Seems like I will fairly much be raising my young daughter on my own. This is no great problem, from day 1 my daughter has been closer to me than her mother, although only 5 now, she is very very close, does never ask for/miss her mother, who she see's occasionally, is smart, forward for her age, and admired by friends/teachers -
My query is how do those of you, likewise raised by a father, [ who was very caring, but also older than most of your friends parents] feel about your upbringing. Did it create difficulties, I guess i am thinking in particular during teenage years ?
Any thoughts much appreciated.
2007-07-28 23:15:42 · 9 answers · asked by TPE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she is happy and loved, she will be great! Trust your good judgement, and when it comes to girly things, let her discuss them with her mother or other trusted female friends or adults. So many Daddy's girls would prefer to be raised by their fathers, when their mothers are weak personalities.
2007-07-28 23:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by Booger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
speaking from a moms view..I will say nothing could be better for your daughter then seeing a strong man takeing care of her..so many women have no idea what a good man is..by being by her dureing childhood and young adulthood (and this will not be easy by any standards man or women!) You are giveing her the grounds of choosing her husband (the man who will help take care of her after she leaves you)..she will model all after you..and by you showing her that a man can be loveing and careing and nurturing..she will look for the same..most men take little to no interest in raising a child, its left to the women..and so the girls have no "good" morals to judge there boyfriends,partners and husbands by. Not saying all are bad..by no means there are great moms and dads everywheres. As far as when she needs womenly advice..do you have a sister or cousin and other women in your life? Any women she feels comfortable with Im sure can offer her information. My brother is raising a 3 year old girl he is 47 now (this is the only baby he has ever had and he adopted her) ..and if you could see the sparkle in his eye and you can just feel the love he has for her....Instinct will take over dont worry just love her.
2007-07-29 01:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by crispymommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay I wasn't raised by my Father but I dated a man back in the 80s and 90s who was raising his son and daughter. While I commended him on his efforts, he just did not have any idea on how to raise a little girl, he treated her the same as he treated his son, took her to the barber shop instead of the beauty parlor (the girl had lovely hair), and he had a tendency to push her off on the many women he dated and never really hugged her, at least not in my presence and I was around constantly. I believe that little girls need constant affection, positive reinforcement and a curriculum that stresses "selfness", "individuality",
"femininity", "self-worth" and a relationship with her Father like no other relationship she will ever encounter with any man. No one will be able to fill her Father's shoes, because those shoes hold so much and walk so many miles, a Father in a lot of cases is just a sperm donor, but to be a "Daddy", well this takes work, and I pray all the best for you and your daughter. God Bless.
2007-08-02 23:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mt parents divorced in 1969 and three of us four kids lived with dad, a farmer. I was nine at the time. My sister and I took over the housework and cooking.... but, were happy to do so. Back then it was unheard of for the court to award custody to the father but, over the years i have found out some strings that my dad pulled at the time to enable that. Do I regret haivng been raised by my dad? Never. We still spent a lot of time with our mom too. The issues that were between them occasionally came up but, to this day I tell my mom (cause she's the one who drags up the topic) that i don't want to hear about it.
I guess you could say my sister and i were daddy's girls. We grew up knowing that you need to work for what you get in life and we both have wonderful work ethics to this day.
2007-07-29 02:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jayme M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a little difficult for her when she becomes a teenager, but that can be said of children who have both parents. I wouldn't worry too much because any female problems she has she will have plenty of females around her such as friends and her teacher. Also she will have the advantage on lots of other girls who are brought up by their mother. She will understand things from a mans perspective too, which will make it much easier for her when it comes to dating, and means she will be much more likely to find a good patner.
2007-07-28 23:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your daughter will be just fine. My dad walked out when I was 2 and never bothered to look back so I was raised by my papa and my mom when she wasn't working. Your daughter knows that you love her and care about her. That makes the beginnings of a great relationship. Set boundaries, be ready to listen when she has a problem and love her. When the girly issues arrive I am sure you will be prepared to handle them.
Congrats you sound like a great dad!
2007-07-29 02:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things will be difficult during her teen years but I'm sure that all will be well. Just be the kind of man that you would want her to marry one day.
2007-08-02 09:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you one of her parents? What is wrong with you raising her. I think your worry is needless. Love her, raise her, give her what you can. Be there for her. There is nothing else you can do. Nothing else you need to do. Be a good dad. I am proud of you.
2007-08-03 14:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man you have nothing to worry about.
yer there will be problems but its like that for single mums as well as dads.
and with a dad that cares for her as much as you do. she will have nothing to worry about either.
i say good luck and hope you the best in the future!!!!!!!
2007-07-29 00:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋