I just designed a tattoo to get on my upper back in memory of my girlfriend Jackie who passed away three weeks ago in a car crash. It is a heart with angel wings extending from the curved parts of it. It has barbed wire in an 'X' digging into the heart with a few drops of blood from it. There is a banner hanging over the heart with the date of the accident in fancy lettering. I have her name above the heart in fancy calligraphy. There is blooming rose with a stem and thorns underneath the heart. I want the heart and rose to be in red and the stem to be green and the banner and wings to be blue with all the lettering being black, assuming I have no allergic reactions to the colours. I want to know what people think of this idea, if it is too over the top, if it is gay, if it is going to be too crowded, etc. etc. Any input or ideas would be great. Thank you very much.
R.I.P. Jackie <3
2007-07-28 16:46:04 · 18 answers · asked by Misfitchild 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
I agree, it doesn't matter what others think of your tatt. What matters is what you think. It almost sounds as though you are having some reservations about the design though. I mean, why else would you be here asking for opinions, right?!
Ok, well here is my thought....... I agree somewhat with your first responder. This lady was your girlfriend. One day, you may have another lady in your life. It is very hard to live up to someone who is deceased. I know this from experience!!! Your new lady will already have problems trying to fill another woman's shoes, much less an 'angels' shoes. So, seeing this 'angels' name may be a constant reminder & not be so good for her self esteem.
My experience with tatt's is that.....when you get a memorial tatt & maybe just have the name or just the date or maybe neither, people will ask you what your tatt means. Then YOU can tell them of your beautiful Jackie, who is now an 'angel'.
I am wondering if you are trying to put too many things together. You don't want your tattoo to seem crowded or thrown together. Without seeing a pic, it is hard to tell.
As far as getting inked, well, go to a reputable artist. One who isn't afraid to let their 'expertise' help you with making your tattoo the best that it can be. Also, check, double check & triple check the lettering & dates. Once the ink is in the skin, there is no changing a mistake.
Make sure that you are not timid in telling the artist if there is something that you are not liking. Like colour. I made that mistake myself. I wasn't vocal enough about the colour I wanted. Now, it's a little too late to go back & change it now. Be prepared to sit for awhile. If you get all the things that you are wanting & depending on the size, it may be more than one sitting. The outline may be one sitting & the colour may be another sitting.
You will be sore, but the art is soooooo worth it. It will feel kind of like a bad sun burn. Be sure that you follow the artists instructions on how to care for your new tattoo. If you do not care for your new tattoo as instructed, you will not be happy with the results.
My sister went swimming a couple of days after getting her tatt & the colour faded really really bad. You pay a lot of money for a good tattoo & if you take care of it, you will get many many many years of enjoyment from it. I hope this helps.
I am sorry for the loss that you have recently experienced in your life. The pain does get easier as time goes on. It is a fresh wound right now, and may seem to be a never ending pain, but it will get better...............with tomorrow's tomorow's. Keep your chin up & continue to live. Jackie would have wanted it that way. She would have wanted you to go on....... for her.
Be blessed friend. I will keep you in my prayers. :)
2007-07-28 17:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by blessed&lovingit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like it. Personally, I would just get the heart wings and words.. i think the rose would be a little much.
Memorial tattoos are very personal. Ignore the person that said "your future girlfriend won't like it." Personally, if you told me the meaning of the tattoo, i wouldn't care that you had another woman's name on you. It's a good reason. There are a few women that might care, so you might consider getting the date of the accident alone and not her name. Just a suggestion.
Make sure you go to a really good artist so it will look beautiful.
2007-07-28 17:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rose 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tattoos are personal and a memorial tattoo is even more personal. If you like the design and think that your girlfriend would have liked it, then you should do it. If a future girlfriend cannot accept that this person was once a very special part of your life, then perhaps she isn't worth dating. After all, this is not an ex-girlfriend where she may be jealous. This person has passed away and you want something to remember her by. There should be no reason for jealousy.
2007-07-28 17:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by M3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you want to do it & I think that is great. But maybe only put the date & not her name...
I know right now the last thing you care about is another girl, but Im sure you will date again, now or later. No one can replace her, but for another to always look @ your tattoo & see her name? It may make them feel like they have to live up to someone they can never be for you?
I really LOVE the way you drew it up. I would do it bright no matter what colors you do. Make it happy to honnor how she made you feel alive & full of love, rather then dark & sad. If you get the right artist, it will not look cluttered. Dont be shy to ask the artist what they think of it, but let them know how much it means to you. You may both come up with something that really makes it stand out to you even more...
As your tattoos heals... I hope that so too does your heart... Im sorry for your loss... <3
2007-07-28 17:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Raven Punk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not do it. When you find someone else someday, is will be too weird. Maybe start a ritual of something like bring flowers to the cemetery once a week or on certain dates, go somewhere you two used to love to go to, take a good buddy and reminisce. If you really really are set on getting a tattoo to remind you of this time in your life, why not get something that is a symbol for her- for ex. if she was into baseball, get a bat ( not a very good example, but you get my point right?) This way, if you need to change the story to an important woman in your life further down the road it will be easier to do. Good luck buddy and sorry about the loss
2007-07-28 17:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by hawk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm sorry for your loss. until you SEE the tattoo on a stencil, there is no way of really knowing if it's too crowded or not. it seems to be a good layout, but if you get it drawn up, you'll have a better understanding of it. if that is what you want to incorporate into a memorial tat, don't let anyone tell you differently. good luck, and make sure you take care of yourself.
"hawk"-this person was very important to him. why would he have to CHANGE his story just to make some other girl happy? tattoos are done for a part of your life, good or bad, and she was special to him. any future person in his life needs to be ok with that, or not be in his life.
2007-07-28 18:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, bump what anyone else thinks. That was your HEART! If you want to get a memorial, MAKE SURE you check the stencil for correct spelling/correct dates BEFORE you start getting inked. If your spelling isn't that great, bring someone with you who aces every spelling test he/she has ever taken, as far as you know. It does not sound "too crowded" but it does sound like it will take more than one visit to complete it.
I second your RIP Jackie. I am so very sorry for your loss. You will feel some closure when you get this tattoo completed. I am almost sure of it.
Peace.
2007-07-28 16:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off I am sorry for your loss. If this is what you want to remember her then do it. It sounds nice.Except I would put her date of birth and date of death. Pay no attention to what others have to say after all you are the one who has to live with it.
2007-07-29 15:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by froglover_mh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my sister's boyfriend died, alot of his friends got tattoos.But this was a romantic relationship. Personally, to avoid any future jealousy, I think you should get her initials instead. For one thing, people are going to see it is so pretty, they are going to think she's currently alive and ask if it your wife,etc. It's going to be painful when people make such an assumption. Getting the initials allows it to be more private and gives you opportunity to avoid uncomfortable situations.
2007-07-28 16:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by B.B. 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a cool idea just be sure--on the rose I would use her favorite color that way it wouldn't be too much red unless you want the rose red
2007-07-28 16:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Amy D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋