My close friend is getting married and i know she is going to ask me to be her miad of honor..the problem is i was planning on being pregnant around the same time as her wedding...should i decline? should i tell her my plans?
2007-07-28 17:39:28 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell her your plans and see how far along you might be when they plan to get married. Talk with her and she how she feels about the situations.
2007-07-28 17:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your plans, by all means, if you expect to be noticably expecting by the time the wedding rolls around. But both you and she should keep in mind that mother nature may have a slightly different schedule for you. It's possible it will take you a little longer to get pregnant than one or two months.
At any rate, a true friend will be more concerned with how you are feeling as the time draws nearer than what your waistline looks like. If you feel up to being in the wedding and your friend cares more for your support than your slenderness, everything should be just fine.
Of course, if it turns out your due date is within a week or two of the wedding, your friend will probably want to have a plan b in mind in case you go into labor.
2007-07-28 17:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? If so, you will be a matron of honor, and there is no shame in being a married woman expecting a child. She won't mind; your pregnancy would be an image of what she probably hopes will come to pass for her, as well.
If you're not married, she may have a problem with your sporting a belly without a ring at a day that celebrates the incredible and inexorable union of two souls. Either way, you should let her know. At the most, she might not want an unwed mom-to-be walking down the aisle with her; at the elast, she'll have to consider finding a dress that flatters both pregnant and non-pregnant attendants.
2007-07-28 17:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious Gryphon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No tell no one. U really can not plan to get pregnant at a certain time. U could be lucky or it could take a couple of months or more. If U accept & R pregnant how U feel & how she feels about it will determine whether or not U R in the wedding party. U may not be showing. How far along would the pregnance be?
2007-07-28 17:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by bhappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your plans and see what she says. Some brides are really against pregnant maids and some don't care a bit. They do make maternity bridesmaid dress so that should be a problem. Although, consider this - if you do get pregnant are you going to be able to help her with her plans? Are you going to be interested in her wedding? This is going to be the most important day of her life and while it doesn't mean as much to you, it does to her. If you don't think that you can help her with the wedding tell her now so we aren't getting a question from her in 9 months saying how do I kick my MOH out of my wedding.
2007-07-28 18:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell her your plans. Nothing wrong with being pregnant and a matron of honor. With that said, make sure she has a back up plan in case you go into labor or can't perform your duties. The reason I say that is my matron of honor was pregnant and two weeks before the wedding she had to go on bed rest her last two months. It unfortunately happens, so just be sure you guys have a contingency plan for it. Good luck to you both.
2007-07-28 17:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by TBECK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking form experience, you don't always get pregnant when you plan to. I would definitely suggest that when she does ask you you also tell her your plans, but it may not even be a problem.
I have seen a lot of pregnant brides and bridesmaids. I don't think you being pregnant should change your role in her wedding. If you think she would be bothered by the idea then I think it is nice of you to consider her feelings and let her know that it is OK if she decides to choose someone else. Then at least you know you were her first choice. Don't stress (It's not good for getting pregnant!)
2007-07-28 17:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let her know that you are planning to have a baby. Ask her if she minds that you could possibly be showing. I really don't think she will mind though, if she is a good enough friend to invite you to be her maid of honor. I think it is totally your preference on whether to decline or not, it all depends on if you feel comfortable enough to be standing up there in front of everyone. If you do decline, do tell her why though, she might take offense if you do not.
2007-07-28 17:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by melody g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you aren't in your last month or two or pregnancy, then I don't see a problem.
Say you are between 1-7 months, I think you can do it. If you are in your 8th or 9th month, it maybe too much of an inconviences. You maybe too tired to run around at maid of honor. Secondly, you I would be concerned if the wedding was very close to your due date. What happens if you have the baby early?
2007-07-28 17:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just go with the flow as whether you intend to be pregnant sometimes it takes longer than you would expect. If and when you are pregnant you can then go to her and give her an out if she does not want a pregnant maid of honor. I dont however see that being pregnant should exclude you from doing the job, so just leave it to fate and see what happens.
2007-07-28 17:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much about it, if she really is your friend, she will be happy for you. If you dont want to be pregnant for her wedding, then dont be. If you are not already, just postpone it. You have the rest of your life to live with a kid. Your friend only has one wedding (hopefully).
My cousin was 8 months pregnant when she was a bridesmaid for her sister. No one cared, although she was very tired and couldnt dance much.
My advice is to postpone it, so you can enjoy the wedding more and not feel tired and / or sick. Besides, it is much easier getting a dress when your not pregnant.
2007-07-28 18:43:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋