would it destroy you and send you under if you lost all your material posessions? or would you survive it?

Question

i think it would totally destroy me....my soul would be crushed and my house of cards would come falling down....i dont own many material posessions, hardly any cept a computer, but if i lost that, i would be destroyed....im constantly worrying about this and that i dont own many material posessions...it scares me.
im a 30 year old borderline personality disorder living on welfare, waiting for therapy, so i cant afford much either....
living with insecurities like this is like living on a knife edge....

does anybody no how to get past this way of thinking? which is scary to me

Answer 1

I asm middle aged and would be gutted if I lost all I'd worked so hard for but it wouldn't destroy me. I would replace it, probably with a good deal of second hand stuff and you can get a lot of really good stuff free on Freecycle.
Ugandan Asian had to leave their homes and go to new countries leaving all their wealth and goods behind and most made a good life for themselves in their new countries.
Possessions can be replaced.
Health and people cant.

Answer 2

I would think that anyone would be destroyed for the first few days.
It is not really about the possessions. It is about your world and sense of self worth being violated.
I know you say that you are dead broke; but if you can manage some insurance that would cover the " Oh my God, how am I going to replace these factor"
As to your soul being crushed... I accept that completely, but the memories that these possessions hold in trust for you will be accessable in your mind if you ever really need them.
You will be able to tap into parts of your mind that were previously closed doors.
In the small dark hours when your worries seem uppermost, concentrate your mind on one of the possessions that is important to you. Conjour up what it does for you and what it says about you. For example your computer.
That is how you express who you are isn't it? Make copies of everything on it that is important to you. Bury them if need be and you don't have anwhere safe to hide them. Then think about the YOU that people see through your computer.
That person still remains. A caring intelligent person who can rebuild from the fragments that are left (after a disaster) and who will make him/herself and others who meet you proud of your rebirth.
Imagine each of those insecurites that reign you in at the moment as being folded and placed in a holdall in you mind only to be allowed out for a short time each 24 hours. Like the info in your computer they can only be accessed if you know the password. And the passwrd was lost alongside all your posessions. The phoenix flies again!!!
Live long and fight strong.

Answer 3

I can kind of understand where you're coming from on this. Although I've been blessed with some lovely things, I constantly worry that I don't deserve them - although these lovely things tend to be my family and friends, rather than material possessions.

I think that is where you could begin looking from, in trying to change your way of thinking. Sure, material possessions are important, but family are even more precious. Of course, if there were a house fire/burglary etc, house insurance would normally cover the damage and replace your lost items :)
But close friends/relatives are irreplacable, and the one thing you may want to focus on holding onto the most.

Answer 4

It would upset me, but not destroy me. As long as my family were ok and I still had my friends I think I could get through just about anything. They have kept me going in the past through emotional things so I think they would be great if I lost possessions. Best thing is to try to concentrate on the fact that possessions are not what makes you, you are who you with or without money/possessions. Try to think of positive things and be grateful for what you do have: life, friends, family, your computer even! and try not to worry about what you don't have and what you may lose if anything did happen. Hope you get your therapy soon. Good luck. Be positive.

Answer 5

It is scary to you because you have given it power. Whatever you think of comes into fruition eventually and quicker than you think. If you aint got nothin, you aint got nothin to loose. i suggest you dump the computer and get your health together. Physical health goes hand in hand with mental agility and emotional strength. Einstein didn t have scary in his vocabulary. All his 'problems' of solving lifes questions were merley challenges. Therefore the word problem wasn't given power and if it changed to a 'challenge', then there must be a solution. Therefore the challenge becomes exciting! Then the fun begins looking for not one but many options to resolving what is first a 'problem' but it is merely your own lifes quest asking you to move on. Dont be scared, there many more challenges to come, this one is easy in comparison. Have fun, eat good food, see more friends, be in nature, make life simple, do what works for YOU, what else can you do?

Answer 6

Hey Roland, steady on there.
I am 56 and have been fortunate enough to have had a good life with no major trauma or disposession occuring. I live in a nice house and along with the help of my wife have accumulated lot of "stuff".
However if I were to lose it all through Flood, Fire or Theft as maddening as it would be, even as a middle aged guy I could and would happily live in a tent until such time as my circumstances improved, which they invariably do.
What would have a devastating effect on me would be the loss of my lovely wife or one of my now grown children or their children - my adorable grand-children.
Life is not about "Stuff" it is about the people you love and those who love you. That really is the key to a happy life, people.....Not Stuff.............I wish you well and good luck with the therapy.........don't worry, be happy.

Answer 7

I would say that i would be very upset if i lost all my possessions because of the time and effort it taken me to get them But if they all disappeared tomorrow there would be little i could do about it, and I think i would be philosophical about it, that i enjoyed them whilst i had them. They only things i would be upset over are personal items like letters and photo's. Have you got friends, family, people to confide in. Perhaps you could talk it over with them to perhaps put this into perspective. Possessions are temporary whoever you are, i'd say get your therapy, hopefully that will help you see these things in a somewhat different light. Hope you fell better soon.

Answer 8

the only things I care about in life is my kids and my hubby oh and the cat as long as I have them I need nothing but bread and water,
try to find yourself a part time job something that you are interested in, you may meet new people and start to make some friends, you need to remember everyone feels insecurities,
when I was pregnant I felt so vulnerable, I was sat with my hubby one night watching TV, and a police helicopter went over I was so frightened that some axe murderer had escaped from the local prison that I wanted my hubby to lock all the windows and doors,sat there for hours thinking oh my god what if someone breaks in.
It was actually someone who had broken out they found him and took him straight back, I came to the conclusion that, you can't live your life in fear material things don't matter at all, as long as you have what you need that is all that matters.

Answer 9

hi, sorry to hear of your health issues affecting your way of thinking and perception of the important things in life.
maybe you could do some form of voluntary work with the agencies in deprived countries with people who don't even own a pencil and writing paper let alone a computer.
helping others less fortunate than yourself could be beneficial to your recovery programme and give you a new perception on where material things should come in importance of your life.
the other thing you could try is keeping a daily diary of your feelings. writing things down is very theraputic in getting things said out loud instead of bottling it all up and stewing in your insecurities.
i wish you well in overcoming your personal problems. x

Answer 10

The happiest time in my life was when I had nothing apart from my clothes. Material things are so unimportant. Being alive and having friends is everything. This is a wonderful world, try to look beyond possessions.