Do you agree with my conclusion? I'm 13, btw.?

Question

Well, I think EVERYBODY has noticed the teen pregnancies and the kids having sex. DUH. But I think it is the PARENTS fault for exposing their children to this kind of thing. I mean, how else is an 11 year old kid supposed to know how to have sex? Or even someone my own age? Friends, yeah. But where do you their friends have learned it? Their parents! And on the internet, did you know you can check your child's history on what websites they've been on? Or get some software like NetNanny? Or just simply block the websites? I may be wrong, but I mean come on people, you are blaming your kids. But where are they getting this information? Knowing where kids come from is fine, but why do you need to go on and on about it? Why don't you just tell them that it is just for having kids instead of going on about how you are celebrating your love or whatever? Tell them that when they get married or whatever. Am I wrong?

I took the family life course three years in a row. The only thing you learn is about puberty and where kids come from, NOT that sex is for pleasure.

I'm not exactly saying waiting until you are married, but at least wait until you are able to handle the consquences!

I'm not saying all kids learn this stuff from their parents. I'm saying that they are learning this stuff from all of the media around them, too. I mean, look back into the fifties. I mean, Fred and Wilma Flinstone were the first couple sleeping in a bed together that were aired on Prime Television. Sure, there were teen pregnancies, but not as young as 13. (Unless you're Jerry Lee Lewis's wife...) And it wasn't as many, either. And I never said I was right...

To Anthony: No, I DON'T think I know everything. Did I EVER say I was right?! No, I don't think I did. I still have a lot of learning to do in my lifetime. When I post things like this, it is called having an OPINION and when I post an opinion, I learn from everybody else's opinion. Okay? I don' know everything, and I will be the first to say it, too.

To O H: You do have an EXTREMELY good point...

To O H: You do have an EXTREMELY good point...

I have no idea on how to fix it. Now all we can do is inform our children and pray to God that they won't have sex...

Answer 1

I beleive you are lacking some information so I have to disagree because yorue focus is too narrow.

Society is also to blame...

If a kid is going to get something they want, such as porno online, net nanny or whatever else is put into place will not stop them from getting waht they are after.

You go to school, you hang around with your friends and do other things when you are not in school... at your age group, how much changes ae going on in a persons life in such a short period of time?

Anyways, if these kids are so busy and are not spendind a lot of time with their parents because they are too 'square' or some other thing... how are your parents going to know what is going on?

For you to say that it is the parents fault is a biased argument.

Society has a greater pull on kids, they will listen to more stuff about hollywood 'stars' than listening to their parents...

You or your friends could probally give enough information to write an article in a encycloedia about Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton and Brittney Spears yet chances are you do not know what the 16 amendment is, nor do not know the capital of the 50 states, nor unlikely know where Trinadad and Silicy is on a geographical map or know what gneiss is and how it is formed and what it comes from.

The educational system is seriously outdated, that is also art of the problem.. If you go to school to learn, what are you learning there? Is it a social gathering and a place to keep kids out of trouble and to teach them to be the ultimate consumer when they reach the legal age of 18?

There are a lot of social problems, and you are just beginning to be aware of some of them....

Before you use a stereotypical argument that is from someone else, maybe you should look a bit more deeper and with logic, not emotion...

Emotional arguments do not hold weight...

Answer 2

i think that parents don't give there children enough information. allot of young ppl have these weird ideas about sex and how to get pregnant. i had a friend who thought that she could only get pregnant when she was on her period like a dog. she was like 12 or13 at the time. also i think that almost every child has walked in on there parents so what do they say then? however my parents never went on and on about it my mom explained it all to use in very accurate and technical terms and told us the risks and that it was normal but we should wait until we were married and why. we always knew that we could go to her for anything. and no one is going to buy that it is just for having kids what else would motivate there 15 year old cousin to get pregnant but some guy who isn't even there any more. i understand that your parents telling you about celebrating their love is creepy even the terminology is lol but if they didn't tell you you would still know. and telling a young person that these are feeling they are going to have and it is normal but explaining the risks etc is better than telling them that they will only want to do it when they are ready to have a baby, ok that isn't exactly what you said but that is how it would be interpreted.

Answer 3

In defense of the parents: Our culture (USA) is currently pretty saturated with information and talk and displays of sex and sexuality. Even a vigilant parent would have a pretty tough time keeping that information away from kids. Plus, many parents and grandparents (ages approximately 30-60) are reacting to the "sex is dirty, so keep it a secret" age that they or their parents grew up in. That resulted in a lot of people having great difficulty developing healthy sexual relationships in their marriages. So they sort of went overboard. That often happens when people are trying to correct for the errors of another generation. Fifty years ago, sex really was a secret from most kids. How do you keep it a secret without making it seem bad?
You can tell kids "it's just for having kids", but when you leave out the other part it presents a pretty weird picture.

Answer 4

your not completely wrong, but are a little bit off.
I saw all the teen prengancies on here and it broke my heart.
But its not entirely the parents fault. Sure parents could have done more to protect their kids and sure parents could have fought to protect their kids, but society is what polutes kids with these things. I mean you can't flip through the channels on your TV without Sex or something sexually immoral being promoted or blown up in your face.
Oh and yes parents can check their child's internet history, but their are many ways for kids to delete the internet history and I'm sure most kids know how.
At this point parents can't keep their kids from knowing about sex, and other things of that sort, but what parents should do is teach their kids good morals, and integrity, honor and self-respect. That's where parents really go wrong. They don't set good examples to their kids, and they don't protect their kids from sexual immorality.
BTW I'm 14.

Answer 5

I don't agree.
My parents never exposed me to it. My best friends parents never exposed her to it. And my parents never exposed my brother to it.

My best friend has a son, my brother has a son, my best friends brothers are both sex addicts.

It's just the world. I learned all about it from school. From students and some teachers as well.

My parents only went so far to say its for a man and woman after they are married. But when I was alone with my bfs, I really couldn't have cared less what my parents said about it.

NOTHING I have done can be blamed on my parents. They taught me right from wrong. Half the time, I just choose to do wrong. It's nobodies fault but my own. You can't always blame the parents for what the kids do. Whatever you do is your own fault, that's that.

Answer 6

You are right that kids get the information from the internet, friends, and their parents. I would hope the first point of contact would be from the parents, who may tell kids how sex is "about celebrating your love" but the parents should also tell their children about birth control so they know if they are going to do it, then to be protected.

Answer 7

I don't know, I was 16 when I first learned, and it was from an older boy.... So, I can't really blame my parents, websites or friends for that.

I'm 26 now and just hope that my son (when he is MUCH older) is smart enough to know the difference between what he sees on tv and what is real. All we can do as parents is what we feel is right for our children. What they choose to do with the knowledge we give them is up to them.

Answer 8

Sorry, but you are young and way off the mark. Parents NOT informing their kids about sex is the reason for teenage pregnancies. Every girl I know who got pregnant in middle school or high school had NEVER been told by her parents to use condoms or birth control. My mom was very open about such things and would tell me if I asked, or even if she thought I was heading that way with a boy, and I finished high school without any kids, as did all my other friends with honest, open, and unembarassed parents.

Girls AND boys need to know how their bodies work and how to protect themselves, and they need to get this information from a trustworthy source such as parents, doctora, or sex ed classes. If all 3 of these sources fail, they ask their friends, or see it on movies, or in the internet, and they think it looks/sounds cool and fun. Parents, on the other hand, can explain where babies come from and that you should respect and protect your body until you are ready for them. If I had a dollar for every girl on Y!A who comes on and asks "CAN I GET PREGNANT EVEN IF HE USES A CONDOM?" or "WHAT DAYS CAN I HAVE SEX AND NOT GET PREGNANT?" or "I HAD SEX WITH JOE ON THE 13TH AND JACK ON THE 15TH AND I'M ONLY 14 WHO IS MY BABY DADDY???" then I would retire early. If their parents explained this crap to them, or if they felt confortable talking to their paretns about sex, these girls would never need to ask these stupid questions to strangers, AFTER getting pregnant.

And actually, teen pregnancy and birth rates are at an all-time low, the lowest it's been since 1940. And I think it's because more parents are taking the initiative to talk to their kids rather than assuming their precious angels will never be in a sweaty situation in the backseat of a sports car on a Friday night.

Answer 9

you know, I agree with you that parents need to take a bigger role in supervising their teens behavior. BUT, unfortunately a persons child is also influenced by their friend's/boyfriend's parenting choices!

I grew up with fantastic parents. They were very involved in our lives and worked hard to teach us good values/morals. They would allow me to bring my boyfriend to our house (when I was 15) but we were never allowed in my bedroom or anywhere "private." They did an excellent job of supervising our behavior. HOWEVER, when I would go visit at my boyfriend's house, his mother would leave us home alone for hours!! She also routinely stocked one of his bathroom drawers with condoms "just in case." You can imagine the trouble this caused!

It has been my experience that parents of boys tend to be a lot more relaxed about teen relations (not saying this is always the case) My husband and I have two young sons and we have already discussed the ways we want to be involved in their lives to help prevent them from giving in to their teenage urges :)

Answer 10

a lot of kids learn about sex from their friends and sex ed. in school. Yes, part is parents fault for not teaching their kids that at any point you can get preggo or get someone preggo if you are not using protection. Pulling out doesn't work all the time either. I was one b.c. pills when i got preggo with my 1st child [i was married b4 i had sex too] i was on the depo shot when i got preggo with my second, stronger dose of b.c. pilss with my third child, nothing with my fourth, and the "supposed" strongest dose of b.c. pills [ortho 7/27/7] with my fifth. I'm now using the merina and lovin it... plus breastfeeding. :)