Do you think kids who are not physically punished when little turn out to be brats?

Question

When I was a kid and I did something really stupid, I got my @ss kicked. Many of my friends got their @ss kicked to when they were kids and they turned out to be really smart and successfull people. Even though I got hit with a wooden spool on my hands, @ss, back of my legs, and hands, I thank my parents for that. If they didn't do that I would have probably turned out to be totally different. I'm not being racist here, but it seems like white kids are the biggest brats, and my theory is because the parents don't punish them properly. I know many of you will disagree with me, but with what I've experienced its really helped me in the longrun, your thoughts?

Also I was in no way child abused, I just got punished physically when it was neccessary.

Answer 1

personally i do not think "time outs" work. i have seen mothers and fathers in stores, promising their kids something if they are good. in my day, we were told "behave or else!!!" we were not rewarded for doing what we were suppose to.

spanking does a kid good, when it is necessary and brief. it means you mean business.

Answer 2

While I don't have a problem with spanking as a disciplinary took, I don't think whether the child is spanked alone determines if they behave properly or not. It is a matter of getting both discipline and love. I was spanked as a child in what looking back I think was a reasonable manner, but I also got a lot of love and encouragement too. I knew others who were spanked similarly but did not get the love in the same way and I don't think it did them much good. Like any tool spanking can be used correctly or abused. And if other disciplinary tools work, and are accompanied by the love, I think kids can be raised successfully too. What it seems sometimes to me is that some parents, in thinking that spanking is wrong, have gone to the other extreme and give their children no discipline at all. That is when you get the brats I believe. I believe children need discipline and to know their limits, and I think children know this too, even if they wouldn't admit that.

Answer 3

You know it really makes me mad that parents cant punish their own children these days without being considered Child Abusers. Yes, if u dont spank ur kids, they are never going to learn, u can only tell a 4 yearold not to jump on the couch so many times with a please. Parents that say please need a kick in the teeth. You get a different response with a please than u do with a DO IT. Time out is some of the biggest crap ever. I have never once learned a lesson from sitting in time out. i learned fast when my dad spanked my *** though. I can handle sitting alone for 20 min. but i dont want to be spanked so i dont do what i did before. spanking a kid is the basis of putting in the head that there are consequences for peoples actions that if u do wrong u get punished, not just put aside for a few minutes. SPANK YOUR KIDS, BUT NEVER SPANK OUT OF ANGER.

Answer 4

Children without boundaries and discipline can turn into brats! Although I find it's important to discipline kids, spanking is not the ultimate answer. To some kids spanking is worse because they understand love through physical touch, to others it doesn't matter. Each child is different and different things work for each. For my son, now 14, spanking was not an option because he is the child who understands love through physical touch. To him, spanking was like telling him I didn't love him. Time outs, logic, and natural consequences worked well with him. For my daughter, now 4, a swat with a wooden spoon is sometimes a must. She is a whole different personality who feels love most through gifts.

A couple great books that helped me understand how to best discipline each of my children so they receive the greatest benefit are "Parenting with Love and Logic" and "The Five Love Languages of Children."

Answer 5

No, I don't. My children are not physically punished and they don't act like brats, on the other hand I know kids that get the hell beat out of them that turn out to be gang members, drug dealers, etc. I work in education and I see it all.

The problem isn't whether or not children are physically punished...it's are they made to listen and follow rules/directions on a cosistent basis.

I know a lot of children (and adults) that didn't have their @ss beat, hit with wooden spoons or anything else of the like and they turned out to be respectable citizens and smart people.

It's not how much you spank the child that determines how they will end up. It's how much nuturing, love and guidelines you show them. Time outs may not work for all children, but the do work, if you are consistent with them and follow through.

BTW: not only is beating a child's @ss considered child abuse....but ANY mark you leave on a child is considered child abuse, so for those of you that think it's okay to slap your child, beat them with wooden spoons, smack their @ss, etc.....enjoy it while it lasts because if they turn you in for it, you will be sitting behind bars!

Answer 6

Its called discipline, this is teaching kids consequences for their actions. Taking away privileges for wrong behavior and rewarding good once work. physical punishment is discourage simply because some parent punish their kid when they are in rage and makes it easy to cross the lines between discipline and abuse.

Why time outs fail is because consistency is not follow. And they are also many factors that contribute to a kids behavior. Some with learning disabilities and others factors. Kids are very difficult to deal with and their is never a one method fits all. I find it to be very frustrating sometimes.

Answer 7

Honey I totally agree with you, those whoopings lol kept me and my brothers out of jail, my parents never had to come up to the school because we were in trouble, and we all had a wonderful relationship with our parents. Most children are spoiled because you have parents who want to be their friends instead of a parent, or they dont want to raise their kids the way they were raised, or they are stuck on giving those kids choices. Choices are fine when they are in their teens. You cannot ask two year old "Jimmy" is he ready for bed, you know he is going to say NO. Instead you tell two year old Jimmy it is time for bed. The Bible says that if you spare the rod, you spoil the child. Raised two children myself, they are now grown, they got whoopings, never been in Jail. And to the person who responded about getting spanked leads to drugs drug dealers, and gang bangers, they come in all colors, did my intern in a prison. Most of them stated if they had been spanked when they were younger they would not be in prison. I have a very good relationship with my children, Oldest works for Homeland and Security, Youngest Is a United States Marine. They thank me to this day for the whoopings.
SO THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH SPANKINGS, WHOOPINGS, OR THE SPOON, IT IS WHEN YOU TAKE IT OUT OF CONTEXT THEN ITS WRONG

Answer 8

Yes. I'm also completely opposed to beating or hurting children, but a paddling on the rear end calms the child down and takes the heat out of a situation. The present climate of opinion, in which any sort of spanking is construed as "violence" or even as "abuse" makes it very hard to bring up children sensibly.

Answer 9

i didn't hit my kids often, but they did get a whack on the butt from time to time.

the thing i found most helpful was to teach them respect. i respected them FIRST and they learned very quickly.

when they did something wrong, we talked about it... umm having to sit at the kitchen table and let me know they felt about what they did wrong was a fate worse than a whippin'!

i punished them by restricting something for a week or so.

my kids weren't heathens, but they weren't perfect. today, they are both grown and are respectful guys.

i think they had their "bratty" moments, but not around me!

on the other hand i was beaten regularly, and verbally, emotionally and sexually abused. it really had an emotionally distressing impact on me, which is probably why i didn't spank my kids...

take care.

Answer 10

As a convience store clerk in Las vegas,NV, Salt Lake City,UT, and Nashville TN, I found the kids and teenagers in Salt Lake City extremely rude and arrogant compared to the ones in Las Vegas and Nashville. Then someone told me that in Salt Lake City, the parents tended not to spank their kids, but punished them in other ways. The person who told me that was from Salt Lake.

I found the following quote rather interesting;

Raise your kid and spoil your grandchrildren, or
spoil you kids and raise your grandchrildren.

Answer 11

I work at a daycare and you can tell who is getting punished at home and who isn't. The kids that do are more respectful and have more common sense. The ones that weren't punished are spoiled rude and don't care if your going to "tell mommy".