My male friend who is my ex boyfriend and i have agreed to have sex (we were together in high school for about a month). we've been together physically several times since but nothings ever eventuated.
So we agreed to have sex (we're both virgins), but he seems to be putting it off. We decided this about a month ago, and he "never has time" or he's always just oh so busy, but he has time to go out with his uni mates every friday and saturday night. He has time to go out with a group of 'awesome' girls from university because they're so so 'awesome' and he doesnt miss the chance to make sure that i overhear that fact, but he has no time to have sex :S He says he'll call to let me know when he's free. But he doesn't call. I dont want anything more than just sex from him and he knows that, so why is he messing with me. Come on, its SEX and he's a guy. what's going on here?!
ps:this guy doesnt have feelings for me, he's had so much time and chances to ask me out but never has
2007-07-29 03:53:01 · 8 answers · asked by ambience212 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as if he doesnt want to have sex with me! he's agreed hasnt he? he's a guy for gods sake
2007-07-29 04:00:17 · update #1
Maybe he realized that you were both going to feel badly after having your first time be merely physical, and he's letting you both off the hook. Tell him you think that you should both wait a bit. If he starts coming around more, there's your answer.
Do yourself a favor - don't just try to get it over with. Wait for the right time.
2007-07-29 03:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are HIGH he's already having a lot of sex and so why have it with you if there's no emotional ties or appeal? He's got male friends, chicks that dig him, and school going on...why bother with an ex who just wants to get laid?
Sorry sugar but he's not interested and contrary to popular belief, although guys do think about sex, they turn down PLENTY of opportunities...especially if they are sure things. For some guys the challenge or pursuit is as much or more fun than the event itself...he knows you'll have sex with him and you make it clear you are anxious for that to happen. If he gets hard up he may turn to you...that's not meant to be a slight on you but just saying you're so readily avaialble that he doesn't feel the need to do that with you when he's got other options that challenge him a bit.
I'd suggest forgetting about this with him and moving on. Have sex with someone who is worth sharing your body with...you'll enjoy it a LOT more.
2007-07-29 11:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are out for sex. As you said you are friends since
high school, maybe he has more friends feelings and doesn't want to ruin that. Or he's really scared or maybe he has feelings for someone else and he's confused. Who knows. If he avoids you then leave it that way, don't lose a friend for sex. I bet his friendship is greater than simple sex. Best wishes....
2007-07-29 11:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Luis Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys will have sex with any girl. Maybe your friend changed his mind. Doing something for the first time can be quite scary... including sex.
2007-07-29 13:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he wants to have sex with you. If its his first time he maybe wants it to be special with someone he has feelings for.
If you just want sex I am sure you can find a guy. I think you will be dissapointed with it though.
2007-07-29 11:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read the signs...he isn't gonna do it. find a new boyfriend and lose this guy.
2007-07-29 10:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is Gay!!! or he got a really small feet.....or he doesn't want to have sex with you....
2007-07-29 10:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by Twinkie Thief 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
never ever never. this guy is just odd.
2007-07-29 11:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋