OK here goes my fiance and I are getting married next summer we are gonig to charter a yacht. Catch is the max ppl on board would be 149 but after looking at the yacht i simply think that is too many people i want everyone to have fun and not be so squished. So we decided to see about having adults only on board I mean that way our families could meet (1st time) and also everyone can relax without worrying about chasing kids around. Not only that our familes are huge and if we didnt just do adults we would have to cut our guest list and not invite some people which are really important to us. So we thought about informing everyone that it would be a 4 hour adult cruise wedding only to refrain from bringing the children with the acception of the flower girl, ring bearer, which the flower girl is our child so obviously we would keep her and 2 other children as we are doing it close to my home town my fiance's family is from florida and would not be able to make such arrangements help
2007-07-29 04:39:06 · 22 answers · asked by Sasha R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
1. there is nothing wrong with having and 'adults only' affair
2. some people will find this offensive because they do have children and use other people's wedding as an excuse for free babysitting or using it as an excuse to become the attention whore
3. i strongly suggest that you have back up plans because there will ...i say that THERE WILL be those that will disregard your 'adults only' notice and proceed to bring their own children. have back up plans such as watchmen who will make sure that children are not allowed and or make sure to have a babysitting service complete with games and activies.
4. do not tell anyone of the children that are coming (in the wedding party)...it's really none of their business.
i don't think that weddings are a place for children to begin with because their attention span is short and all they want to do is play. so provide an atmosphere where children can be children. believe me...i remember being younger and being in my uncle's wedding. all i wanted to do is play. i was so bored at that wedding.
2007-07-29 11:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding honey and you set the rules. Guests should be honored that they are invited and accept your decision. I'm sure those with kids can find a baby sitter for a few hours and by the way i prefer adult weddings whether on yachts on on dry land. Some people just can't control their kids. I've been to weddings where some children were a real pain. So congrats and enjoy your day!
2007-07-29 05:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Scarlet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with an adult wedding on a cruise ship . . .
but you cannot ask some children and not others. It will cause hard feelings. I think it would be okay to have your own child, the flower girl. You could probably get by with it if she was the only child there. But if you invite only 4 children and not the others, some guests may take offense.
2007-07-29 04:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Suz123 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a great idea. It's YOUR wedding day so it should be just as you want it to be. You have many valid points about the presence of children and anyone who has ever been to a wedding with children knows they are just a distraction and generally a nuisance. Perhaps you could ask a few of the guests and see what kind of feedback you get before making the final decision. You might find that some parents are receptive to the idea of a planned afternoon away from their kids....so in effect everyone would win with your idea.
2007-07-29 04:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Rusty R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly acceptable.
However, if his family has many children and they're coming a long way, you might want to consider hiring a baby sitter (or two depending on how many kids there are - see about "renting" a daycare provider) to entertain the kids at the hotel where everyone is staying. This way, the kids have fun and the adults don't have to decline the invite because there's no place for their rugrats.
2007-07-29 06:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adult only wedding receptions are very common. Just make sure that everyone knows well in advance. Start passing the word around now that it's going to be adults only that way people can make arrangements for child care.
2007-07-29 04:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Adult only wedding is a great idea and it makes the whole event enjoyable for everyone. If someone gets offended who cares because it is your wedding. Don't settle for something else to make other people happy because it is not possible to make everyone happy. Focus on yourself and what both of you want because it is your day after all.
2007-07-29 05:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that it's a long cruise and you'd prefer for them not to bring their children. but if you have out-of-town guests, you should really plan for them to bring their kids. you can also send an invite for a certian number of people so that the person you invite can bring their spouse or thir child but would know not to being everyone in their family if you don't have room for them.
2007-07-29 05:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Erica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a wonderful idea. Plus that way you won't have to worry about anyone's kids running all over the place and possibly getting hurt or ruining your special day. Hopefully all your guests will be understanding of this as well. Good luck and congrats!!
2007-07-29 04:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by hotblonde1305 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How shallow can you get? A mature couple would realize that while the wedding is theirs to enjoy and celebrate. It's also about family. This includes children. There are plenty of times to have "Adult Only" gatherings. Weddings should not be one of them if you invite guests who have offspring. What are you going to tell your kids? Mommy and Daddy on their most special day didn't want to have kids around bloating the guest list!
2007-07-29 05:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Good Guy 327 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋