I know I love my boyfriend. I feel a strong emotional connection with him that I have never felt before. I don't think I like the person that he is though. He is inconsiderate most of the time. He's a flirt. He has a tendancy get on my, and many of our friend's, last nerve. Is it possible to love him and not like him? What should I do about this? Do I just sound like I'm insane? please help...
2007-07-28 18:40:26 · 21 answers · asked by pretty little liar 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
isn't it likely that there's someone else better for you?
2007-07-28 18:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by hohoeho321 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not logical, because your a woman. Your letting your feeling rule you. You love him for no reason, other then he is there with you?
It's possible to love someone you don't like....at least for women. Somehow they separate the two. He does one nice 'lovey' thing a week, and you expand that to cover and block out all the other bad stuff he does.
There is not much you can do. If you love him your lost. You will simply be stuck in this limbo for a couple years at least. Sooner or later he will go to far and way past your last nerve..and you will break up...but still love him.
2007-07-29 01:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you arent insane. I had the same exact problem. You love how he is when its just you two, when you guys are together and happy. He feels so perfect, but then when it comes to other situations around friends and other girls, hes a jerk. I had a guy like that. I loved him soo much. And he was going to ask me to marry him. But i realized that even after i told him how i hated what he was doing, he wasnt going to change. and i ended up dumping him and realizing i never loved him as much as i thought. So what you really need to do is tell him that you dont like the things that he is doing, and if he doesnt change, just dump him. You will have the same feelings for someone else eventually, and maybe the next guy will treat you right.
best of luck to you.
xoxoxo
kutsnkisses
2007-07-29 01:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one and I don't envy you. How long have you been dating your boyfriend? Has he told you he loves you? Sounds like you need to talk to him about his behavior. I don't like it when someone I'm dating flirts with other girls and that would be a deal breaker for me. There are different kinds of inconsiderate. If he leaves his jeans on the floor instead of putting them in the hamper, that's not such a big deal. But if he doesn't call when he says he will or blows you off for dates, that's a much bigger problem. I think you need to figure out if you are better off with him in your life or out of it.
2007-07-29 01:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are definatley not insane. I think its common to *love* someone and not particularly like their personality. This happens for a number of reasons, 1.) you could just feel secure with him, 2.) you just need someone, anyone, to love 3.) you are used to him and don't want to leave him. Either way you have to figure out with putting up with his annoying personality quirks is worth loving him or not.
2007-07-29 01:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by caramel_latte 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a boyfriend, you have a belligerent man/child that you think you love. Get rid of him. Every moment you stay with this "piece of work" you lose the opportunity to find and fall in love with a real man. A real man is considerate, kind, takes your opinions to heart and never abuses you. but, perhaps you thrive on the "bad boy" man/child to whom you "profess" your love. Wake up girl, get rid of the boy and find a man.
2007-07-29 01:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by johny0802 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is completely possible to love him but not like him. That's the way people feel about their parents sometimes. So maybe he's not relationship material for you, maybe he should just be a friend? Consider that. Good luck!!
2007-07-29 01:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jake77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been through this. i think he's just there so you can call him as a boyfriend, or he likes you back, you've been with him for a while,etc. i remember that happened to me with a jerk. i suggest you try a break. once i was freed, i felt MUCH better. and you deserve a guy that makes you feel good all the time(:
2007-07-29 01:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Wonder Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just going off of the details you just should, i think you love the person that he is when hes with you but you dont like the person that he is when he gets around other people. if thats the case you need to come out and let him know, that he needs to be the same person behind closed doors and out in the open.
2007-07-29 01:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have just discovered the most important rule of relationships. Love is not enough. Love is not the most important aspect of a relationship, it's not even the second most important. Trust and respect are waaaaay more important and you don't have that.
2007-07-29 01:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do me a favor--read your question but just pretend a girl in your English class last semester asked you the same thing about her boyfriend. NOW--why do you think you need this guy SO-O-O-O bad that you are willing to be his doormat??
2007-07-29 01:44:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋