well there is this girl well she is 25 and i am 18, we have talked lots and gone out but not officially, cause i am a little hesitant about dating older, well she is out of college, works makes loads of money and i am on my first year in college, i guess its my ego that wont let me do anything what should i do
2007-07-28 18:54:26 · 17 answers · asked by g v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I hope you are looking for an honest answer about your problem rather than a quick fix. If that is so, I have a few ideas:
1) Ask yourself whether you are ready for such a relationship and the demands that go with it. Do you feel you can complement a person whos more mature and experienced and is perhaps looking for a solid and long term relationship.
2) Think as to what the relationship would be like? She earns money, you dont ...how do u think you can harness the balance in terms of commitments that require equal sharing.
3) How long a relationship do you want... A short term or a fling? depends on what your choice is and what you and she prefer?
4) If you really feel you can give the relationship time and effort with you being in college and she working....?
If u feel you are ready and that you both have similar priorities and interests for the relationship( fling, long term whatever)...than pop up the question without any hesitation. Dont waste your ego on such things, at least you wont rue that u never asked????
2007-07-28 19:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for God's sake... if your ego is bigger than your libido at 18....
Listen, I don't care about the circumstances... YOUR ego is not the one at stake here... You cannot possibly imagine the psychological damage you will be inflicting if you don't let this woman have her way with you... She is a professionally successful 25 year old college graduate and you are an 18 year old starving student...
Get on your knees and thank the deity to whom you generally give props to for such miraculous gifts, and while you're down there....
2007-07-29 02:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by R.T. of S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...well, I don't know much about your situation and telling you that I know how you feel would be a lie; but i do know one thing:
If you really like this girl, go for it. You will never know how good it can be until you try it...and you will regret it if it goes away and lose the chance. Don't care what other people think or of the age difference, everything happens for a reason and if this girl is for you then be my guest!!
Don't let it go by without knowing how much this girl can mean to you. You are eighteen and nearing the "I'm losing time and need a job" stage. The last thing you want to do is be on the lookout for a girl.
Trust me, you won't regret it!
2007-07-29 02:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you wnt in life?
Your crush or your ego?
If you want your crush, and u really like her, then tell her. Don't let ego get to ur head. If you don't make a quick move, then u will miss ur one and only chance.
Dont worry too much about datng older women, they are really nice and ofcourse, if some one says something, then ask them why they accepted and celebrated when ash and abi married?
Life is yours. Deal it the way you want to.
All the best,
with love,
Lia
2007-07-29 02:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by greta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over the age. I know what your going through (Kinda) I'm scared to date a younger guy. But if you are crazy about her don't let age stand in the way. Tell her how you feel. She must like you if she's been talking to you. Just make sure your the guy in the relationship older or not. Girls like it when you have authority. But not to much. Good luck!
2007-07-29 01:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by I can only be me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is comfortable with you being 18 and in college and you really like this girl, age has nothing to do with you guys getting together. It's all up to you.
2007-07-29 01:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't get involved with her. It's probably best if you two were just friends. Both of you are at different points in your lives. It would be best for you to concentrate on your studies and get to the point where you are making money and supporting yourself.
2007-07-29 01:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by smanthajm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely it won't work out because she'll go to bars and you won't be able to even accompany her. but if you like her, you can try to make it work. of course getting yourself thru college should be your main focus. there are plenty of women out there.
2007-07-29 01:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by gymclasshero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your insecurities. It is obvious you want her or you wouldnt be asking. Go for it. If you wait someone else will before you do.
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