Question for women?

Question

I work with a lot of younger women (I'm male) whom I can't help but notice. This one smells nice; that one has a nice shape; & SHE has a nice personality!
I'm never rude or act unprofessional, but I'm self conscious that I I find them attractive.
How should I act? I don't want to cause tension or offense. Give me some specific pointers, please. I'm not looking to develop any workplace romances; I'm simply asking if you would be aware of if a guy finds you attractive, & what would you suggest to help me not send out improper vibes.
Thanx.

Answer 1

First off, G-d programmed men to appreciate beauty, so you're just being the way G-d created you to be. I wish all women knew that when someone finds you attractive, it doesn't mean that they want to start a relationship or anything. You were just created to be visual.

Secondly, women like to feel beautiful, whether that beauty comes from her scent, her appearance, or her personality. This is one of the ways G-d programmed women. Most women (not all) will be able to tell if she's being admired or appreciated, even if the attention is not blatant, but rather subtle.

Personally, I like shy-ish guys. I feel weird and uncomfortable if someone comes on too strong. So, I think you already have a win there. I think it's sweet even when I know an older guy finds me attractive. He is still a man, no matter his age, and still is wired to recognize beauty. If you feel as though it's okay, you could make a tiny compliment like,"Your hair looks nice today," or something. I'm sure they're not going to look at you with horror before stomping off to tell on you.

Make them your friends!! Talk to them about themselves (this makes them feel important and cared for). Trust me, this is not just romantic stuff.

Answer 2

The tiny pic with your name....is that you? Or some kind of icon? It is very small but looks attractive. The women in your office would be able to tell if you like women as a whole, or are only nice to attractive women or whether you are a woman hater. When you say "younger women", how much younger? If you are 60 and they are 20, they will not be interested in you and don't kid yourself they will be. Monica and Bill are exceptions. In Australia there is a law against workers sexually harrassing each other, and I am pretty sure it is the same in the USA and a lot of other countries. I am not sure where you are. So as long as you are within those boundaries, you are OK. I worked in offices before those rules came into being and it was a nightmare. You would receive about 60 sexual innuendos a day from each man in the office. It was a wonder they got any work done at all. It was just accepted, like you accepted the cigarette smokers, they couldn't help it cos that was the way men were. Who would have ever dreamed in those days that one day sexual innuendos and cigarettes would be banned in offices? Amazing. If you are finding the women attractive, then you may want to single one out to date. Find out what the office policy is.....but you probably would do that anyway without my saying so. If you get tired of her and start dating another, then you're heading for trouble. You are lucky to be so happy at work amongst all the flowers there. Some people just hate their jobs. If you don't make a big deal of the fact you are a male and they are female, like two entirely different species, then you are more likely to be invited to join in secret women's business. If you don't have a tea lady, then don't just dump your coffee cup in the sink for the ladies to wash. If you share a loo, don't pee all over the seat and the floor. If ones leaves to have a baby and then drops in with the baby, you must ooh and aah over it and ask to hold it. And put money in when they take up collections for engagement presents etc. If the girls bake cakes to bring in, you bake one too (or buy a home made looking one). You could ask them for advice when you have to buy your mum a gift. From each job you have you usually pick up one or two people who you stay friends with for life. You are having the opportunity to see women close-up as humans and not just sex objects. Still, they would appreciate you getting something down from a high shelf and adjusting their chair heights when the knob mechanism has gone rusty. Don't forget to wear a fresh shirt every day and smell nice too with some aftershave. If you are married, then don't complain about your wife to them, they are not interested. Complimenting them on what they are wearing could be misconstrued by some, but it would probably be OK if when they 'show and tell' the clothes shopping they did in their lunch hour, then you could probably say "Good choice!" or "I like it!" or something.

Answer 3

Let me first compliment you on your awareness of how your feelings may affect another person...not many people do that. I think it's great that you are concerned about not making your female coworkers feel uncomfortable...kudos to you.

I don't think there is anything wrong with telling a person they smell nice, or that their outfit looks good...I'm sure you have received a compliment or two in your life and are aware of the pleasant feelings they bring. As long as you deliver such niceties in a straightforward, friendly way there shouldn't be any room for misinterpretation. I wouldn't make mention of anyone's form, that is a no-no...beyond that, just continue to be a nice person and you will do fine.

Answer 4

Humor is the best way to go. It relaxs most people, and the tension is gone in seconds of a good chuckle. I am about the only blonde here in this part of island, and I get a lot of stares from Greek guys, but I am most comfortable around the ones who are smiling and make me laugh! Kisses!

Answer 5

Just maintain your self control while at work. There's absolutely nothing wrong with how you respond to women. You're just a healthy, heterosexual male who works around a bunch a hot chics! I imagine it's probably quite a challenge for you...But always remember that you're at work. Whatever you're thinking about them--just NEVER say it out loud...you just never know who may be offended and go running hollering Sexual Harrassment with the workplace laws being much stricter on that these days. Just be like that boy/man on that old HBO show "Dream On", or be like Baby Stewy on The Family Guy: Your thoughts are just that: THOUGHTS!!! And try to keep your thoughts off your face too...cuz you don't want your co-worker chics thinking of you as "That Creepy Guy Who's Always Looking At Us"....Good Luck. And also, you might be better off not dating ANY of them because you sound like you'll want to try them ALL eventually, and you KNOW somebody will feel used or dissed and may then cause you problems at work...and you KNOW women talk to each other...Just be careful! Better yet, go get a job as mechanic! (Just kidding!--Then, you'd be leering at all the women who bring their cars there and somebody's hubby may come and try to do you bodily harm...). Goooood Luck, Brother!!!

Answer 6

First, we like to be appreciated. To make this work for you, make it part of your job to find something to appreciate in every female, then log it in your brain like any other data associated with your business with us. It's a perk, that goes with the job. Yours, and ours. We appreciate you, too! {So many men, so little time... Grin! )

P.S. Don't mention what you've logged in your brain! (You knew that, didn't you?) And remember, You Do Not Possibly Have Time To Follow Up On Every Opportunity, Or Rearrange Your Priorities Every Time A New One Arrives.)

Answer 7

I agree that being yourself would be a GREAT first step. If you present yourself as you truly are then it should be REALLY east to go from there...and I know you know where I'm going with this. I know that all I ever looked for in a man is someone who is true to himself today and not what he was a long time ago. Kat'

Answer 8

I think you should change your job. If you need to ask such questions at this stage there is always the danger you will succumb to temptation that will make you regret an association and cause hurt to the one who responds to your affections.

Answer 9

well, just be yourself nothing more nothing less. i'm a student at university where i meet male who find me attractive but they still deal with me as a person not as a female...

just be yourself, and keep in mind that you want nothing from your workplace except your job, that's it...

Answer 10

ok..well don't actt all werid around them and idk if u should say that u think they look cute or what ever to them...ve ur self...pretty women shouldn't change ur atattuide that makes it look like u r kinda dumb and annoimg to them and they don't want to be firends.....