We have a child together and one on the way....????

Question

But I feel like I'm being blamed for splitting us apart ....I did go through depression after finding out I was preggs again, mostly due to the fact that my partner wasn't quite supportive/loving with the prior pregnancy. In short, I freaked, I was scared and so I avoided him for a few months....now it's too late? Is there no possible chance for being together as a family now? I mean, he doesn't have a job or a car, not like I want him for his material value....I should at least go for child support....kinda answering my own q here....

Too clarify...we never lived together, he still lives with his parents, he is 31 now...

I don't want him in my children's lives if we can't work things out between the pair of us. And I will do whatever I have to because one day I will meet someone else who will be happy to be a father to my babies. Then the spermdonor can live happily ever after with his mommy....


Hmmm....I am bitter, I need to move on!

Answer 1

First off, those babies are priceless. You need to act like it and live like it.

Second, those babies and YOU are priceless. He needs to act like it. And if wont, someone else will. You need to live and act like it.

Third. Curb his butt, get child support, and move on. You are not some poor victim of life, you a strong woman who gave an uncaring man two wonderful children, you created life, birthed it, and will nurture it until its self sufficient. All he can do is lift heavy things. You are a goddess. And, youre unstoppable when you put your mind to it. Do what it takes to raise those babies and stop for nothing short of whats good and right. If it means doing that without him, fine. But he DOES owe those children his support.

Its not the life you expected or planned, but take it and mold it into what you do want. If you want a better man, find a father for those babies. There are good men out there who want to love and raise kids. So go to where they are. Theyre not in bars or on the street.

You'll be fine momma. Pick yourself up and get with it. There is no you, there is baby one and baby two and your life poured out for them. Its a beautiful thing.

Answer 2

You never live together. Now you're having the second baby!

Why are you wasting time with someone who doesn't want to marry you nor wants to leave his parents (his mama) for you?

No more sex with him, ever again because he won't change. You never had a real relationship to start off in the first place.

Either you blind and a fool or you're desperate to have children- knowningly that he is completely useless.

Answer 3

oh gosh girl we have alot in common, im probably splitting with mine, im 12 weeks (3 months) and things simply suck, i get the blame for everything and well i just cant deal, we have 2 together already and i feel that things went bad with my second. I so wish i could just walk away, but i depend on mine, were married, just bought a house, i cant manage alone with all of it, if only i had money though i would be gone in a second!

Answer 4

There is no possibility if he is not willing to try. Action speaks louder than words... the fact that he didn't help w/ the first kid is a real good indication that he's not going to help w/ the second. Please don't have a 3rd by this guy unless he makes a complete 180! Good luck w/ 2 kids - I know it can be hard for a single mom.

Answer 5

I don't think you gave enough information to really get any advice/answers. However if you are broken up then I would at least be sure that you two work out if and what parental rights he wants, just to be on the safe side for you and your children's future.

Answer 6

Now you will learn that sex is not everything it is cracked up to be! Now a child will be brought into this world, when in reality, they were not really wanted. Way too Go ! Like there is not enough of them already!!!!!