Lately, he's been treating me like i'm worthless. He's acting to immature I just don't know what to do anymore.
I want to break up with him, but then again I don't for the times he does treat me right. I know that probably sounds bad but I don't know anymore.
My question is, how can I break up with him without it tearing me down? Somehow he always finds a way back. I know a deserve better but I don't know what to do. I'm wondering when I do this, how he will react. He's bi-polar and ADHD. Sometimes he just goes crazy and he will make me feel bad for everything. He'll spread lies about me and get many people to hate me. I'm thinking that's another reason why i'm still with him. I guess I'm immature on that part too.. I'm just kind of scared.
What should I do?
2007-07-28 16:27:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is treating you this way now, what makes you think he will ever treat you any better? You say that sometimes he is nice to you and that makes you feel great, but WHEN are those times? When you want it, or when it is convenient for him?
He is making the whole relationship and you are just the passenger.
Time to take control of your own life.
Collect all his gifts or whatever in a bag and arrange to meet him at a cafe or some neutral, public place. Give them to him and say that you will always value him as a friend, but you don't think now is a good time for a relationship for you, and it's all over.
Make sure you don't make any promises that maybe you can get back together.
If you are afraid of his reaction (physical violence, etc), make sure you are in a public place and maybe have some friends standing by.
Try not to get into a dialogue, just walk out.
This is a hard thing to do, and waiting until he is even more attached to you will not make it easier.
And if he spreads lies about you ~ so what? As long as YOU know the truth ~ and so does he, lies can't really hurt you, can they? Tell your friends you fear he will try to do this, so they will know what to say if anyone repeats any gossip to them, and then hold your head high.
Best wishes and good luck :-)
2007-07-28 16:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, since he is bipolar. Just because he is ok sometimes doesnt mean you have to put up with him being a jerk all the other times. If you are already thinking about breaking up with him, it sounds like you aren't happy. Try something like, your grades are suffering because of the relationship, or that you are getting in trouble with your parents, or even that you dont think you are good enough for him and that he deserves better. I've used those before. usually it is easier to make the dumpee feel more confidant before you break up with them
2007-07-28 23:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by shortyj04 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are dating my ex!!! Run like hell and dont give a crap what he tells other people. Thats childish. Don't settle for that or whatever else he will do. People who are like that are all over the place. Their feelings change on a daily basis....Its a dangerous kind of love, trust me Ive been there and done it all...What happened to me is that I finally had enough of his mind games, blaming me for everything, and acting as I was worthless...I left oneday and never went back. He never heard from me again and that was 4 months ago. He is still texting me and sending me emails but i dont respond. It still hurts but it would hurt worst if I had to deal with that for years to come. Look at it this way, if you leave him he could never hurt you again!!! Good luck!
2007-07-28 23:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kit Katt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to know that you are NOT worthless. Even if there are times that he treats you right, the bad times out weigh them. No guy should ever treat you that way, and then adding his conditions to the mixture makes things worse. You shouldn't be worried about what other people think about you...if people are your friends, then they will seek to find out the truth themselves. If not, then their not worth your time anyways. You need to get yourself out of this bad situation before things get even worse. I'm sure it will hurt, but it will only hurt more if things linger on and he makes you feel worse about yourself. Talk to your parents for guidance. Remember, they are there to help you. Good luck,and always remember, you deserve to be happy!
2007-07-28 23:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by icantfindaname_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a victim of "emotional blackmail" from a childish guy.You should make a way to resist it.You are only wasting time to continue relationship with him.Believe me there is still a nice guy left in this world.I was also a victim just like you.Separate from him opens new world for you.I found another guy and we are happily married now.
2007-07-28 23:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just send him a link to this question and then he can see how you really feel. He'll be able to see that you're actually reaching out to strangers for relationship help because the problems he is causing are so bad.
2007-07-28 23:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Snicker_Doodle8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him down easy, just say that you are tired of that relationship and it is just dragging on....chances are he has already thought and planning on breaking up with you because he has already started treating you like crap. My ex did that to me and i didn't get the hint so it went on for 5 mon and when he did break it off, i was shocked and so hurt....so beat him to it girl....YOU ROCK!! Don't be scared, if you are afraid he might do something rash, do it on the phone. just do not do it through a friend.
2007-07-28 23:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by i am info 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't hit rock bottom. Because if you did hit rock bottom, you would have done something about this immediately, regardless the lies that he'll spread.
You have a choice:
Do you want to be treated with respect or not?
If you want to be treated with respect, you know what you have to do.
2007-07-28 23:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the the signs of an imminent break-up is when he starts picking fights with you for no reason. It means he no longer has anything to lose. I know it may hurt...but I also don't know if there any protection from that.
2007-07-28 23:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ray C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turn around and run away and don't look back. If he is acting that way, then he doesn't care enough about himself to be taking his meds, so how much can he really care about you?
2007-07-28 23:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by Tom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋