He more than anyone makes me cry the most. We've been going out 9 months. I have panic disorder, agoraphobia, and major depression. We met on the internet. Nearly every time I see him we have sex. He is generous with taking me to concerts and out to dinner. At first this relationship was good because I was getting out and about. Now he calls me crazy constantly, seems to hurt my feelings deliberately, and is truly pushing me toward a major relapse. What should I do? How do I get rid of him?
2007-07-29 02:06:01 · 27 answers · asked by Girly Girl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It seems as though he treats you fine when things are going well (sex, nice dinners, concerts) but acts like an *** with things he can't handle (your depression and disorders). You truly need to ask yourself if you want to be with someone who loves you only when you are who they want you to be. I assure you that there is someone out there that can truly love and appreciate you for all of your good and bad traits.
2007-07-29 02:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by MrWndw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you already told him how you feel about it? If you haven't you should have a talk with him about it.. Tell him that he already knows you have a problem, and he can help you with it, or at least not make it worse, or you need to move on because you can't handle that kind of behaviour from him.. As for getting out and going to concerts, it's good that because of your experience with him you realized that you like those things. Now if you do decide to break up with him, then you can take the initiative to find friends to go with you. Good luck!
2007-07-29 02:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have all these diagnoses then I will assume you see BOTH a psychiatrist for medical management and a psychologist for counseling. They would tell you that this is not healthy for you and he is insensitive and a bit abusive.
Also, ask yourself: What is it about me that makes me attracted to this type of guy? After all you deserve much better. Taking you to concerts and dinner is the other end of "come here/go away" type of behavior.
Good luck
2007-07-29 02:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by pydy9916 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to anyone who says ur crazy!!!
dump him now and get happy. If he isn't part of the solution he is part of the problem. You said so yourself, anyone who makes you cry shouldn't be worthy of sharing your valuable life. I can feel where your coming from and trust me sometimes depression can be helped by getting rid of the negative people that bring u down. good luck hon!!!
2007-07-29 02:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need someone who is willingly wanting to hurt you !
You need someone who is a positive influence on you, someone who will want to care for youa nd will understand the situation you are in.
If this man is insulting you and bringing your self esteem down, and wants to make you feel as if your walking on egg shells around him
Why do you want him? Get rid of him and find someone who will treat you right !!
There are many jerks out there, but there are also many good men /
2007-07-29 02:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by sandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be with a man that makes you cry but at the same time look at youself, do you really have a problem that you can get help for to make you better the way you were when you first started dating? Seek a counselor and they may be able to help you.
2007-07-29 02:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by yepyep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just playing with you and he thinks that you think it's ok to do that, so he'll keep on doing it. If you tell him that you don't like it, or you guys just have a little talk about it, I'm sure that you'll find out really WHY he's mocking you. If you don't want someone like him who isn't serious, or polite, then dump him! Hope I helped! :)
2007-07-29 02:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by $tephan!e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need that meanie in your life. If he calls you names again, tell him "well, if that's true, you would be happier with a different woman instead of me"
You need some space to get yourself resorted. If he still acts like an abusive freak, then find help from an org that helps battered women.
2007-07-29 03:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by rugger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dump him. You get rid of him by calling in Uncle Vinnie and dealing with the problem.
2007-07-29 02:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by Iron Wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how he is making you feel and if he really cares he will stop . if not dump his butt, right now .before he makes you go into a really bad state of mind, you dont deserve that, find someone who can appriate you for who you are not what they think you should be. good luck.
2007-07-29 02:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋