Hi all. My friend is getting married on October 14th of this year. My boyfriend and I are good friends with both the bride and groom. I am one of her bridesmaids and I was wondering, at the reception will I sit with the bridal party or can I sit next to him. We don't really know anyone else going to the wedding so if I'm with them he'll be alone. Do you think they'll let me sit next to him or him with us? I don't know how formal the wedding is but they're young and I know they don't have a big budget so prob not that formal. What do you guys think? Anyone ever been in the same situation?
2007-07-28 14:30:27 · 9 answers · asked by Jessica 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just so you all know my bf and I have been dating for a year and a half which is actually longer than the bride and groom have been together. Just didn't want you all thinkig he's some new bf. Thanks :)
2007-07-28 14:44:05 · update #1
i would ask her. all wedding receptions are different, some have bridal tables and others have sweet heart tables (just the couple).
but it will be okay if you are at the bridal table. you do not have to sit there all night. just until dinner is done. :)
2007-07-28 14:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's a question of whether they choose to have a head table at the reception. In that case, no, you'd almost certainly be seated separately. Dates are not usually included at the head table.
If he's nervous about sitting alone with strangers, tell him not to worry. Remind him that it's very easy to start a conversation at a wedding reception, because everyone has something in common: they've just attended the same wedding. Saying something about how lovely the bride looked or how nice the music was is a quick way to get everyone talking happily. Also, most people enjoy talking about themselves, so he can ask them about what they do, how they know the happy couple...nearly anything. Chances are he won't have to say very much for a while.
And once dinner is over and the dancing begins, you can go rescue him. Who knows? By that time he may have made a couple friends.
But it may be possible that your friend will take pity on you both and invite him to sit at the head table. It's not common and shouldn't be expected, but it's possible that she'll think of that. It's also possible - though not at all common - that your friend may skip having a head table. I did. As I say, it's rare, but every once in a blue moon some bride makes that choice.
Whatever happens, though, try to relax. Dinner won't last more than an hour, and then you and he can spend a bit of time together.
2007-07-28 21:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the only way you would know is ask the bride and groom how they are planning the seating arrangments.
You can ask them since you two are dating and going together, if you two can be seated together at the reception. Asking won't hurt.
They might have a "sit where you want" seating or they might have it formal (seating arrangments). I have been to both types of receptions myself. After awhile, people mingle around anyways to talk and all. So, even if seated away from eachother, there is no rule that you two can not sit with eachother after the lunch/dinner etc.
But I imagine the bride and groom would take your dating into consideration to their seating arrangments, if any. :)
2007-07-28 21:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seating charts fro the reception are the hardest part in my opinion.
If they are having a traditional head table with the whole bridal party it will look kind of funny having your bf there too. So maybe they can sit him at a table close to you.
If they are having a sweetheart table (head table for the bride and groom only) then you can probably have him sit with you.
It doesn't hurt to ask, but if it doesn't work out, don't worry becaus ehe wll only have to sit at the table until after you eat, then everyone moves around anywya and you can go sit with him or vice versa. Plus I am sure whoever he sits with will be nice. Maybe you can help her witht he seating chart and then you can let him know in advance who he will sit with.
Don't worry i am sure it will work out!
2007-07-28 22:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the bridal party sits at the head table with the bride and groom, and spouses and bfs don't sit there too. Your bf is on his own for the dinner, and you will be able to rejoin him after the duty dances are over at the beginning of the dance.
2007-07-29 08:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the bride and groom and how they do the seating.
They may want the wedding party to sit with them at the table and without their significant others.
They may want the wedding party and their SO's to sit with them at one table.
They may have a table for just the bride and groom and then separate tables for the wedding party and their SO's.
So, I would discuss it with the bride and groom.
2007-07-28 21:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask them. Most of the time, the bridal party sits with the newlyweds. Maybe they can put him at a table right next to yours. That's part of the bargain when you're in the wedding party!
2007-07-28 21:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will sit at the wedding party table for the meal and your boyfriend will not have a seat there. It is a very short period of time .... then you can hang out with your man for the rest of the night.
Good luck!
2007-07-28 21:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....tricky question. just asked your friend if he can sit with you since you guys dont know very many people if shes your friend she'll understand. but he will be alone considering that you and the bride and the party will be taking alot of pictures. but just ask that cant hurt.
2007-07-28 22:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by Linda B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋