My boyfriend has been friends with this one girl that he knows since about 7th grade. (Note he's in senior year now.) Since he was younger he had he biggest crush on her and thought she was just about the perfect person. However, my and my boyfriend have been best friends since seventh grade to but our relationship was always choppy because of different situations we had been through. The only thing that would make me think that it was choppy was that we went to the same school and him and his other best friend didn't. Growing up with him always talking about her was an upset since he tells her just about everything. He always use to say I was his best friend like his number one which didn't seem to matter much to me. But once he started putting what she thought over what I thought it upset me and now that were going out I don't know if I should worry about him and her but it just seems like they're way to close and theres still chemistry between them. Am i jealous or practical?
2007-07-29 05:44:48 · 8 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks all of your answers are really sweet and uber thought out I totally appreciate it! The only thing I forgot to add was that I have talked to my boyfriend about it and he just laughed and said really you think that? And i explained why I had felt that way and he said I'm the only one who he thinks is perfect in his life. I know I should believe him and I do but it just seems like although we talked about it and I don't want him to ruin his friendship for me, it seems as if though he's still sort of flirty with her. I love him to pieces but just wish he could prove that I'm the only one he wants.
2007-07-29 05:59:19 · update #1
Practical. I would be careful though coz if he hasn't ever had a relationship with her, he might someday end up having it. Especially if he still holds her in awe. I would be prepared for any disappointments in this case, i guess.
2007-07-29 05:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little of both.
Hyothetically, if his best friend were male, would it matter then?
My best friend, and we have been through thick and thin together, is female. My biggest sticking point with anyone I get into a serious relationship with, is her. I refuse to give up a 11+year friendship, for the sake of avoiding jealousy.
There best friends, nothing more nothing less.
Maybe you should sit down with him and talk abotu it without getting irritated, or hurt.
2007-07-29 12:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous and he's likely pushing your buttons. Don't let him know how you feel. Play it like it's nothing and he'll stop if he cares about you. High school romances are learning relationships. Learn about you and know that he is lucky to be with someone so accepting of his other friendships. That will puzzle him and take a second look at what he might be giving up.
2007-07-29 12:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by CM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have a right to be jealous... you want to be the #1 girl in his life and it seems like you are both #1...... I would be very jealous too if I were you. Sound like they are too close for comfort. Talk to him about it.,
2007-07-29 12:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by Betrayed and Insane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ur in a tough situation!!! one hand you want to trust him because you love him and the other because of they way he sees her. I would just honestly tell him they way you feel and if he is truly in love with her he should tell u b4 u get really hurt
2007-07-29 12:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little of both. However, if your boyfriend swears that nothing is going on between them, you have to believe him.
2007-07-29 12:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither i know i have been i his shoes my best freind was a female she even stood up for me at my weding. we even dated in school but we made good freinds but we where a bad couple onn the other hand teenage boys will humanything that moves
2007-07-29 13:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by waynes big world 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very practical to be worried about it. if he starts flirting with her he plain isnt worth it. but if it bothers you talk o him and ask if he likes her or if she flirts with him, and if so does he flirt back. dont jump down his throat but stand strong and dont be too influenced by what he says. if it sounds like hes telling the truth, then he probably is. follow your heart and good luck!
2007-07-29 12:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by stefi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋