What's wrong with my mother?

Question

my moms been being a real b**** lately. and i think it has something to do with this guy she met at work & all the weight she's been losing. like she's soo mean .. like just about 20 min. ago me, my aunt, and her were all outside sitting around a bonfire & my mom ask me to roast her a marshmellow just bcuz she was 2 lazy to get up. & and i had a bowl of french fries in my hand, well i couldnt handle both things at once so i dropped her marshmello in2 the fire & she got really pissed at me and knocked the bowl of french fries from my hand & in2 the bushes. & thats just one of the things she's done to me over the past few months. dumb stuff like this happens almost everyday & some of it even envolves hitting and slapping & name calling. my moms always had kind of a mean streak but this is the worst shes been in a while she acts like shes the only 1 in the whole world thats ever lost a few pounds & the guy she met at work doesnt even like her shes just chasing after him & scaring him away

Answer 1

your mother might have some unresolved life problems.

when we don't tend to our issues, and try to resolve them, we end up holding everything inside and feeling like crap.

it's NOT your fault -- it's your mother's for not facing or taking care of her issues.

everyone has problems -- some ignore them... this is what you get -- mean!

hugs

Answer 2

You're mother is insecure and doesn't know where to turn. She's stressed, maybe even physically strained and struggling to be loved. What's the best thing you can do? Love her more!

Be on your best behavior, don't get frustrated with her (or at least don't show it) do whatever she wants and more besides!

If she comes in feeling irritable, bring her a cup of hot chocolate or her favorite tea. If she refuses it, offer a foot massage instead. Be as kind and gentle as you can.

Gently hug her or tell her you love her often. If she needs something, do it for her! Wish her the best in everything, and if she refuses your efforts, just smile and go about your business.

Good luck!

WARNING: If she is physically abusing you or slapping you, get to a counselor or tell someone you trust!

Answer 3

Sounds like your mom has self-esteem issues and is taking her anger out on you. If she hits you, you need to call the police. I know that this might not solve things, but she needs to know that it isn't acceptable behaviour. Sounds as if she is having child-like temper tantrums. Many people experience personality changes when their appearance changes dramatically. She may not be comfortable in her own "skin".

Another possibility is that she is having some mental health problems. Either way, you need adult intervention. If your aunt is witnessing this behaviour, is she someone that you could talk to about this? Maybe a school counsellor could help. You don't need to be a victim.

I truly hope that this isn't something that continues. Remember, you do not deserve to be hit. It is hard to walk around on egg shells all the time when you are in fear of your own mother.

Good luck with this.

Answer 4

She sounds depressed, believe it or not.

Talk to her too and tell her your concerns just like you did here. It's scary but the worst thing that she can do is not believe you, right?

If she doesn't listen, talk to your aunt about your concerns. If she starts slapping you again, you have to tell someone at school.

The important thing is to be brave AND loving. You can do this.

God bless