I've been "friends with benefits" with this guy for over two months now. But it's been a while since the last time we hooked up, and I saw him on a party. Most of the night we ignored each other, but I wanted to end up with him so badly that I asked my friend to talk to him. She told him that I wanna hook up again, no emotions involved and no strings attached...of course, she told him how I told her that he was awesome in bed. everything went great cuz he made plans for us to meet and hook up next saturday. but I didn't know that cuz I went up to him before talking to my friend. While we were talking,I was standing so close to him, I was a bit drunk, and I just couldn't resist and I kissed him. then I went home, and my friend said that he was a bit angry and said "you women are all the same"... so now I have no idea what to do...it's not like I'm in love or anything, but I just want to have sex with him so much and now I'm afraid that I've ruined everything...please help. any advice?
2007-07-29 08:34:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No matter how bad you want him. No matter how bad he wants you. DON'T DO IT. Trust me, I am getting out a situation similar - we were hooking up for a year. (We were together for four years prior). As much as I tried to keep my feelings for him out of it, and we did have SOOO much fun, Deep down I DID want him back. I was secrectly hoping he'd say "Oh yea, I do need you in my life." But I tell you, since I had a talk with him about the fact that I am dating someone now, he has been really upset about it and wanting me more. The thing I learned is that a guy can't miss you if you're there. Don't give him any, make him think YOU are in control, and see how he reacts. You deserve better than someone who just uses you on the side. I deserved better too, and I feel SOO much happier because of it. Don't get me wrong, I LOOVED this guy I was with, but the friends with benefits is NEVER a good thing. Good luck and PLEASE t hink of your needs FIRST for once :)
2007-07-29 08:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can't take the most intimate physical act between to people and remove emotion. I have never had a "friends with benefits" relationship work. Quit treating sex as something casual or you will get used over and over. Move on and look for more meaningful relationships in the future.
2007-07-29 15:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by civil_av8r 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Okay for one.. the whole friends with benifits never works out and Two.. Youneed to have more respect for your self then to allow your self and you should have more respect them to use others this way.. My suggestion realize that you need to take a hard look at yourself and the people around you and possibly grow up because if you cant even walk up to the man and talk to him what makes you think you can even have this kind of NON_relationship..
2007-07-29 15:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by Laine 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When he said..."you women are all the same", don't you think that perhaps he was referring to you being promiscuous???
Maybe he doesn't want to hook up with you because you are being too aggressive. Some guys like that and other's don't. He wants you to be the booy call, not the other way around.
*PLEASE remember to use protection....!
2007-07-29 15:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do u want to have sex with him? Sex is sumething thtat you should only get involved in when you are ready and with someone you care about. I dont think that you should continue being F.O.Bs with him. Being F.O.B. is not sumething that is respectable.
F.O.B=Friends With Benifits
2007-07-29 15:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is for you to get psychological help. You have no self esteem. This guy is not worth your attention or affection. How could you ask a guy to have sex with you, no strings attached? You obviously want more from him than sex.
2007-07-29 15:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Dianne B 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Try having a little self respect and you may get treated with respect in return, you acted pathetic and desperate, this guy has no reason to respect you and is probably looking for his next conquest.
2007-07-29 15:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by roppin r 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
play your part ! if he wants u you he will tell u, remember unless u r told u r good in bed don't assume that you are, just because he was good for you does not mean you were good for him, either way be rally really cool play the part of ok i messed up it wasnt that bad and say if u messed up any plans he had with someone else that u would make it up to him ,lie and say u would find him another hot girl(but u r lying of course)and just play the part be cool but "dont say u r sorry ,that would b admitting to your fault ". BE COOL .
2007-07-29 15:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by q45dip 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
tell him u don't want any strings attacted but you still want to be with him and you can see where it goes from there.
sometime men like having a girl with no strings attacted
2007-07-29 15:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by sassy 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I guess the only thing you can do is show up next weekend and see what happens. if he's there, too, you have your answer.
2007-07-29 15:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by freespirit 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋