thurs night a neighbors dog killed my neighbor/friends cat.
ive been there for her------other then that i dont know what to do?????????????????help
2007-07-29 05:20:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Cats
Just listen to them!! thats all you can do.. don't go get them another cat! that would hurt them.. that truly sucks.. offer to kill the dog.. time will heal the wounds... nothing more you can do...
2007-07-29 05:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by mommy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being there for her, listening to what she has to say, and comforting her is about all you can do at this time. If you immediately suggest that she get a new cat, it'll make it look like you think of cats the same way you think of toasters- you buy it, it dies, you just go out and get another one and pretend nothing happened. She needs time to cherish the memory of her cat. She'll move on when she's ready. Some people take months or even years to get over losses like this, and some are ready to get another pet in a couple of days. Just don't rush her. Someday she's going to want another kitten; this is where the "get her a kitten" part comes in. When you know she truly wants a kitten again, you could get her a kitten and give it to her as a present, or you could even accompany her when she goes to get a new kitten.
2007-07-29 16:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mother In Laws cat was just killed by a fox yesterday. The only think you can do is to be there. Have the person take all of the cats stuff like, bowls, toys, etc away so they dont have a daily reminder of it. ( dont throw it away- put it in a bag in the basement attic, etc)That will help.
Also, try to keep your friend busy so they are not sitting around being sad. Most likely they feel guilty and they shouldn't.
AND IF A NEIGHBOR"S DOG KILLED THE CAT- CONTACT ANIMAL CONTROL! I am sorry for your friend, it is like losing a family member...
2007-07-29 12:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for the person, let them talk about the cat, for AS LONG AS IT TAKES. Don't try to tell the person they should be 'over it' after a month.
Depending on the person, when they are sure they're ready, help them find a new cat.
Just be a good friend and make sure they know you want to help them through this tough time in their life. Condolences to your neighbor too, loosing a pet from such a violent accident must be terrible.
2007-07-29 12:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a person I would say bring them food since they would be busy with all the planning. Since it is a cat just you being there is help enough - its more of a thing that they need to get over personally. I do suggest if the cat was killed on the street help them out by figuring out how to get rid of any "stains" because that is really hard to see if your pet got killed in front of your house.
2007-07-29 12:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Toni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them vent, cry, or talk about their pet. The worse thing you could possibly do is say it was "just" a cat. That's the last thing someone who's lost a pet wants to hear. If they start talking about wanting another cat go with them when they to get them. All of this will help.
2007-07-29 12:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jay's Girl 4Ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would offer to buy them a new cat. Also help them collect all of the photos of their cat and their cat's things. Put them someplace special. Or if (Very unlikely) You have a cat or kitten you are willing to spare give it to them. My cat died once and I was heartbroken when my mom threw out his collar tag! Or you could just leave them alone to keep their greef. Some people think it is to much for them to see things that remind them of their cat while others need badly to remember their lost buddy.
2007-07-29 12:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth Keebler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pet is just like a family member. So actually, you are doing everything possible that can be expected of you as a friend. Words are not necessary, it's your being there for them that is more important. You are a good friend and neighbor.
2007-07-29 12:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
kill the dog!!! or cheer her up by visiting her
a catchy phrase: "If you really love her just let her go" or "memories are kept in the heart" (I meant this phrase for the cat not for relationships...)
if you got a pet died when you were a boy try talking about it to her like how you feel about it and how you moved on and you still cared about your dead pet.
2007-07-29 12:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by ClickMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how close she was with her cat, right now is probably a bad time to suggest getting a new one. She needs time to grieve the loss of her friend, and your support is crutial.
I say - just be there for her. In time - she will be ready to move on, until then - she will need your shoulder.
2007-07-29 12:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by apinkfreak 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋