Do I look Fat in this?

Question

We were going to go out tonight, and she bought a dress for the occasion.
We were just ready to go in the car when she asked;
'Do i look Fat in this?'

... I gave her my honest opinion about how she looked in the dress, she's not fat at all, quite skinny (size 10 i think). It was just how the creases on the dress looked on her body.
Any who. She Flipped. Wham... and then all of a sudden she's chucking a tantrum, bringing up things that i've done wrong in our relationship and she kinda hit me.
It was the wrong decision, saying my honest opinion.
Questions;
Should I have lied instead of telling the truth?
How to get me in her good books?

Answer 1

Women always expects the answer to be
"You look fabulous" or "gorgeous"

Answer 2

Ha! That is one of those landmine questions that you should never answer as honestly as you did. I have found that it is best to compliment on the outfits that you really do like and not actively disparage those that you don't. As far as the tantrum she may be insecure in her body image. Compliment her casually and frequently, but don't make a big deal out of it. Think about those things that she thinks you have done wrong in the relationship...granted, this was an outburst of anger, but there may be some truth in what she said. I know that we can all improve! To get back in her good books? Love her. Be fun and attentive. Don't bring this particular subject/episode up again, just let it go. Good luck! Its tough being a guy sometimes!

Answer 3

No, telling her the truth was the right thing to do. But did you explain to her that it was the creases on the dress and not her?

She sounds like she may have a temper problem. No one should put their hands on another. Do you really want to get back in her "good books?"

If she can't accept a simple truth about how a dress looks on her, how on earth will you two be able to talk about more serious issues?

Answer 4

I think you were right to tell her the truth. Lying will never help her. You should find out why it matters so much to her what you think anyway.

Just like men are rewarded for their successes, women are rewarded for their beauty. The difference is who deals out the rewards. The successful man has a great job, car, house and hot girl or hot wife. (in that order) The successful woman is the one who can attract the successful man. The only catch is she has to be smokin' hot. Women see all too often that the rewards for being beautiful are extremely good, but the punishments for being ugly are extremely bad. And because a woman's only measure of success (beauty) or non-success (ugly/fat) is by a man's ruler and not of her own, she puts all of her self value into the way she thinks men want her to look.

She has been duped all her life. Always being looked at. Always watching herself being looked at. Never being the looker. Never thinking about what she wants to see because it doesn't fit into man's measure of success for women. She is probably smokin' mad and just doesn't know why yet or maybe she knows that something is wrong but she can't put a voice to it.

Maybe your "size 10, she not fat at all" measuring stick is scaring her.

You should help her find her voice.

Maybe you could tell her that you are not the judge of whether or not she is fat or anything else she is for that matter. That only she can make that determination. That she makes the decisions about her own body and what it is. Not you.

Answer 5

Well hon,... ppl want the truth, but they want to feel good as well.
You can say anything, as long as you say it with honesty,... and how you word it.
If you thought it looked bad,... you should have told her before you two were walking out the door, and she had spent the time to get ready, and the money on the dress.
It was a special occasion,... she just wanted to feel special,... and probably,.. the best bet for you to have done,... was tell her wayyyyyy before you were leaving,... or simply look at her and say,... well,... you are the most beautiful woman in the world to me,... so i hope no one starts hitting on you, and kiss her... lol
Something like that,.. its not a lie,... and yet because you waited too long to really tell her it didnt look good,... you dont really answer her question
Wouldnt you want to know if you looked bad before you go out? I know i do,... and id want to know in time to find something diff
If its already too late,... just dodge the question,... and make her feel beautiful for the night. Because if you lie,... she will not trust your judgment.
Good luck on that one,... lol,.. its always hard

Answer 6

honestly, i have no clue why girls even ask that. (personally, i'd never ask, it's a dumb question because if the guy lies, the girls will insist on the opposite and if the guy tell the truth...well you saw what could happen) i'd say, just hang in there, i mean what have you done to make her feel better in the past? try getting past the dress and reminding her why you're with her and why you want to stay with her. best of luck

Answer 7

Don't lie. Say what you think. And well..sucking up won't hurt =)
Obviously, if she took the time to buy and pick out a dress just for the occasion, she WANTS to look great, so don't blow it. If you don't think she's fat. A simple "no" would've been fine. An additionally "you look exceptionally great today" would've granted you a happier woman and a happier you. " I think you look great in everything" could work too. Be careful of what you say to girls, especially if it concern anything physical about them.

Answer 8

either way, the answer would have not been good enough, i know i am a woman, the reason she asks is coz she feels self conscious and coz its a new dress she wants to know if she made the right choice(such stuff is NB), u should have complimented her before she asked, believe me works everytime, don start to forget to compliment jus coz u been in a relationship for a while, it means a lot to a woman, to say once in a while, babe u look really good, and u r beautiful..


andy k u r a hater!!!!

Answer 9

I will tell you their is not right answer to that question. My best advice is one day when she is not mad at you and things are good tell her that she often asks you questions where there is no right answer and that no matter what you say she is going to get angry. i did this with the ex it helped a little. She would ask a question and I would tell her "If I say this you are going to get mad, If I say this you get mad, and If I say this you get mad. I can't give an answer without you getting mad". She dropped the question. As for getting in the good books. Be nice, buy her things, help her every chance you get.

Answer 10

Girls ask these questions for reassurement - she didn't want to hear anything other than positive thoughts. However, it's only a small thing. Don't try to start complimenting her heaps now to compensate, but do tell her she looks beautiful when the time is right.

Answer 11

Good grief man.. have you not learned when a woman asks "Do I look fat in this" you're suppose to say, regardless if it's the truth or not "No honey, you look beautiful in that dress!"

She is fishing for a compliment, not for a critique! lol!