If you stay at home ALL day everyday with a 20mon. old and a 2mon. old and your husband gets off of work and instead of coming home to be with his family decides to go to a party, held for a family member that he barely knows. How would you feel? I'm so upset he won't bother with the children because he's always so tired but he's not too tired to go and party.
2007-07-28 13:10:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
GRRRRR, I'm angry for you! Whew! Now exhale. Relax and as hard as it is, try and put yourself in his shoes. Mothers, unfortunately take a hit when it comes to spending the most time with the kids. Dads just automatically assume thats our job, assume we love it (we do, but we need breaks too!), and sometimes they really don't understand how hard it is on us. Also men think differently than we do, they always seem to get energy for the things that they want to do, try not to take it personally. Especially if this is something that he doesnt make a habit of doing. If this is regular behavior, you need to speak on it, and let him know its unacceptable. If its just this once, I understand you being ticked, but stay calm and just tell him that you were tired too, you may have liked to have gone, and maybe you all could have gotten a sitter and gone together. Let him know that you need time out too, or at least more assistance with the kids on a regular basis.
2007-07-28 13:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by CompletelyClueless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok here is what you do set up a time to go with your friends, ok be in your robe when he walks in the door and a scarf on your head, but under the robe and scarf have a outfit on and your hair done, and have your purse on the counter with all your make up in it, ok then before all of this write a note, and tape it to the door when you leave out without him knowing it, have the kids sleep when you leave, let him hear you leave out, on the note it should say its your turn to be with the kids and I am going out to have a little fun, I will call you in 30 min, so dont call me I am not answering and have your car or have your girlfriend waiting around the corner from your house and go out and have fun, stiff him with the kids, and dont feel bad about it, and explain to him why you did it, and how unfair it is to leave you alone with the kids and party and tell him next time you too need a date and have fun, and you love him, take care, and have fun. P.S= but dont keep doing it, just this once, just to get your point across, if you keep doing it this will be seen as childish and disrepect, but one time its funny and a great point maker.
2007-07-28 21:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed. I have a 2yr old and a 7 month old and am a stay at home mom. My hubby may not do much when he gets home after a 12hr shift, but at least he is home with us. You need to lay down the law girl!
2007-07-28 20:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he goes out all the time and ignores you and your children, then you probably have good reason to feel upset and hurt.
if this isn't a habit, then i'd let it go.
course, it's up to you.
take care.
2007-07-28 20:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell it to him straight
2007-07-28 20:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Alucard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋