I am a 50 years old lady. A 17 year old boy wants to sleep with me. Should I go for it?

Question

he is keen and wants a relationship. He said I am like a motherhe never had. I started off doing his housework and getting paid for it. One day he told me he loved me and wanted to take it further. He has no family. Am I taking advantage. I feel guilt about it.

Answer 1

Oh baby, you wrote about me. Yes, I am in love with you and I do want to sleep with you. You are the only one for me. I know you say I need to get out more but it's you I want.

Answer 2

Please tell me this is a joke question. No don't go for it. Of course it is super flattering and seems like fun, but you have to think of him. At 50 I would hope you would have enough maturity to know that 17 year olds are not emotionally or hormonally stable. It's not that he just wants sex if he said he loves you its a whole different picture to him. Do you in anyway think its normal for him to tell you that you are like the mother he never had and in the next sentence want to sleep with you. If he has no family, he must be lonely, confused, feel left out. And whatever emotions he is feeling for you, you should not take advantage of. Sure you feel guilty about it. It's wrong and you know it. If you have any feelings or compassion for him, be like a mother figure for him, help guide him towards activities suited for a 17 year old. And towards a 17 year old girl, not a 50 year old one. Come on, if this is real at all, listen to your conscience. I know you have one.

Answer 3

okay I am sorry if I disapoint you, but I'm the kid's age and I know for a fact that pretty much any guy his age would do anything to sleep with anyone (especially an older woman). I have been told by guys that they "loved me", and I later found out that the only reason they said so was because they wanted me in bed with them. they would have taken any girl. and neither of them are virgins, nor were they before they said things to me.
anyway, that's besides the point. I've known too many guys in the age group. I very much believe he'll use you, then leave you, possibly even abuse.
I'm really sorry to have to say something like this. but I hope it helps.
perhaps you should try to find someone your age. find someone you love, rather than wasting things like that on a younger kid who is just going to take advantage of you in the end.

Answer 4

First and foremost, WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU, LADY? Just even thinking about sleeping with an underage boy, and I stress BOY, not even a man yet. And by law, its called "statutory rape" should you go through with this, and both of you would be in serious and legal trouble. I have a friend who works for the FBI and I study criminology and you could be reported for this. I want you to read the following quotations regarding statutory rape:

"Where a jurisdiction's age of consent laws for sexual activity treat those convicted of those laws with the same severity as criminal rape the law is often referred to as statutory rape. This is an emotive title to some who view the age of consent laws as lesser crimes or as no crime at all. The different titles of age of consent laws include statutory rape, rape of a child, corruption of a minor, carnal knowledge of a minor and so on. However, in the vernacular many of these terms are interchangeable and little differentiation is made."

Basically, I would suggest since you said that this boy said to you that you're like the mother he never had. I suggest TREAT HIM LIKE A SON, and I MEAN SON, not a sexual playtoy, because if you don't you WILL face legal consequences.

Answer 5

If in your state the age of consent is 18, then you may get into legal trouble. But realistically, do you think that will really happen?

If the law in your state is 16, you can do what you want.

If you want him and he wants you, and you both understand what getting into a sexual relationship may mean with someone where the age difference is vast, and you both accept it, then go to town!!

It doesn't matter what all these kids on here think, going EEEEWWW!!! and all that, (most of them probably aren't over 15),

Its not like a 50 year old man going to bed with a naive, easily manipulated 17 year old high school girl.

The 17 year old kid knows what he wants, and alot of 17 year old guys these days are doing it, getting their girlfriends pregnant and spreading diseases. I don't think him spending time with you will lead to consequences nearly as severe as that.

Answer 6

Since your putting the roof over his head, having sex, cooking
and cleaning for him, and washing his clothes, and is using
your car. Don't you think you are being "USED."
Ask about getting married before he moves in with you, and
see how fast he runs.
Then ask him to pay all the bills and mow that big lawn you
have, since you clean the house and do all the cooking.
You are the mother he never had alright. His mother threw
him out. That is why he has no family, so to speak.
If he moves in with you then he figures he don't have to pay
you to do what you are doing now. Plus i'll bet your buying the
"beer. Am I right?
By law, you can't have sex with a 17 year old. That would be
"statitory rape."
He is taking advantage of "you," and is "making" you feel
guilty about it.
There is a big difference between a "relationship" and just
"freeloading."
You are being used Dooby. Don't fall for it.

Answer 7

Wait until he's 18 then go for it! But be prepared for
a) him to become very attached and want a serious relationship
b) him to ditch you for the next girl that comes along and shows him a little love and attention

Whichever the case you have to make the best out of the moment and be okay with whatever he decides!

Answer 8

Ok wait... you're like the mother he never had? Does he think boys should be sleeping with their mothers? Am I reading this wrong?

Ok- you're 50, he's what- 17 (underage)? He sounds souds like he's had a troubled childhood, no family. And you're asking if you are taking advantage????? Ya think!!!???????

Wouldn't the rational thing to do (considering you are 50), would be to set him straight, offer kindness and direction to this young man? Do you not think that this is actually what he is missing/needing? And that he is confusing one thing with another?

Answer 9

Guilty pleasure is what you are focusing on. Get over it. You are an adult. Leave this young man alone. Help him gain the confidence he needs to develop relationships with other young people. Then, after you have seen this fledgling off on making his own life- which is the job of every parent (you say you are a mother figure) start working on yourself. You need meaningful, healthy, companionship, too.

Answer 10

Well hello " Mrs Robinson" ! The fact that the boy says you are like the mother he's never had should set off the alarm bells not to mention the police sirens as 17 in your country it is most likely that he is still deemed a minor. Be a friend, encourage him to make friends his own age.