The girl I like has been in a lot of bad relationships with guys who are complete assholes. She is a very sensitive person and an amazing person that has been hurt alot. She says thats she is about ready to give up on relationships because she is tired of getting hurt.
I am not an asshole, I am very respectfull, have good morals and have been told I have a good personality
How do I make her see that I am for real, that I am not an asshole like those other guys?
PLease help me.
2007-07-29 07:41:19 · 12 answers · asked by I am Noodles! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't. She needs to see it on her own, sorry..
Been there, I know what it is like to hate all men because of one guy... Just let her be.
2007-07-29 07:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Myra G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is having a bad day or something ask her if she'd like to go out for ice cream or give her some handpicked flowers, tell her things that are personal about you when you are alone and when it feels right, and just try to show her you will be there for her, which is going to be very hard, but don't give up and if the time is right and she says she is about to give up again tell her not to give up, give her a hug, and tell her that you've seen her get hurt, but you'll be there for her and that she is something too special to get hurt again. then you could ask her if you could be the guy to treat her right.
good luck :]
2007-07-29 07:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by rave_runner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i got the same problem you don't even know its like were going after the same girl here.
Well theres nothing much you can do but to get her trust and talk to her like you really care about her and that she is the only you care about. Dont be going and looking at other girls just spend time with her get to know her allot better. This is going to take a long time i have the same problem. GOOD luck to you brother
2007-07-29 07:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. She will have to see for herself by how you treat other people in situations you don't even know she knows about. :) If she is interested in you she will have friends check you out a bit.... So you'd better keep it real...and really be a good guy like you say!
2007-07-29 07:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by all_stardusty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just continue to be nice and comforting but don't go so far that she thinks your JUST friends. tell her how you feel and be completely sincere. its not bad to bring up the fact that she's had relationships gone bad, it might actually help your case. just tell her the truth, that your not like the rest of those guys and you want her to be with you for who she is not what she looks like or any other dumb reason. she sounds like your type of girl so fight for her. and another tip, if one of her ex's messes with her... stick up for her. in this case its okay to get in the middle because you care about her. hope that i helped.
2007-07-29 07:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just have to give her time to see that you are the real deal. She will need the time to build her trust in you. Just be yourself, show her patience and understanding and let her know that she can always count on you to be there for her in any situation.
2007-07-30 05:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jacqueline M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time to prove yourself. Slowly, surely and consistently let her know that you really do care. One thing is for sure - BE HONEST with this girl. Lies can sometimes be devastating.
2007-07-29 07:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back up your words with actions. She's heard it before, seen it before, lived it before. Until you can consistently back up your words with actions, which will take time, she's going to be very careful before opening up her world to you. You can not MAKE her see anything but you can control your actions by giving her evidence to see.
2007-07-29 07:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Smith S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her in a special way such that she will herself see the difference,and take you as a very special person.
2007-07-29 07:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to do something to really impress her. Find out what impresses her the most, then do it. And make sure she finds out about it or sees it herself. Don't do anything really stupid, however, no female is worth that much trouble.
2007-07-29 07:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by mac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋