I'm 23 and still a virgin. I refrained from sex because i believe/d that i'll meet my "dream woman" and lose it to her (also being a virgin), basically, to one i would one day marry. But its all looking bleek at the moment and i have doubts that i'll never ever get to find that one person. (as people keep saying "you'll find her, just wait"). Well i just think thats craap now.
Its not that i haven't had any opportunities to lose my virginity, i've had plenty, but turned it down everytime (be with random people, or friends). But i'm getting to know this one person well, and she's a nice person, but i dont see any future with her (as we're both from different castes etc, basically, it'll never work in the long run). Should i take the opportunity now? i really want to but my mind always stops me. i dont want to be in the situation where i'm 32 or so and i cant even "get with" anyone anymore because of my age, and still have my viginity.
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2007-07-29 03:20:57 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in terms of caste, i want to marry someone with the same beliefs as me (caste), because i love my traditions.
and i want to lose it to know how it feels like, and that im missing out on it. if you follow me. i've never experienced it, and soo so want to.
2007-07-29 03:34:46 · update #1
if i was to sleep with someone it wouldnt be a random person, it would be a person whom i know and trust and get along with, like this person.
2007-07-29 03:37:24 · update #2
she's willing to just have sex too, she's also a virgin. and would like to experience it.
theres no issue of degrading anyone or "using" anyone
2007-07-29 03:38:57 · update #3
Forget about meeting a dream woman. It's probably never going to happen because no one is perfect
Just have sex before it's too late
Stay safe and have fun
2007-07-29 03:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sad Roman 3 · 5⤊ 6⤋
Hi X, Being 23 and still a virgin is not to bad, just shows you have consideration and respect for your self, but you lack the most important, you lack confidence and show Negativity. You comment on "I'll never ever get to find that one person. (as people keep saying "you'll find her, just wait"). Well i just think that's crap now" shows just how negative you can be. No matter what you think there is always someone for everyone and you need to keep that in your mind. Also you wrote "basically, it'll never work in the long run" I think this also shows a lot of negativity. Try turning the tables and think more positively about yourself and the female sex. We live in a multi cultural society. If you think this person makes you feel good, forget the difference's in castes and see how this relationship develops, you are 23 and you are entitled to be free to see anyone you wish to no matter what creed or colour. Your never going to taste the chocolate unless you going to turn the tables and be positive about opening the packet.
2007-07-29 03:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a question of 'losing virginity'. It's a question of being motivated to 'make love' or 'have sex' - whatever you want to call it - with someone. If you don't feel a strong urge, then yes, you will have to wait. You'll have to wait for someone very special whom you can feel completely comfortable with. There are people who can separate their emotions from the sexual act and those that can't. I think you sound like the latter. If that's an accurate assessment then, again, you'll have to wait.
A lot of nonsense is talked about sex. It's not rocket science. Personally, I'd say go for it with this girl from the different caste. Have fun. The world will not fall down around your ears. Good luck.
2007-07-29 03:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by Stella S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can answer this one. Up until now you have refrained from sex and that is very commendable and extremely rare especially for a man! I wouldn't suggest that you go out tonight and sleep with the first thing with breasts but if you can find someone to have a relationship with then there is nothing wrong with having sex with that person even if it is not the one you will spend your life with. Being in a relationship and having sex is completely normal and there is nothing wrong with it. Plus you gain sexual experience - what if the person you were to marry did not, after all, do it for you sexually? Sex isn't everything in a relationship but it is important!
On the other hand, if you want to wait until you have found someone who you will spend the rest of your life with then wait. It's your decision.
2007-07-29 03:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Showaddywaddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think if you and this woman get on really well it may well be worth it, I mean, you're both in the same situation really, and you may find that you really like it and be pleased. Whatever you do you should never have any regrets because everything happens for a reason :) It's not as if you don't know this girl etc so I think that it would be doing the right thing
2007-07-29 04:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about where you live, but where I live (US) people can "get with" others at ages well beyond 30-something. I know 50 and 60-something people who have sexual relationships with others and I'm sure it's possible to do so even older.
Do what works for you. If you want to hold out for your ideal woman then do that. Don't feel pressured to have sex just because you are 23 and haven't found your dream girl yet. It's not a race or a contest and you've got to live with your decision.
Which would be easier to live with for you....remaining a virgin even if it means doing so for several more years, or giving it up now just because you are tired of waiting? Are you more likely to regret losing it out of frustration or to regret holding on to it for too long?
2007-07-29 03:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you don't have to tell them you're a virgin do you? And if the opportunity comes your way now take it. Remember to use protection though. As i'm sure you know anyway. A bit of experience won't be bad when the right lady comes along. So get as much in as you can. After all, sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before before the princess comes. Good luck. And have fun.lol
2007-07-29 03:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey.... u... dont stress..... i respect u alot. firstly i dont think u shud lose ur virginity on the grounds that u think ur running out of time. i respect that ur religion... caste is very important to u, but in my eyes losing ur virginity to someone should mean how much u feel and love that person and who u trust it doesnt make u a prick if u dont settle down with her but is a bonus if u can settle down with them but these day thats not always the case... if ur feelings are strong on finding that one person then dont give up... when the times right it will happen. good luck!
2007-07-29 04:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by nikita01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i know we all want to do it with that special someone. But that just dont happen.
Most people never end up staying with their first partner anyway and with the way these humans are goin people just sleep around without stopping to get in a relationship!
I however think that you should hope for the best and dont just jump into bed with a 1night stand but do it while your in a relationship with the girl.
Hope that helps
Chri$
2007-07-29 03:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by chri$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" but i dont see any future with her (as we're both from different castes"
If that's your attitude, you deserve to stay a virgin forever. Caste is an artificial distinction created to keep the elites in power thousands of years ago. Free your mind, and the p**** will follow.
2007-07-29 03:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Chance20_m 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Isn't thinking on a caste system a bit antiquated and prejudiced? If you are thinking like that maybe that's your problem.
While I am sure you do not realize it right now..... 23 is still quite young. And yes you have lots of time to find that special person you will want to spend your life with. And that is not a bunch of crap.
2007-07-29 03:28:19 · answer #11 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋