My boyfriend says I don't show affection. But i come from a family that doesn't really show affection and i never have so....how am i supposed to show affection?..like idk he says its like i don't have feelings and i never show any kind of emotion.
what am i supposed to do?
2007-07-28 19:21:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love him & i tell him that...is that not good enough. well i only say it unless he says i love you first..i don't jsu tsay it first i never have.
2007-07-28 19:22:22 · update #1
Yes. Of Course We Kiss All The Time. Im not Into The Whole PDA Thing. But We Hug,Kiss,Hold Hands..All The Time.
2007-07-30 15:37:30 · update #2
Is It Just Because Of The PDA Thing?
2007-07-31 10:04:45 · update #3
What Exactly Does Showing Affection Mean?
2007-08-01 08:34:41 · update #4
I think he means physical affection, not sex, just cuddling. holding hands, hugging. picture 2 puppies cuddled up together, all mixed up.
I was raised in a home where there was no physical affection, in fact, I've never even seen my parents kiss, and as for hugging us, hardly ever happened.
by the time I was 22 I was so starved for physical affection that I took it anywhere I could get it, I was seeing 3 married me at one time. that wasn't the right way to get it, but I sure learned what it was, and how much I needed it.
I hope you learn in a better way than I did.
2007-07-28 19:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by freespirit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about ur problem if he doesnt understand then i say try telling him I love often give him roses, messeges him often in the mobiles send himm cool emails n after that if he again says that u donn show any affection then lemme tell u 1 thing this man is not made 4 u.
2007-07-28 19:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Richa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you give him a hug? a kiss? hold his hand while you're out? just because your family is not a PDA type of family doesn't mean you have to be like that. change.
2007-07-28 19:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work through your emotions and let him love you. Maybe you need to go talk to a counselor to get some help, but tell yourself that it is okay to let yourself love him and tell him what does he want you to do to show your love and tell him to teach you how to love him the way he needs so you can keep him because if you don't do something he will tire of it and he will leave you.
2007-07-28 19:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a heart to heart with your boyfriend. It is clear that he is a sensitive guy and considering how you were brought up it would be difficult for you to show affection, talk to him about it, maybe by opening up to him on that, he will help you to tap into your emotion.
2007-07-28 19:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels natural to you. don't try to show affection. I have a sister who never shows affection but I know she loves me. I don't have to have her kiss me or say it. She definitely loves me though. Eventually he will accept how you show emotion. Maybe you show it differently.
2007-07-28 19:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by dsum513 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let hin know where u came from, and how it is hard for you to show affection, then if u really do care for him work on showing more so he knows at least u are trying.
2007-07-28 19:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by nani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try harder. say it first. hold his hand. initiate a kiss. when watching tv...sit closer, snuggle up against him, give him a little kiss on the cheek.
you can change that aspect of yourself.
2007-07-28 19:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by gymclasshero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you ever hug or kiss your boyfriend when you are together?
2007-07-28 19:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋