There's this guy who looks as creepy as michael jackson (because of a birth defect) and he has a crush on me. He gave me a note and necklace and keeps smiling at me whenever I see him which is every week cause he goes to my church. I feel sorry for him because I'm probably the first girl he's liked and I know he has really low self esteme and is really shy because of the way he looks. But the reason I don't like him is not the way he looks but because we have absolutely nothing in common- he likes movies, tv shows, and books I can't stand, he listens to music I would never listen to, plus (and this is a big issue) he speaks a entirely different language- litterally. So how do I tell him as kindly as I can that I don't like him???
2007-07-28 23:23:49 · 14 answers · asked by generic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't need to tell him, he should realize it on his own.... unless he tells you that he likes you or he asks, then you should be honest. If you must say something to him about it, then just let him know that even though you think he's nice and all, you just aren't interested. Just be sure that you aren't leading him on.
2007-07-28 23:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him kindly that you're not the girl for him and that there is a perfect girl out there just for him. Make sure that you don't say ANYTHING about his birth defect because that can hugely lower his self-esteem. Other then that, just be friends with him if he's really obssesed with you that much. Try to introduce him to other people, such as some girls that might be interested in him.
2007-07-29 06:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by ninjaadam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanne be mean tell him you've got taste buds that's what i did once i never saw the guy again... but he didn't have a low self esteme.... Just tell him in a nice way that you just want to be friends or just tell him that you have a boyfriend and get one of your guy friends to help you out... hope you get the message through to him
2007-07-29 06:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if i were you for example i well tell him the true and what can he change if he like me. But the best word is you tell him the true of what ever word come to your mine that how people understand each other and different people have different thinking of how to tell how they feel but anyway THE TRUE is what matter because if you keep it to long it well get more worse k i hope this help well have a good one.
2007-07-29 06:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by james 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could say (to avoid hurting his feelings ) I like you a lot as a friend but I couldn't ever love you..but you didn't help matters by accepting his necklace because that was a token of his affections for you...you should have given it back and said its lovely but you should give this to someone else, someone who likes you as much as you like them but unfortunately that isn't me ...hope this helps
2007-07-29 06:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you want to be friends nothing more, then invite him for something like pizza or a move for he wont take it personally.
2007-07-29 06:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he's your friend and you like being able to hang out or talk with him. tell him you don't want to throw that away but by saying you don't want to say "bye" that you don't want to lose having him as a friend or being able to have fun together
2007-07-29 06:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiss a girlfriend on the lips in front of him. im sure hell get the message.
2007-07-29 06:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you have a new b.f.
just be like ya i got a new b.f. last night and make up a name. should work
2007-07-29 06:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by valcoriousmaximus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he is not your type and hope he is not offended by it.
2007-07-29 06:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋