I've gone out with this person a few times. They're quick witted, intelligent & personable - not to mention handsome. Definitely not the GQ model type; however in my eyes they are perfect. Due to our professions & life experiences we are both jaded. He has a small spotlight in the public eye & therefore has shared with me that most of the interest he receives has something to do with his status rather than his off screen person. My interest is sincere yet I'm not quite sure how I prove it. As a side note & I know that this SHOULD NOT matter; however I will just say that while we work together, we are in separate departments & I have more earning potential than he. I say this to avoid any comments regarding me being after monetary things. I just want to get closer to this incredible man & hope that perhaps 2 jaded singles could create a safe relationship together.
2007-07-29 02:52:47 · 6 answers · asked by 343 Remember 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To all who've answered, thank you. I realize that talking with him & sharing my feelings is the best route however despite our abilities to be articulate - we appear to not have that talent when talking to one another about matters of the heart... I definitely do not think it will always be that way, if so - then there's no chance.. but I do believe that in this grey area, we are both too chicken to cross the road.
2007-07-29 04:17:29 · update #1
I sincerely appreciate all of the answers I've received and wish I could surface the best one.. but they are all solid in their own right. Thank you.
2007-08-06 00:43:33 · update #2
Someone with your obvious education and communication skills comes here asking this instead of talking this over with him at dinner?
Explain your concerns with him and discuss it with him.
2007-07-29 02:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you write him a letter? You can state your feelings truthfully without the awkwardness of being right in front of him. If that is too formal maybe you can discuss this in a phone conversation or email.
You write as an educated professional, so act like one and explain your feelings to him the best you can.
The matters of the heart are much different then those of the mind. Life is fickle.
2007-08-06 07:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kathrine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not just tell him. Show him. The writer Dostoyevsky once wrote "what you are doing is screaming so loud I can't hear what you are saying". Pay a lot of attention to details. What does he like to do? what does he like to be treated? Any special foods, activities, Nothing will get you to his heart faster than knowing you are paying attention and acting on what he needs.
2007-07-29 10:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by gerardo d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the same situation and many others with the opposite sex, i think you are letting your careers get in the way of things, if something is going to happen between people "it does" there isnt any thinking about stuff and feeling let down.
if youve tried, and it didnt work out, seriosly i know this is the worst thing to hear and it is incredibly clich'e but move on ...
2007-07-29 09:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hallmark has a card for just about everthing under the sun, see if you can find something that will help get this relationship rolling
2007-08-06 05:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your actions speak louder than your words
2007-08-06 09:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋