my boyfriend likes to talk to other girls.......some of them i dont know....i really dont like that but he dosent understand that and keeps talking to them....what do i do?
2007-07-29 08:55:16 · 20 answers · asked by Kayla L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why don't you talk to him about this, I think you are the right person to set him right
2007-07-29 08:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Goldman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You apparently have been hurt prior to your current relationship. Insecurity is a horrible feeling. Learn to trust. We women ask for to much these days. We want to be the center of attention and have the men stripped of socialization. We don't want women looking at our guy. Hey, look at my guy because I think he looks great and I would be foolish to think other women would think different. We should not feel insecure in our relationships because just like you chose him, he chose you. Until you two express to each other that you are not compatible, learn to trust until given a reason not to. We will never know everybody our partners socialize with so don't be so suspicious. He has to be the one to tell the girls he encounter that he is in a relationship. Believe it or not some of us girls have great friends that are guys and they are in a relationship. We just have to give our friends space so we don't destroy their relationships. Some guys have friend girls that they may consult with understanding what a woman wants and needs are. We are always wanting to modify our guys to fit us. We don't stop to think that maybe we are not with the right guy. There is someone out there for everybody but are we willing to wait? I think you and your guy are fine. He seems comfortable enough with you that he doesn't worry about things like you do. He may feel that the two of you are together and no other girl is a threat to your relationship. Stop Stressing and enjoy your relatioinship.
2007-07-29 16:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by flirty30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing I am a guy with more female friends than male friends, I have ran into this problem when I have had relationships. Most girls I have dated understood it because I was friends with them and talked to them a lot before becoming a couple.
2007-07-29 15:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by The Stylish One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u like it?
Is he disrespecting you or just being friendly?
Are you just getting jealous for nothing or is there a real reason?
If he is just being friendly then join in and make sure that you both speak to boys too.
One bit of advice.... keep your friends close... and your enemies even closer!
So, if there is a girl you really don't trust that he is friends with, make it your business to be friends with her, that way you get to know all about her and her ways and you won't get left out
Good luck!
2007-07-29 16:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by angi zefi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not giving you any reason to not trust him, then I don't see what your issue is. Guys don't just stop talking to girls because they have a girlfriend/wife and girls don't stop talking to guys because they have a boyfriend/husband.
Unless he starts giving off signs of cheating, then you need to settle your own insecurities and stop being so jealous. If he's going to cheat on you, then he's a dirtbag and not worth your time anyway.
2007-07-29 15:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by lanagrl78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and ask him in a sweet voice about why and how he knows her and likes to talk to her. But at the same time respect the fact that he has his own rights to decide who he talks to
2007-07-29 15:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by Marisol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must feel very insecure to let this bother you. You can't build a fence around every person you care about and expect them not to communicate with other people.
2007-07-29 16:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk is OK. But if it concerns you, you do need to tell him. Just be careful how you approach him with it, you may end up with the opposite result of what you want.
2007-07-29 15:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Doom Tints 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start flirting with guys. The only way for him to understand is to get him to internalize it. Also does he go out of his way to talk to the girls you don't like or is it at school. If he goes out of his way he's probaly sleeping with one of them.
2007-07-29 15:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by kauthon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend...set your standards for your life and if they aren't lived up to...move on.
A guy who doesn't "get it", ain't going to.
He's doing what he wants to do without feelings for what you are asking him to do...so move on.
You can't change people.
If how he acts upsets you...and your talking to him doesn't get absorbed into his character trait...then move on.
He's got plenty of woman to keep him company...his type of girl is one who doesn't mind sharing him with the world.
On the other hand, your type of guy is loyal, faithful and trustworthy.
Find him.
The one you are with is not that type.
Move on.
Life is too short to try to change people who won't change.
2007-07-29 16:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by cadvadvocate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, it sounds like you are blowing it up a bit... what's wrong with talking with other girls? (as long as thats all he is doing) do you really expect him to not talk to any other girl at all??? either you ar blowing this out of proportion, or you need to reword this using a better word than "talk"...
2007-07-29 16:00:41 · answer #11 · answered by verliererkolben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋