What is the secret of a sucessful marriage that lasts forever?
2007-07-29 04:12:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your forever partner needs to be someone (1) you love; and (2) you can live with. Love alone isn't enough. You have to be on the same page about religion, having kids, and fidelity. You must agree on handling money (how much debt you are willing to carry, how much you will spend now versus save for retirement, what you will spend money on). You have to be on the same page as to how much involvement you will have with your extended families. You have to be able to disagree with one another and resolve disputes in a compatible way.
You also have to let your guard down. You have to trust your spouse to do the right thing. You have to let your spouse know what's going on in your head -- when you're upset, it's just as important to let your spouse know when it ISN'T her fault (i.e., when you're upset about work or something else).
I would also add that your forever partner should be someone whom you don't want to change. (Would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who is constantly trying to change you? Who scrutinizes your behavior and constantly shows disappointment that you don't live up to her standards? The woman you choose doesn't want to be in this position, either.) You should be willing to take her "as is." Yes, of course you will learn to compromise on the small stuff. But I tend to believe you need to be able to say, if my prospective spouse remained exactly as she is until the day she dies, that's OK with me.
2007-07-29 04:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marry your best friend. Don't marry for lust or money or because someone gives you goose bumps. Marriage is tough. It's spending every single day of your life, and literally sharing it, with another human being. It takes tolerance, compromise and a lot of self sacrifice. You have to be able to accept them the way they are. Going into marriage knowing that no matter what happens that you are making a commitment to this person and that divorce is not an option will make you forgive and forget more easily. Laugh together as often as possible.
2007-07-29 04:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage to my best friend/high school sweetheart lasted a short two years, although we had been together a total of 8 years. My second marriage has lasted 15+ years and is still going strong! I have found that respecting each other, being open and honest about EVERYTHING, and continuing to work at it is the answer. Two things that couples always fight about are money and sex. Once you get that down to science, your marriage will continue to blossom.
Marriage is not an exact science or we wouldn't be answering this. It takes commitment, love, respect, and the willingness to compromise at times.
Hope that helps!
2007-07-29 04:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by aim_4_profit 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick a person with very high quality character -- be a person of high character -- and treat them well! Communicate, be kind, be selfless and place each other as your highest priority. Be flexible and patient too. I've only been married for 8 months, but I know I found a keeper -- and I always work on being the kind of woman that a man would like to keep!
2007-07-29 10:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by mj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry the right person.
I'm not being flip. I have been happily married for 37 years. This is the key. Marry someone who is a good person. Marry someone whose company you enjoy. Marry someone who has similar taste and values to yours. Marry someone who has similar goals.
Good luck.
2007-07-29 04:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honesty and trust
2007-07-29 04:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wisdom and patience.
2007-07-29 06:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋