, i'm left to assume that kissing someone is just as bad as sleeping with them, as far as Indian society is concerned? I know its long, but plz read and give honest responses. thanks.

Answer 1

You are true it can be affection also but in the indian society its taken as sexual spl in adult cases. Kissing is not viwed to be some thing nonsense, but itis to be in relationship.
The acceptance of kissing as normal is more in the higher class of the society then the lower and middle class.
Kissing in relationship is also viewed normal.
But as you stated that you were not married when you kissed your hubby, that pulls down a bit. People are quick to assess you as loose character, thats the way of life here. closed door one would be doing many more things that is not counted but publically they bring culture, religion and lot many sh.... to show that they have high cultural values. You know the culture and dress keeps on changing , we too would be free like western friends but it would take some time.

Answer 2

very tricky question...
Indian society is too complicated for all this. Kiss has a different layers of meaning in the cultural aspect of Indian life. The more you get into it, the more sophisticated it becomes. So keep going your way or choose the highway!

Answer 3

I am not of this culture so I really cannot answer fully, in the USA it is just a sign of affection between 2 people and does not make you a loose woman

Answer 4

Generally, in India a passionate kiss between a male & female is viewed as sexual thing.

Answer 5

no its not..i'm indian too n our society is too out dated...i believe n respect my morals..i'm muslim...but yeah...the thing is...a kiss is different from sex...so you can't treat them the same way....but now that you know you rentz have a problem with it...you shouldn't do it anymore... :D...it could be a sexual gesture if your man thought it to be..you choose what to believe...it could be a sign of love because you choose to believe so right? so if your man thinks the other way around...he wouldn't care about sleeping with you before marraige...if you want to be within the code of your morals....then maybe you should just avoid kissing him for now? save it all for marriage hun :D ...goodluck

Answer 6

so whats the difference b/w intimate, passionate, affectionate?
u can come up with different names of kisses depending on the occassions, and excuse urself by naming them accordingly.
jokes apart, i think, u r too confused, just keep it real.

Answer 7

i dunno about ur cultural background, but to me its all in the mind and every answer we look out for is already answered in our mind if we properly analyse it
what made u kiss?
was it voluntary?
did feel good during ur kiss?
if u anser these questions u sure have the answer
Man is surely a social creature, but wat fun is there if we donthave some self indulgance

Answer 8

a kiss can lead to sex, so i get why your mothere was worried. but you married the guys, it doesn't matter anymore

Answer 9

hi thErE...

dear in indian society sum ppl think dat kissin iz a bigggg sin...okiez f9 i accept dat itz a sin but when u luv sum1...u cannot control ur feelings n u just do it....ya dear in west everythin iz normal but in india...ppl think dat indians hav sum limits n dat they shouldnt cross it.....but u knoe wat......kissin ur bf iz really a beautifullllllllllllll experience...tc...sweet dreamz..bye...

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