I feel like such a failure?

Question

I've been trying to find a job for such a long time I go on job interviews but never get the job. I think I'm depressed my family hates me I have no friends. I'm 25 years old and feel as though I have wasted my life. I really need a job and everytime I don't get one I feel even worse. I have been thinking about suicide so much lately but there's a tiny part of me that really doesn't want to die but life is so hard for me. I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

Sweetie... you are not a failure. I think you need some therapy. It helped me.

Hugs for you. ((((((greywolf_222))))))

Answer 2

How you interview may be a problem especially if you are going to it with a feeling that you will not get it.

Go with the idea that it does not matter whether you get the job or not. You'll go in a lot more relaxed.

If you do not get the job, you will not be in any different position than when you went to the interview. On the other hand, you will have more experience with interviews.

There is a standard set of questions that interviewers are currently asking. If you remember them, then write them down and write down your answer. Then you will be prepared the next time you go to an interview.

Take an active role in your job search. Do not just wait until a job ad shows up on the Internet or in a newspaper.

Make job hunting your job. Call every personnel manager in your area. If they don't answer the phone, then ask receptionist for their name and send them a resume.

If you are willing, offer to work for 2 weeks free. If you don't work out, they don't need to pay you. But if they like your work then they can pay you.

This step is important, if they agree. Send them an email with your proposal. Employers have extremely bad memories when it comes to verbal agreements.

I'm betting you won't be long finding a job.

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Answer 3

It's hard to get a job if you are feeling down about yourself. If you have no criminal background I would go to a place that cares for the developmentally disabled. They always need help. Try to be upbeat at the interview-at least smile. You will start to feel better if you start caring for others and these people really need you. It could be a start and maybe you'll find that you would like to become a nurse or a social worker. Most friends that I have I have met on the job. We tend to think when we are in high school that those people will be our friends forever and they turn out to move on and we have no-one. Believe me just because you don't have friends doesn't mean no one likes you. Some of us are just put on this earth to accomplish things, but not really be known by the world. Probably a lot of people like you, you just don't have best friends when you get older like you did in school. Even if you don't get a job think about volunteering at a senior center at lunch time. Sometimes the older people love to have someone younger around and look forward to going just to see you. Sometimes that's what real friends are--someone you only see for a few minutes, but you make their day. Good luck!!!!

Answer 4

Wha wha... Life is tough, get used to it and stop whining. Maybe you don't get a job because you have such a negative attitude. You may be unqualified for the jobs that you are trying to get. Or you may be asking for an unrealistic income. Or you are doing something on the interviews that is undermining your ability to be taken seriously by an employer. Always put your best foot forward on an interview. Get a haircut or fix your hair nicely, wear clean, neatly pressed, conservative clothing... nothing low cut or revealing, nothing see through, no short skirts, no body piercings and no visable tattoos. Wear dress clothes and shoes and nylons. Do not try to make any fashion statements. Speak clearly and do not use slang or ghetto talk if you listen to that rap crap. Try to sound intelligent. Make sure your spelling on the application is correct. Do not wear perfume or cologne because most women use way too much and actually stink rather than smell nice. Don't wear a lot of make-up or jewelry.

You will only have friends if you are a friend. So find someone your age and strike up a conversation with her. Stop being so self centered. There are other people in the world who have problems a lot more serious than yours. You are not the first person who has had problems finding a job and you won't be the last. Your family is probably tired of listening to your constant whining. Try going to a nursing home and volunteer to visit with the elderly people there who have no one. Read to the blind residents.

Learn to look outside of yourself. There's a big wonderful world out there, but you will never see it if you can't see any further than your nose. The world doesn't revolve around you, so get out there and join it and make a difference.

Answer 5

Don't be too hard on yourself. Finding a job takes time.
Why do you think your family hates you?, I'm sure they don't.
Suicide is no way out, that's just a selfish act, life is hard. Life is what you make it.

Maybe you are trying for jobs that are out of your league. Make sure you have the experience they are looking for before going in.
Once you apply and if you have not heard back in 3 days, call them, it lets them know you are interested.
Be upbeat but not wired up and look them in the eye during the interview.

Answer 6

OHHH graywolfy....it's a symbol of strengh and mystery

Dont be hard on yourself we get it from so many other places and people. Don't join them in bringing you down .
You are worth so much more ,
Just keep in mind that life has it's hard times and good ones ,But show the world that you have your head up and you look fabulous carry a postive attitude and love yourself so much that you can't possibly hurt yourself...
it would hurt and you'd end up in a place that you can't come back from for eternity...... you know what i mean....

smile honey.. it's starts. with a I LOVE MYSELF Morning -afternoon-night.. friend are around the corner or on this web-site. Your family if they really hate you you don't need them..

There is a such thing as given family and chosen...
so listen to me... haha...

And change your resume format.... be active and laughter is good... And i don't ever want to hear that some thing that was given to you so valuable theres no one like you you can't be replace you.... And that you want to trash it, give up, give it away.. like it is nothing... love yourself so we can love you..... otay....!!!!
failure is a word not a way of life

smile

Answer 7

I feel like this at times too, in fact, I'm in college now and need a job, have gone through an abusive relationship, lost all my friends, etc. I nearly comited suicide too but something happened when my heart was racing, I suddenly realized I wanted to live even if everything was so bad. Death is not the answer b/c it has no guarantees. The tiny part in you realized that it would want to live if it didn't have so much pain to deal with. Pain will always exist but finding a way to cope with it is key. You should speak with a counselor and might find that you have a chemical imbalance that makes it harder to cope with everything. Don't be upset at yourself, you are reaching out for help and that is one step closer to being able to deal with things better. I've learned to write or paint whenever I feel so dark or get negative thoughts. It helps me get it out when I can't find people who care. If you want to email me please do, I've been through this and I'm living proof that it's hard but possible to make it.

Answer 8

Don't feel so alone. I've been there and done that before. Finding a job is hard work. It's extremely exchausting and boring. But, at least you're trying. Failure is for people who stops trying. As for not having friends, don't be so sad on that- it's life. Life takes you to different directions and sometimes will split away friends. Even family. Familys no matter how much you think your family hates you, they don't. familys are forever. and no matter how much you think you fail, your family will always be there for you to lean on. Don't give up on your job hunt. The best one is yet for you to have. You just need to find it. Good luck

Answer 9

Ok, take some deep breaths.

You need to take care of yourself. Go get the phone book and get the suicide hotline number. Call it.

If you can't get the words"I'm thinking about suicide" out, just say " I think I need help", let the person take some of this weight off, just for a while.

You are thinking clearly enough to know you are depressed and you are brave enough to admit your feelings are getting out of control.

The world can drive you crazy. It can be frustrating. It does hurt to be rejected after job interviews. You are really strong to keep applying. It's a tough economy.

I am 51 years old and survived leukemia 10 years. I lost my job and everything except my baby. A lot of the best times of my life happened after I was 26.

Please please let us know you are OK!

Answer 10

You are so young with a wonderful life in front of you. If are are really depressed please go to your local mental health care or someplace where you can talk to someone. It will help you alot. My daughter had similar problems and talking with a counselor really helped her. She dropped at of high school but this year at age 26 got her GED and is now taking some college classes. I am 51 now but for my 18th birthday an Aunt gave me a little picture that says "Today is the first day of the rest of your life". That little saying has a lot of hope in it. So you have not wasted your life. There are places to go for help, sometimes it takes a bit of searching to find them.

Answer 11

I'm sorry you're feeling so down. You really, really need to see a therapist & talk to your doctor about getting on anti-depressants. You should also start journaling. Often times, our inner feelings reflect to the outside world even when we do our best to act happy. It's intuition that tells us when someone isn't happy, as well as subtle things you do and say that portray your unhappiness. It's a catch-22 , b/c when we're sad, we need people more, but it pushes people away. No one can love you if you don't love yourself. I've been on anti-depressants, and trust me, they work. It took a bit to figure out which one worked for me, but eventually, I found it and am much happier. I also recommend reading A Purpose Driven Life if you're religious at all. You'll realize that no matter how bad you feel, God loves you no matter what and you're here for a purpose. Good luck to you.