Advice or suggestions please......?

Question

This is what happened. My husband and I have been in a bad marriage for many years. But specifically, in Dec. he got mad at me because I did not want to go to a social event because it was the 3rd one in a row over the Christmas holidays. Anyway for the first time, he pulled me out of bed and said "you're going *****. I went and almost right after that I could not go to work. I was so depressed that i stayed in bed for 16 hours a day and only got up to take a shower and barely ate anything. I am still depressed. i'm seeing a psychiatrist. I know it sounds silly but could this have caused this depression, you know like a PTS disorder or reaction. We live together but don't talk to one another. I'm not sure I can return to work in Sept. I was substitute teaching 3 days per week.

Any comments or suggestions please.......I should mention that I am taking Lexapro for severe depression. I have always been depressed and anxious....but could this have pushed me off the edge??

Answer 1

Homeopathic Remedies for Anxiety / Stress / Depression(Bereavment) / Mood Swings :-

ANXIETY & STRESS :-

Sudden with restlessness and fear of death Aconite 30X or 200X,1/2 hourly (3 Doses)

Prolonged with periodic and panic attacks Arsenic Alb.200X, 4 hourly (3 Doses)

With fainting spells; profuse sweating; worse in the morning Sulphur 30X or 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Makes patient walk fast; due to anticipation Argentum Nit 200X, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Worse lying in bed and closing the eyes Carbo Veg 30X or 200X, 4 hourly (6 Doses)

Anxiety aggravated by upward or downward motion; going in an elevator; worse till 11 P.M, Borax 200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxious about business even when seriously ill Bryonia Alba 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Full of apprehensions in the evening Causticum 200X, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxiety and fears in the evening with restlessness and palpitation Calcarea Carb.200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxiety worse while lying still. Sad music ameliorates the complaints Manganum Acet 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxiety due to fright, fear,exciting news; stage fright; worse while appearing for examination or interview etc Gelsemium 30X or 200X 3 hourly (6 Doses)

Mood Swings, Anxiety due to grief or shock in the subconscious mind Ignatia 200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxiety; better after eating Anacardium Or 30X, 4 hourly.

DEPRESSION & GRIEF(Bereavement) :-

Severe shock due to sudden death of loved ones; restlessness, anxiety and fear Aconite 200X. 10 min (3 Doses)

Prolonged mournings; cannot overcome the loss of loved ones and/or Mood Swings. Ignatia 1M or 10M, 6 hourly (3 Doses)

When the grief is in the conscious mind; patient weeps; does not like sympathy Natrum Mur.200X or 1M, 6 hourly (3 Doses)

For chronic grief and indignation Staphysagria 200X or 1M, weekly (3 Doses)

Depression with suicidal thoughts feeling of worthlessness, Aurum Met 30X, three times a day half hour before meals.


Take the remedy which is similar to your symptoms. No side effects or complications if taken as directed, please do not exceed the given dosage and under any circumstances do not try to mix any remedies and avoid Chocolates, Mints, Coffee, Red Meat, Alcoholic and Carbonated drinks, Spicy Rich Food while taking any Homeopathic remedies, and keep the medicines away from direct sunlight, heat strong smells and perfumes and do not store them in the fridge.
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Take Care and God Bless You !

Answer 2

No isolated event can cause depression. It seems most likely that you were already depressed and this event pushed it from borderline controlled to something that was really noticable.

Just getting hauled out of bed for a social engagement isn't going to cause PTS - it's not that much of a trauma.

I assume your psychiatrist knows your marriage is not successful. I also assume you are working on reviving it; otherwise, you probably would've mentioned divorce. Lexapro is usually effective, but so much depends on the particular person. You don't say how long you've been getting treatment, but I get the impression that it's been a while. If you haven't seen marked improvement within six months or so, the treatment plan is not working. You might find better success with a different approach to therapy, and you might want to consider a faith-based approach.

The bottom line, that most mental health professionals will never tell you because it's not in their best interest, is that ultimately, you are responsible for yourself. You do have the power to choose how to react and respond. I'm not talking about swallowing your anger to avoid a fight! I mean that you can choose not to get angry at all. However, since you mentioned depression with anxiety, I'm wondering if you also have had some trouble expressing your anger for a while. If so, that could be stalling your progress.

However, since this event happened last year and it's now nearly August, it's time to move on instead of dwelling in the past. There's no reason you couldn't return to work in September if you really want to. This issue should have been resolved by February; you'll have to make it clear to your psychiatrist that you expect better results from this point forward. There's no reason for such a delay.

Hang in there. Depression can be fierce, but if I can beat it, anybody can, including you.

Answer 3

Your marriage is facing the test of time. You can salvage whatever is left to make your marriage a success. I know it's sometimes difficult but it's for you to try to change the wave of fate as the queen of the house.

There are times we feel depress because there are happenings which we don’t like. Through no fault of our own we may find ourselves in a very distressing circumstances that cause depression. Others may feel depressed because of their particular brain biochemistry.

Another factor to consider is your personal environment. Are you trying to do too much? Do you need a break to reassess what you are doing and how you are reacting? Maintain your hopes without being fanatical. Do something about any health problems so they do not develop into more serious disorders. I am saying don’t get drugged—get recovered

I wish you well and I hope your marriage will go the way you feel the first time you met him.

Answer 4

Oh dear, you sound very desperate. Lets see the facts. She kissed another one. She was a bit drunk. She woke up and called you. She told you the truth. You receive the phone called and feel she cheats you. I don't know what you answered on the phone. But, she was honest. And I think if you can go along without turning this incident in a shadow that will be following you the rest of your lifes, without any bad feelings and accepting that she only want you to know the truth because she felt so guilty, well be thanks that she was really honest with you. She could remain without saying a word about what happened and you'll never know it. Just go on, tell her about your feelings and how you'll not like to feel that again, but also tell her that you appreciate very much her honesty and that is why you still love her. Good luck!

Answer 5

I know if I was severly depressed and my husband pulled me out of bed and made me go to something I didn't want to go to, It would of pushed me over the edge! That is called physical and emotional abuse! Maybe you could consider a marriage consultant, if he will go! Please continue on your meds, talk to your doctor, therapist about it. I wish you the best at getting back to work, don't let him take you down any further! Good luck! Seek help! hugs!

Answer 6

Lexapro isn't going to solve your marital problems. But you know that. I'm not judging you.
I don't know if the incident in December could have been the straw that broke the camel's back or not.
Are you clinically depressed and that resulted in a bad marriage or are you depressed because you are in a bad marriage?
I suppose that's what you have to figure out.
good luck to you and peace to you tonight.
Woman to woman,
D

Answer 7

Hello. I hope you are feeling better when you read this.
Depression has a lot of causes for it to happen. It is good that you are seeking professional help. However, for you to solve your anxiety, tell your doctor about this incident. Does your husband know about your depression? Getting well needs a lot of support from your family and friends. Support is key.
Also, it helps for you to get well is prayers.

God bless! Hope you get well soon.

Answer 8

Well if he did that to you once there were probably other emotional or physical abuse in your relationship before that point. Maybe just emotional such as putting you down or something? This could have definetly been the one to "set it off"... ??? Hope that helps... leave him now!