Christians: What is really distroying marriage??

Question

Alot of christians say that by allowing homosexuals to marry they are distroying the sacred institution of marriage. I dont see how this fits the bill : i mean how often do you hear a woman saying "oh, look at Bill and John, I wish we had a relationship like theirs". The real threat to marriage is divorce. If you want to protect marriage why dont you ask the government to make it final instead of denying it to other people who dont fit your definition of morally correct?? If you did this people would think twice about getting married too fast. But there probably would be alot more murdered spouses too. Just a thought.

Hope. Thats kinda funny. I always thought that God made everyone. But now you are telling me he didnt make any gay guys (Steve). So another God must have then right?

Ah. But God also says that a million other things are sins. Like marrying outside your ethnicity, eating crustacians and pork, having sex outside of marriage, using contraceptives. But christians do these things all the time. Lets ban every sin by law. No shell fish, no biracial marriage, etc. And dont forget to cut out your tongue if you tell a lie or cut your hand off if you steal something.

oh and i almost forgot if you go into debt you should sell your eldest daughter into slavery

how is homosexuality harmful?? and dont say that it is harmful because of diseases which exist in the heterosexual population. and dont say it harms children because we arent child molestors. and we dont influence our children to be gay just like our parents didnt make us gay.

homosexuality is not dangerous. and if you think it is you dont have to participate in it.

Answer 1

Hoping that I am not offending you by answering your question, for this is not my intent. I am not of the Christian faith, but the main question of what is really destroying marriage?
In my humble thoughts and opinions, I do believe the answer lies somewhere between lack of commitment, selfishness, dishonesty and lack of communication. There are so many people who tend to take the union of marriage as a temporary situation, knowing that divorce is available.
As for my thoughts on gay marriage, I am so for it! Who are we as people to judge the love and commitment of a couple...especially, without having the ability to marry, there are so many couples, who have been together and dedicated partners and spouses for several years....
Bless the ones who do not support this cause. For it is not the act of marriage and commitment itself of same sex couples that threaten their existence, it is the ignorance and fear....and the bottom line is, there is nothing to fear. I think there tend to be several people out there who tend to want to cause chaos and maintain some type of illusion of control...just because they can....unfortunately, the illusion itself will fade one day, and the ignorant will wake up to see that life has passed them by.....and in their ignorance, they are still choosing to live in the misery.

Blessings to all
)o(
Trinity

Answer 2

This is just my way of thinking and i hope that i do not offend anyone.The reason that marriage is being destroyed is the fact that as everything else in today's view it is disposable. People do not think about it before hand cause if they don't like it or find they want someone else they can just end it. I have friends my age (25) who have been married 2 and 3 times already.

Then there's the fact that people tend to think they are not going to have to work at marriage. You are going to be sharing your entire life with someone else, someone who my have different traditions than you do, go to bed at a different time, believe differently about having friend over all night on a working weekday. Plus you'll be taking on the other persons family if you don't get along it will be a lot of work, if you do get along guess what it will be a Lot of work. Why? Dividing holidays, figuring how to work out B-days so everyone can be there and not feel left out.

People do not always discuss these things and many more before getting married, so when they do come up it becomes a big deal. Marriage can be rewarding if you are willing to compromise (both sides) and if you really think about what you are getting into. But if you just view it as if it doesn't work we'll get a divorce then most likely it won't work. All that said this is all just my opinion

Answer 3

The lack of respect for the union inside and outside of the marriage is what is destroying marriage. People worry too much what others think, or pay too much attention to what everyone else is doing to work on their marriage and keep it focused and strong. I never thought it was about getting married to early or too fast but the maturity and focus of the two people involved in the marriage and the real reasons for the marriage in the first place.
Historically marriage was about producing children and merging family fortune. The only reason gay marriages were forbidden was because they couldn't produce a blood heir. This is also why it was acceptable to kill (later divorce) a woman who appeared not to be fertile, never mind they didn't realize (or just didn't want to admit) it could just as easily be a man's problem, not the woman's.

Answer 4

What do you mean "make it final"? Divorces are about as final as a sale with no refunds allowed. I think marriage is destroyed by infidelity--(I suspect mostly on the husband's part). People can get a divorce and turn around and still be sleeping with their ex, so I don't get your whole "final" thing. Some people even remarry each other after getting divorced...who cares? What is your real issue? Is it with people and the government being against same sex marriage or is about divorced people getting back together??? The Bible says Adam and Eve NOT Adam and STEVE!!! Homosexuals want to marry and then taint children with their way of life. They don't realize how damaging this is to an innocent child who hasn't even had a chance to see normal heterosexual relationships develop and create other children before they're forced to exist in some same-sex lifestyle
(Take Rosie O'Donnell's little girl, for instance...she's probably confused as hell about who should be with who...). Anyway...Adam & EVE! And the only reason a heterosexual woman would look at a gay couple and say that is because she's HINTING to her silly husband that she wishes he were more affectionate (cuz you know how some gays LOVE to ram their affectionate-ness down the public's and others' throats!) or showed her that he loved her more. Adam & EVE.

Answer 5

The real reason I believe is that when 2 people get married they get so hooked up on each other and leave God out of their marriage. Marriage is Holy and now days people just do it because if feels right. But a Marriage that has God in it last and last. take a poll and see who is still married after 50 years. I believe you will see most all of them are Christians and serve our Lord. And are Man and Woman.

Answer 6

When I was married I never had to worry about my spouse cheating on me and I never cheated on him. After our divorce, however, I've watched countless married men (there are women, too - they're just a little sneakier) go after sex outside of their marriage. I think that cheating has become so commonplace that it's frightening. Fidelity is of great importance in a marriage and the fact that society has nearly given it a green light is disturbing to me.

I don't think that the government should make marriage final because that would only result in a lot of bitter people, but I think it should be as difficult to marry as it is to divorce.

Answer 7

Why does the government have to get involved? Marriage is based on commitment. If there is no commitment, the marriage won't last. We had a situation in the past where divorce was difficult. People stayed married but had affairs. That's not the answer.

Answer 8

Lack of Honor, there is no sanctity in the marriage. But i can't help feeling that your question was put out there to find people to blame homosexuals. when really it is the integrity of our society.that diminishes the foundation of the marriage. What God has joined together let no man put asunder. The unity of the same sex marriage can not be recognized as the marriage of man and women because it was not the intent of the law. But i do believe that the unity of same sex marriage is stronger because of the commitment of the people involved. i guess you can say man and women have taken for granted the institution of marriage and the same sex unity has taken advantage of their union. They themselves give it honor.

Answer 9

That is a really interesting thought. I remember reading Mrs. (Billy) Graham's comment, "I've never considered divorce. Murder, yes..."

What I can not figure out is Why happy, same-sex pairs would want to take on such a miserably insecure label as "marriage"? Surely they understand that in the West, where there's marriage, there's divorce. Maybe "Bill and John" are actually looking for a formalized exit plan? Other than death by Aids? (Sorry. But we really Are gonna miss 'em.)

Answer 10

Destroys marriage: immorality ~ lying, cheating, greed, lust, selfishness, deception, narccism, self-centeredness.

God does not hate homosexuals. The only people who believe this either misinterpret the Bible, or don't read it at all.

God hates the act of homosexuality. However, He hates a lot of things that people choose to do. To God, one sin is no worse than another. So, to all of you homo-phobes out there: . . . . you're no better than the people you choose to hate, so get off your high horse and look at your own imperfections, instead of focusing on those of others.

I am not gay. I am a happily married grandmother.